Manner Monday®: Finger Bowls

Finger Bowls are rarely seen today in a formal environment – but if you are are ever presented with this old-fashioned ritual, I want to make sure you know what to do.

Their purpose is to help diners clean their fingers after a course that may have been a little more ‘hands-on’, such as lobster, clams, or corn on the cob.

Let’s ‘dive in’ to the do’s and don’ts of the Finger Bowl:

  • Don’t use your spoon – it’s not soup!  It may look like a soup, but it’s just lukewarm water.  Often you will see flower petals floating (this is another giveaway that it’s not soup).
  • No Splashing.  Be gentle, we’re not at the water-park.  Gently dip fingertips, one hand at a time, into the bowl, using your napkin to dab them dry.
  • It’s not a bath. If you would like to gently dab your lips/mouth, do so discreetly – don’t proceed with a self-administered facial.
  • Clear the path.  Once you’re finished with your Finger Bowl, carefully pick it up along with the doily (the fancy white thing that was positioned underneath the bowl and on top of the service plate) and move them both to the left of your plate for the waiter to collect (your drinks and coffee cup will be on the right leaving no room on that side).  The empty plate that remains will now serve as a charger for your plated dessert.

Modern Version – Warm Wet Washcloths.  This is a popular variation that serves the same purpose. The same rules above still apply. Some restaurants provide warm washcloths before the meal is served, others offer them at the end of the meal.  Either way, it’s a nice touch of hospitality.

In other news….

Early Bird Registration for the 5-8th grade programs is openClick here to register.

  • Save $100 by registering now for a single season.
  • Or save $364 by taking advantage of the Multi-Season Discount.


Business Etiquette Training:  
Executive Presence Master Class Coming Soon 

In response to the many requests for Business Etiquette and Professionalism Training, I’m working on the final details for an ‘Executive Presence Master Class’ that will be announced soon.
Do you know of a young professional who could benefit from participation?
Classes are scheduled to begin March 10. … stay tuned…

In the meantime, Click Here to access the Business Section of the website.
Or please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

 

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

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Early Bird Registration is Open for 2015-2016

http://www.careysuevega.com/uncategorized/early-bird-registration-is-open-for-2015-2016 Three Big Announcements

  • Early Bird Registration (savings of $100 before March 1)
  • Multi-Season Discount (savings of $364 before March 1)
  • Executive Presence Master Class coming soon for adults

 

Friends and Family Early Bird Registration Discount is available
Registration Information for 5th-8th Grades for 2015-2016 Season

  • Early Bird Saves $100 = $347 (before March 1) (Regular Tuition = $447)
  • If you prefer to make payments, you can secure your space with a $100 deposit.

Click here to register now and take advantage of the Early Bird savings!

 

Multi-Season Discount
You’ve asked and we have listened!  We now offer a multi-sesason discount to families who would like to register a child for three consecutive years in the program.  As each season builds on the previous; maximum benefits are achieved by continued exposure for a minimum of three years (many students participate for 8 consecutive years).

  • Multi-Season Discount = $977 (before March 1) A savings of $364 off Regular Tuition.  (This is for one child, for three consecutive seasons.)

Click here to register now and take advantage of the Multi-Season Discount!

 

Executive Presence Master Class Coming Soon 
In response to the many requests for Business Etiquette and Professionalism Training, I’m working on the final details for an ‘Executive Presence Master Class’ that will be announced soon.  Classes are scheduled to begin March 10. … stay tuned…

In the meantime, Click Here to access the Business Section of the website.
Or please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

As always, thanks for reading!

– Carey Sue

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Manner Monday®: Martin Luther King, Jr.

Here are some words from previous MLK posts that I thought were worth repeating:

Martin Luther King (b1929), in 1964 became the youngest person to receive the Nobel Peace Prize.  The prize was awarded to him for his efforts and advancements to end racial segregation and discrimination, by way of civil disobedience and other nonviolent means.  That’s pretty good headway for a 35 year old.  We are all only left to wonder what he could have accomplished had he made it to his 40’s and beyond.

I’m thinking it’s pretty safe to say that one of the characteristics that led him to his power was one of respectfulness.  By treating everyone with the same respect we wish to be treated, we can strive to be respectful and civil towards others in all of our actions.  Sometimes we may fall short, but remembering one of his famous quotes, “The time is always right to do what is right,” may help us on our journey.

Taking a look at Dr. King’s famous “I have a dream speech”, the following line is pretty powerful (OK, I know the whole speech is powerful, but bear with me):

“I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.”

A person’s character is critical.  No matter how successful one gets in life, his or her character is one of the few things they will not be able to “out-source” to someone else to “increase the bottom line” or “make it happen”.

Take a few minutes today to visit with a young person in your life about “character” and how important it is everyday to consistently make smart choices and good decisions.  As we all know…the good, the bad and the ugly: those choices and decisions stick with you for a lifetime!

 

 

In other news….

Early Bird Registration for the 5-8th grade programs is open, Click here to register.

  • Save $100 by registering now for a single season.
  • Or save $364 by taking advantage of the Multi-Season Discount.

 

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events have begun!

  • Click Here to access more information and to access the Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online.

 

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Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops

Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, Click Here to access the Business Section of the website.  Or please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!
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Manner Monday®: Hurt Feelings

My Aunt passed away last week.  She would always send an email after reading Manner Monday with a kind word of encouragement and a thoughtful comment about the post.  She was such an amazing lady with a kind, gentle spirit.  Never a harsh or unkind word – she always found the silver lining in everything!  In honor of Aunt Linda, I wanted to share one of her favorite posts.  She would often tell me how much she enjoyed this one:

Kindergarten is tough… on a parent!

Our 5 year-old came home from school the other day with “hurt feelings”.  One of the other kiddos told our son that his hair looked funny.  As a parent, the “mama bear” in me started to come out:  then I got to thinking… this is life.  As a part of life, we deal with “hurt feelings” on a regular basis… someone didn’t like our idea during a meeting; someone chose our competitor over us; someone said something to us that we didn’t “like” and we took it personal.  What I’ve found myself repeating lately to our 5 year old is “we can’t control what other people do or say, the only thing we can control is how we react ”.  It’s been a great reminder for me, as an adult; we may not like what we heard, and we may not be able to change what was said, the only thing we have control over is our reaction.

Tweetable: “We can’t control what other people do or say, the only thing we can control is how we react.”

She was one of my biggest cheerleaders and always encouraged me to keep doing what I’m doing.  Thanks for letting me share with you about my Aunt Linda!   I wish you could have known her.

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Manner Monday: Thank-You Notes

It’s that time of year… the Christmas presents have long been unwrapped, played with, and some – well, unfortunately they’ve already been forgotten about (sad but true).

After we returned home from visiting family over the holiday, it was time for our 8-year-old to dig in, get the pen and paper out, and write thank-you notes. I don’t know very many people who actually enjoy the process of writing thank-you notes… but I do know A LOT of people who really enjoy getting gifts! And like it or not, showing gratitude in the form of an old-fashioned handwritten thank-you note to gift givers is part of the process.

My husband and I are always working to instill gratitude and graciousness into our kiddo -we hear WAY too many stories about how ‘kids today are entitled’. Yes, we have a long row to hoe (he’s only 8), but we believe a thank-you note is a huge part of the process.

So after we finished the process this weekend, I decided to interview Billy to get his take on the topic. We hope you enjoy the interview.

 

 

Your Two Cents?  I’m getting more and more requests to offer Business Etiquette training for individuals and companies.  What would you like to know most about Business Etiquette and the strategy of navigating business lunches or networking events?  Would you like information or tools for your staff or team?  Or is there anything else you would like me to cover in 2015 to help you navigate business and social settings as an adult?

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I LOVE working with youth – but I also look forward to helping you grow and be the best you can be this year!

 

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In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon (really soon) – don’t miss out!

  • Click Here to access more information and to access the Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online.


Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops

Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, Click Here to access the Business Section of the website.  Or please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

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Passport (High School) Program Begins Soon!

We’re super excited about the Passport (High School) Program beginning soon!

Classes begin Friday, January 16, with our first outing to the Civic Center. Please register no later than January 8!

For more information and to register, please Click Here to visit the website.

High school begins soon

 

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Manner Monday®: How can I serve you better in 2015?

I’m getting more and more requests to offer Business Etiquette training for individuals and companies.  What would you like to know most about Business Etiquette and the strategy of navigating business lunches or networking events?  Would you like information or tools for your staff or team?  Or is there anything else you would like me to cover in 2015 to help you navigate business and social settings as an adult?

Will you please take a minute (I promise – it’s only one question) and fill out a short survey?
Click here to access the form.

I LOVE working with youth – but I also look forward to helping you grow and be the best you can be this year!

 

Important Note
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Happy New Year!  

From our family to yours… We wish you and your family a Happy New Year and a Healthy and Prosperous 2015!  – Carey Sue, Ricardo, and Billy

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In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon (really soon) – don’t miss out!

  • Click Here to access more information and to access the Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online.


Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops

Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, Click Here to access the Business Section of the website.  Or please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: Merry Christmas

From our family to yours… We wish you and your family a Merry Christmas and the Happiest of Holiday’s!

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As we all rush to wrap things up before slowing down to enjoy the Blessings of the Season we hope you are able to enjoy quality down time with friends or family during the Holidays!

Merry Christmas!

Carey Sue, Ricardo (and Billy)

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Manner Monday: Ex-Etiquette and the Holidays

It seems as though ex-etiquette has been popping up in conversations a lot lately!   With many families faced with juggling blended families, I thought it would be a great time to share a post written last year by a dear friend of mine.  Her name is Amy Urbach, and she does an AMAZING job handling ex-etiqeutte and blended families.  Amy is so passionate about the topic, she has even started a non-profit called ‘Blended and Bonded‘.  She is a true blessing and I know you will love reading her guest post.  If you have a friend who is in this same situation, please pass along this post Amy has some great advice that will hopefully help to make their situation the best in can be this Holiday season.

Here’s Amy….

Where do you think you’re going? Nobody’s leaving. Nobody’s walking out on this fun, old-fashioned family Christmas. No, no. We’re all in this together. This is a full-blown, four-alarm holiday emergency here. We’re gonna press on, and we’re gonna have the hap, hap, happiest Christmas.” ~ Clark Griswold, National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation.

If you’ve seen the movie, National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation, you know that Clark is responding to a holiday gathering gone horribly wrong, with his guests headed for the door. Ever feel like this yourself? If you’re in a blended family, I know you’ve had a holiday like this at some point. If you haven’t, you will.

With the holiday season comes so much fun, excitement, joy, magic and STRESS! Often times, the stress can quickly and easily overtake the fun, excitement, joy and magic of the season. I usually start the season with such excitement and a mental list of all the things I want to do to make this year’s holiday season extra special for my family. All it takes is one trip to the mall as soon as the season starts and I’m out of fun, joy and excitement.

Divorce, co-parenting and blended families only compound the stress. Who gets the kids when? Let’s try to have all the kids at the same time. Will the ex be flexible with the schedule? Can we even communicate?

According to Ron Deal, a blended family expert, it can take up to 7 years for a blended family to “blend”, or come together and settle in to a family unit. With that in mind, if you can keep your expectations in check during the holiday season, you are less likely to set yourself and your family up for disappointment.

Here are some pointers to keep in mind during the holiday season:

  1. Plan ahead! Most co-parents have custody and visitation plans in place. If your ex is not willing to be flexible I highly recommend to sticking with what’s in writing. If you are able to be flexible with one another, by all means do what works best for your kids.  Make sure you have everything in writing and agreed on ahead of time to reduce stress. Stick to the plan.
  2. Don’t try to control everything. When you are no longer with the father/mother of your children, you no longer have control, influence or a say in what happens in their household. Aside from abuse or serious neglect (and I don’t mean the kids are brushing their teeth), you have to let go of what happens and how it happens in the kids’ other home. You will only add stress to the holiday season for yourself and most importantly, your kids if you try to control their environment from a distance.
  3. Give your ex and kids the gift of uninterrupted time. It is normal and expected to be sad the kids are not with you during the holidays. Just because they aren’t with you, resist the urge to interrupt the time they have with the other parent/family. It’s a tempting thing to text, call and/or Facebook them to get updates on what they are doing. While it may be with good intentions, it can communicate you NEED the kids to stay connected to you and that may put pressure on them to report back to you. Be willing to treat the other household how you would want to be treated while you are having your holiday time with the kids. Once a day check-in is plenty. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.
  4. Be sensitive to the fact that kids are typically a few years behind us in terms of change to family dynamics. Holidays will likely never be the same for them. Give them space to process what things are going to look like for them. Kids at any age, including adult kids of divorce, can struggle with this. Depending on their age, they may be able and willing to communicate what their expectations are for the holiday season. If they aren’t comfortable just telling you, listen in other ways. They will communicate it their wants in one way or another.
  5. Don’t get hung up on celebrating on the exact day of the holiday. Whatever day you have with your kids, make THAT day your day to celebrate. If you have your kids on the actual holiday, enjoy. If you don’t, take that time to focus on you and other family members. Don’t get hung up on shuffling them around for the sake of being with them on the actual holiday. Give them time to relax and enjoy the season as well.  Give your kids your blessing to completely enjoy their holiday with their other parent/family with no guilt.
  6. Don’t try to be a “Disney parent.” It’s not a competition to see who can get the most and best gifts for the kids. When my kids were younger, my ex, his wife and I were actually able to communicate about what we were getting the kids as to not duplicate.  I know this can’t always be the case, but at least be open to the idea. If we over compensate we create entitled kids.
  7. Create new traditions with your kids. Ron Deal suggests it take several times to create a tradition. One time doesn’t mean it’s a tradition but over a few Christmases, you have created an expectation and anticipation of something to come. My kids and I have always made Christmas cookies. When I remarried we still do that, but we have added making gingerbread houses every Christmas with my kids and my step-kids.
  8. Be the example.  You may have an ex that is just not willing to be respectful of any or all of the things mentioned above. This is the time for you to rise above that disrespectful behavior and show your kids an example of grace, flexibility and love. This doesn’t mean you let the ex walk all over you, but it does mean you set some boundaries, read the situation and adjust accordingly.

Go into the holiday season with an open mind, hopeful heart and be willing to be fun and flexible. Experts suggest kids fair better when at least one parent is reasonable and consistent, so even if your ex isn’t, you can be.

Give the best gift of all to your kids this holiday season: Your blessing to LOVE all that surround them. The payoff is down the road when your kids thank you for allowing them to do so. My kids have thanked their Dad and me often and that has been more satisfying than always getting my way at my kids’ expense.

Merry Christmas!!!

– Amy Urbach

 

In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/high-school

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

– Carey Sue

 

 

Thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

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Manner Monday®: Holiday Party Circuit

It’s the season of Christmas and Holiday Parties!  Whether it’s a social gathering or a company celebration, parties are on the calendar and people are celebrating.  If you have the company party to attend, you may be interested in a recent Podcast Jessica hosted where we talked about How To Not Get Fired At Your Holiday Party.  As silly as it sounds, some really smart and normal people make bad choices after having too many adult beverages at the company party and, well… you know the rest of the story. I think we all have a story we could share, and some of those stories may hit a little close to home.  If so, it may be worth throwing yourself under the proverbial bus to share that story with a junior colleague who you may be mentoring, to hopefully keep him or her from doing the same thing.

Podcast:  click here for the link to the podcast with Jessica.

And here are some tips that may be helpful as well as you head out to the company party:

  1. Technology – Steer clear of excessive use of technology at the table or gathering.  This is a time for good old-fashioned “face-time”.
  2. No Show – Unless you have a legitimate excuse like the flu, you should always attend the office party.
  3. Low Show – Use good judgment when you dress for an office or holiday party. Don’t wear something too casual like jeans. Women should avoid low-cut blouses and short, tight skirts or dresses.
  4. Watch Your Mouth – Remember the office party is an office function, so don’t be negative, tell inappropriate jokes or bring up controversial topics. You never know who will be there, such as a current or potential client.
  5. Flirting – Don’t even think about it!!  Your job is at stake here.
  6. Too Much Fun – Remember that office holiday parties are still an office function. Limit yourself to one or two drinks.
  7. Mix and Mingle – Refrain from holding court in the corner with your bestie.  Parties provide a great opportunity to meet new people and visit with others you don’t get to see very often.
  8. RSVP – You should always RSVP.  Pay close attention to how the invitation was addressed; you should never bring a child or guest who was not invited and who you didn’t RSVP for in advance.
  9. Hostess Gift – When attending a party or function in someone’s home, take a hostess gift. It can be a traditional holiday goody or something more unique like a book for the host’s child.
  10. Thank You Notes – Don’t forget to write – not e-mail – thank you notes for gifts and to party hosts.  This may seem archaic, but it it’s a little gesture that makes a huge impact.  When’s the last time you received a hand-written note?

By keeping these tips in mind you will be remembered for all of the right reasons… and you will save yourself from headlining the Monday morning water cooler gabfest.

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In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/high-school

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

– Carey Sue

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