Manner Monday: Ex-Etiquette and the Holidays

It seems as though ex-etiquette has been popping up in conversations a lot lately!   With many families faced with juggling blended families, I thought it would be a great time to share a post written last year by a dear friend of mine.  Her name is Amy Urbach, and she does an AMAZING job handling ex-etiqeutte and blended families.  Amy is so passionate about the topic, she has even started a non-profit called ‘Blended and Bonded‘.  She is a true blessing and I know you will love reading her guest post.  If you have a friend who is in this same situation, please pass along this post Amy has some great advice that will hopefully help to make their situation the best in can be this Holiday season.

Here’s Amy….

Where do you think you’re going? Nobody’s leaving. Nobody’s walking out on this fun, old-fashioned family Christmas. No, no. We’re all in this together. This is a full-blown, four-alarm holiday emergency here. We’re gonna press on, and we’re gonna have the hap, hap, happiest Christmas.” ~ Clark Griswold, National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation.

If you’ve seen the movie, National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation, you know that Clark is responding to a holiday gathering gone horribly wrong, with his guests headed for the door. Ever feel like this yourself? If you’re in a blended family, I know you’ve had a holiday like this at some point. If you haven’t, you will.

With the holiday season comes so much fun, excitement, joy, magic and STRESS! Often times, the stress can quickly and easily overtake the fun, excitement, joy and magic of the season. I usually start the season with such excitement and a mental list of all the things I want to do to make this year’s holiday season extra special for my family. All it takes is one trip to the mall as soon as the season starts and I’m out of fun, joy and excitement.

Divorce, co-parenting and blended families only compound the stress. Who gets the kids when? Let’s try to have all the kids at the same time. Will the ex be flexible with the schedule? Can we even communicate?

According to Ron Deal, a blended family expert, it can take up to 7 years for a blended family to “blend”, or come together and settle in to a family unit. With that in mind, if you can keep your expectations in check during the holiday season, you are less likely to set yourself and your family up for disappointment.

Here are some pointers to keep in mind during the holiday season:

  1. Plan ahead! Most co-parents have custody and visitation plans in place. If your ex is not willing to be flexible I highly recommend to sticking with what’s in writing. If you are able to be flexible with one another, by all means do what works best for your kids.  Make sure you have everything in writing and agreed on ahead of time to reduce stress. Stick to the plan.
  2. Don’t try to control everything. When you are no longer with the father/mother of your children, you no longer have control, influence or a say in what happens in their household. Aside from abuse or serious neglect (and I don’t mean the kids are brushing their teeth), you have to let go of what happens and how it happens in the kids’ other home. You will only add stress to the holiday season for yourself and most importantly, your kids if you try to control their environment from a distance.
  3. Give your ex and kids the gift of uninterrupted time. It is normal and expected to be sad the kids are not with you during the holidays. Just because they aren’t with you, resist the urge to interrupt the time they have with the other parent/family. It’s a tempting thing to text, call and/or Facebook them to get updates on what they are doing. While it may be with good intentions, it can communicate you NEED the kids to stay connected to you and that may put pressure on them to report back to you. Be willing to treat the other household how you would want to be treated while you are having your holiday time with the kids. Once a day check-in is plenty. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.
  4. Be sensitive to the fact that kids are typically a few years behind us in terms of change to family dynamics. Holidays will likely never be the same for them. Give them space to process what things are going to look like for them. Kids at any age, including adult kids of divorce, can struggle with this. Depending on their age, they may be able and willing to communicate what their expectations are for the holiday season. If they aren’t comfortable just telling you, listen in other ways. They will communicate it their wants in one way or another.
  5. Don’t get hung up on celebrating on the exact day of the holiday. Whatever day you have with your kids, make THAT day your day to celebrate. If you have your kids on the actual holiday, enjoy. If you don’t, take that time to focus on you and other family members. Don’t get hung up on shuffling them around for the sake of being with them on the actual holiday. Give them time to relax and enjoy the season as well.  Give your kids your blessing to completely enjoy their holiday with their other parent/family with no guilt.
  6. Don’t try to be a “Disney parent.” It’s not a competition to see who can get the most and best gifts for the kids. When my kids were younger, my ex, his wife and I were actually able to communicate about what we were getting the kids as to not duplicate.  I know this can’t always be the case, but at least be open to the idea. If we over compensate we create entitled kids.
  7. Create new traditions with your kids. Ron Deal suggests it take several times to create a tradition. One time doesn’t mean it’s a tradition but over a few Christmases, you have created an expectation and anticipation of something to come. My kids and I have always made Christmas cookies. When I remarried we still do that, but we have added making gingerbread houses every Christmas with my kids and my step-kids.
  8. Be the example.  You may have an ex that is just not willing to be respectful of any or all of the things mentioned above. This is the time for you to rise above that disrespectful behavior and show your kids an example of grace, flexibility and love. This doesn’t mean you let the ex walk all over you, but it does mean you set some boundaries, read the situation and adjust accordingly.

Go into the holiday season with an open mind, hopeful heart and be willing to be fun and flexible. Experts suggest kids fair better when at least one parent is reasonable and consistent, so even if your ex isn’t, you can be.

Give the best gift of all to your kids this holiday season: Your blessing to LOVE all that surround them. The payoff is down the road when your kids thank you for allowing them to do so. My kids have thanked their Dad and me often and that has been more satisfying than always getting my way at my kids’ expense.

Merry Christmas!!!

– Amy Urbach

 

In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/high-school

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

– Carey Sue

 

 

Thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

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Manner Monday®: Holiday Party Circuit

It’s the season of Christmas and Holiday Parties!  Whether it’s a social gathering or a company celebration, parties are on the calendar and people are celebrating.  If you have the company party to attend, you may be interested in a recent Podcast Jessica hosted where we talked about How To Not Get Fired At Your Holiday Party.  As silly as it sounds, some really smart and normal people make bad choices after having too many adult beverages at the company party and, well… you know the rest of the story. I think we all have a story we could share, and some of those stories may hit a little close to home.  If so, it may be worth throwing yourself under the proverbial bus to share that story with a junior colleague who you may be mentoring, to hopefully keep him or her from doing the same thing.

Podcast:  click here for the link to the podcast with Jessica.

And here are some tips that may be helpful as well as you head out to the company party:

  1. Technology – Steer clear of excessive use of technology at the table or gathering.  This is a time for good old-fashioned “face-time”.
  2. No Show – Unless you have a legitimate excuse like the flu, you should always attend the office party.
  3. Low Show – Use good judgment when you dress for an office or holiday party. Don’t wear something too casual like jeans. Women should avoid low-cut blouses and short, tight skirts or dresses.
  4. Watch Your Mouth – Remember the office party is an office function, so don’t be negative, tell inappropriate jokes or bring up controversial topics. You never know who will be there, such as a current or potential client.
  5. Flirting – Don’t even think about it!!  Your job is at stake here.
  6. Too Much Fun – Remember that office holiday parties are still an office function. Limit yourself to one or two drinks.
  7. Mix and Mingle – Refrain from holding court in the corner with your bestie.  Parties provide a great opportunity to meet new people and visit with others you don’t get to see very often.
  8. RSVP – You should always RSVP.  Pay close attention to how the invitation was addressed; you should never bring a child or guest who was not invited and who you didn’t RSVP for in advance.
  9. Hostess Gift – When attending a party or function in someone’s home, take a hostess gift. It can be a traditional holiday goody or something more unique like a book for the host’s child.
  10. Thank You Notes – Don’t forget to write – not e-mail – thank you notes for gifts and to party hosts.  This may seem archaic, but it it’s a little gesture that makes a huge impact.  When’s the last time you received a hand-written note?

By keeping these tips in mind you will be remembered for all of the right reasons… and you will save yourself from headlining the Monday morning water cooler gabfest.

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In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/high-school

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

– Carey Sue

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Manner Monday®: Spreading Holiday Cheer with Tipping

Do you find yourself asking how much you should spend when spreading Holiday Cheer to service providers? It can be a bit overwhelming when you start making the list of all of the people who not only make your life easier, but also those who help you, take care of you; everything from day care providers, housekeepers, and pet groomers, to hair stylists and personal trainers. And modern times bring new categories to that growing list; personal assistant/errand service, eyelash care, nail tech, and don’t forget the technology ninja who makes sure your home office stays online! After all, they are the people we rely on throughout the year.  To help you navigate the process, we’ve put together some guidelines to help you show your appreciation.

First, take some time to make your list.  I love using Evernote for tasks such as this, it syncs seamlessly between your desktop and phone app so you can update the notes, make changes and access it on the go.  When thinking through who should be on your list, start with the suggestions above and then add to it any other people who you think deserve a special thank-you.

Next, figuring what and how much to give.  How much glee do you consistently spread throughout the year?  For example, your Hairdresser, do you tip them well on a regular basis? If so, maybe consider something a little more creative for the Holidays. Of course cash is always a great gift, and always appreciated. Or, you could opt for something a bit more creative.  More than likely you’ve spent enough time with them to have a pretty good idea what some of their favorite things are, or the things they enjoy doing like going to the movies.  You could get them a gift card to their favorite restaurant or to their favorite movie theater.

Here are a few possible categories of service providers and recommendations on ‘how much’ to tip.

Those who help with your Children: 

  • Babysitter – 1 nights pay, plus a small gift or note from your child.
  • Day Care provider – $25/75, plus an optional small gift.
  • Teacher – $10/20 gift cards make great teacher gifts anytime of the year!
  • Pet groomer (your other child) – one service fee.

Those who help with your Home:

  • Housekeeper – up to one week’s pay, plus an optional small gift.
  • Letter Carrier –  gifts up to $20 in value; they are not allowed to accept cash.
  • Handyman – $15-50
  • Technology Ninja – $20-50 if they make regular visits to your home office.
  • Yard/Garden Worker – $20-50
  • Trash/Recycling worker – $10-30

Those who help ‘you’ take care of ‘you’:

  • Personal Trainer – One session
  • Personal Assistant / Errand service – $20-50, possibly more depending on how much and how often you rely on their services (up to one month of fees).
  • Hairstylist – cost of haircut or service.
  • Nail Tech – cost of one service.
  • Eyelash Care – cost of one ‘fill’.

If money is tight:  be careful and think through your gifts, you don’t want to avoid giving a gift to someone you’ve historically gifted – that might send the wrong message.  Instead you can still give something, but maybe a bit scaled down.  Then make sure you include a sincere handwritten note focusing on why you are grateful for them.  More than just ‘thank-you’, share with them why are you thankful.

And last but not least, no matter what you choose to give, be creative in the presentation. If you are planning to give cash, swing by your local bank and get new, clean, crisp bills.  If you’re giving gift cards, wrap them and add a nice bow.  If you’re writing a note, use nice paper and a good pen.  Taking the time to make an attractive presentation is just another part of showing how much you care – you’ve thought through the process, and didn’t just hit the drive thru on your way to see them.  If you need some gift card wrapping inspiration, I’ve pinned a few fun and easy ideas to my Pinterest board “Gift Card Wrapping” that make for a great alternative to just handing over the cash.

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In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • Monday, December 1st, is the last day to take advantage of the Early Bird Special savings!
  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/high-school

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

– Carey Sue

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Gift Card Wrapping

Are you looking for ways to be creative in the gifting of Cash or Gift Cards?

  • If you are planning to give cash, swing by your local bank and get new, clean, crisp bills.
  • If you’re giving gift cards, wrap them and add a nice bow.

Taking the time to make an attractive presentation is just another part of showing how much you care – you’ve thought through the process, and didn’t just hit the drive thru on your way to see them.

Here are a couple of ideas for creative Cash or Gift Card presents:

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For this tube effect, you will need:

  • Gift Card or Cash
  • an old toilet paper roll or paper towel roll
  • Tape
  • Ribbon

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Slide the Gift Card into the roll.  Wrap paper around and tape. Then finish off the ends by tying ribbon.

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Here is another idea:

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For this festive box you will need:

  • Gift Card or Cash
  • Gift box (I use white 4×4 gift boxes that comes flat and easily fold into a nice box. Buy them in bulk to keep on hand.)
  • Tissue Paper
  • Tulle
  • Balloons

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Stuff tissue paper into the box and place the Gift Card or Cash into the center.

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Using tulle, wrap the box, then lay balloons (or anything else fun and festive you have on hand) over the top.

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Finish off by tying bows with the tulle and fluffing the boys for a festive look.

If you’re on Pinterest, there are TONS of other ideas out there – Here is the link to the “Gift Card Wrapping” board I started for many more ideas – the options are endless!

 

 

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Manner Monday®: Preparing for Thanksgiving Dinner conversation

With the Holidays fast approaching, many people will be sitting down to ‘break bread’ with sometimes a great number of extended family members.  Oftentimes, this includes ‘unfamiliar’ family members.  Not too many of us actually enjoy that awkward moment of ‘what am I going to say’ or being stuck in an uncomfortable moment when the conversation isn’t flowing as freely as we would like for it to.  By spending some time now with your immediate family, during your FFT dinner, you can work on ‘comfortable conversation’ starters, so hopefully you won’t be stuck in an ‘uncomfortable conversation’.

If you’re hosting this year, here are some helpful tips to make sure things go as smooth as possible when it comes to creating ‘comfortable conversation’ opportunities:

Assigned Seating:  It helps to take the guess work out of where everyone will sit and you’re also able to corral “Uncle Tom” between you and your sister… who will be able to help you keep him in check.

Table Setting Tips:  If you’re tasked with setting the table, check out this previous post with details to make it fun and easy!

Place Cards:  You can use something as simple as a piece of card stock, or you can do something fun such as a pinecone with the persons name tied to it with construction paper or ribbon.  You can also do something a bit more special such as a mini picture frame with your guest’s name, or photo, in it that they can take home with them as cherished memento.  If you have a little one, have them get in on the place card task; they love being included and can add an artistic touch that everyone will appreciate.

Conversation starters:  Another benefit of place cards, you can place a question on each place card that helps to get the conversation going.  Planting questions is a fabulous way to get the family talking and to share stories from ‘days gone by’ and create wonderful family memories you will treasure for a lifetime.

Here are some sample questions:

  • Ask an ‘older’ relative (grandparent, aunt, uncle or friend) what they remember about:
    • the invention of ‘cell phones’ and what did it look like?
    • What were their telephone ‘rules’ in the house before cell phones?
    • Before text and email, how did they send correspondence to friends and family. Did they have a ‘pen pal’?
    • Landline phones that were attached to the wall via a cord Party lines.
  •  Tell us about your favorite childhood Thanksgiving memory.
  • What was life like before Cell Phones and DVRs?
  • What are you most thankful for this year?
  • What is your most memorable school picture?
  • What special childhood memory do you have of a family member who is no longer with us?
  • What luxuries do you take for granted and why are you thankful for them?
  • Which teacher were you most grateful for?
  • What is your favorite memory from grade school?
  • How did you meet?  Tell us about your first date.  (This is a great one for the Grandparents.)
  • What family recipe reminds you of something special?
  • Tell about a time when you were reminded “it’s better to give than receive”.
  • Thinking of the pilgrims and their adventure, what do you think it would be like to leave everyone and everything behind and move to a new country…without a job secured?
  • What’s the biggest risk you’ve taken in your life?
  • What do you appreciate most about the person on your right?

As people are answering their questions, think of saying things such as “tell us more” instead of cutting them short to share your version or answer.

Turn the TV off and leave your cell phone at the front door (or in the car).  Take this time to focus on good old-fashioned ‘face-time’!!!

And if you missed last weeks post, here are more tips on Planning the Perfectly Imperfect Party.

What are your tricks to keeping the conversation comfortable at your Thanksgiving table?  Please leave a comment below to share your tips and stories.

Happy Thanksgiving!  …and may the conversation be comfortable!

Thanksgiving Table

 

In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/high-school

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

– Carey Sue

 

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Surviving the Holidays

Channel 4 asked me to come in to help with their segment on ‘Surviving the Holidays’ and to answer viewer questions.

Here is a sneak peak into the questions posed by viewers via the Channel 4 Facebook page for this segment:

  • What is the most surprising etiquette rule people don’t seem to understand at Thanksgiving?
  • My Aunt insists on bringing her ‘special’ cranberries to the dinner each year spiked with heavy amounts of ginger.  No one likes it but her, but is it rude to have my own recipe on the table?
  • My Uncle uses each Thanksgiving dinner to start a political rant.  Should we call him a day ahead and say politics are off the table?  And who can I pay to make this call?
  • My sister was divorced this year but I love her ex-husband and he’s all alone this Thanksgiving.  She is out of town so is it disloyal for me to invite him over?
  • We rotate Thanksgiving in my family.  I love fine china, but my brother serves dinner on paper plates! Can I suggest we want dinner on real plates if I offer to do the dishes?
  • What is the best way to cute my mother-in-law off when it comes to how many glasses of wine she drinks?

Here is the link to the full story:

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Manner Monday®: Tips for Planning the Perfectly Imperfect Party

Are you hosting for the Holidays?  During this time of year, I always get questions from nervous hosts and hostesses asking for tips to make the process a bit less painful.  Well, not sure about the pain factor, but I can share some tips with you to make it hopefully flow a bit smoother.

First of all – take a deep breath!  And follow the Nike slogan ‘just do it’! Don’t stress about things such as ‘my house isn’t perfect’, ‘I don’t have the right dishes or silverware’.  By focusing on ‘hospitality’ vs. ‘formality’, you can be rest assured knowing that no matter what happens, your guests will feel comfortable and will have a great time.

Ok, so you’ve decided to take the plunge, let’s get the party started…

Invitations, how are you going to notify your guests?  Keep in mind that the invitation will help to set the tone of the party.  An old-fashioned ‘print’ invitation, sent via snail mail, can set the stage for something a bit more ‘formal’.  An E-vite leans toward something more ‘casual’.

Guest list, who are you planning to invite?  Take some time with this one.  Think through your guest list and try to bring together an interesting mix of people who you think would have a good time together and why they would get along.  Think outside of your normal circle of friends and reach out to someone new who you’ve recently met and would like to get to know better.

Plan ahead.  Make a to-do list and break it down into manageable pieces over a few days.  By being organized, strategic and focused, you can easily cut down on the added stress of forgetting something such a key ingredient at the store.

During the Party.  Be focused on the moment – turn off TVs, put on some background music, put away smart phones, and get ready to focus on your friends.  Plan to be ready at least 15 minutes before your guests are scheduled to arrive. Not only does this give you a moment to catch your breath, but it also allows a small window of flexibility in case something goes wrong during the preparations.

Clean Up.  Consider spending a little extra money to hire a helper for the evening.  Someone who can tend to things in the kitchen and keep plates cleared and can help to keep you from feeling overwhelmed.  If hiring a helper is not in your budget, not a worry!  Just save the cleanup until after your guests have left.

And remember, your guests are coming for the enjoyment of your company, friendship and hospitality.  Set the stage and atmosphere for a lovely evening of relaxing with friends and enjoying good old-fashioned ‘face time’.  And your friends will thank you.

Thanksgiving

 

In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/high-school

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

– Carey Sue

 

 

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As of 11/15/14; Sunday, November 16, Classes are ‘On’

As we all know, Oklahoma weather can be a bit interesting and challenging at times – to say the least! I’ve been scouring the weather reports and the general consensus is that the weather we’re expecting Sunday will be a ‘light dusting’ and nothing to cause the town to ‘shut down’.

With the frigid temperatures, we will have a place for students to store their heavy coats, boots, etc.  If they want to change into their dress shoes for class once they’re inside the building, they are more than welcome to do so.  I personally will be wearing dress boots for classes!

If for any reason we are hit with a ‘blizzard’ on Sunday that makes driving dangerous, we will send an email and post on the blog with updated information.

If you have any questions before hitting the roads, please check the blog first – and of course, do not hesitate to email or call!

Brrrrrrrrrrr….
Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: Old School Etiquette

I love it when former students send interesting links to articles related to Etiquette!

Thanks Helena and Isabel for passing on the article that recently appeared in Mental Floss, 5 Ways to Avoid Being Rude (According to 100-Year-Old Etiquette Rules).  I love the history of Etiquette, along with the evolution of Etiquette and how many of the ‘old school’ rules, are actually still applicable today.  In the article, the author references a book written in the early 1900’s by Dr. Jefferis.  When talking about women and clothing, Dr. Jefferis writes, “For women are like books – too much gilding makes men suspicious, that the binding is the most important part. The body is the shell of the soul, and the dress is the husk of the body; but the husk generally tells what the kernel is. As a fashionably dressed young lady passed some gentlemen, one of them raised his hat, whereupon another, struck by the fine appearance of the lady, made some inquiries concerning her, and was answered thus: “She makes a pretty ornament in her father’s house, but otherwise is of no use.”

We’ve all heard by now, ‘you can’t judge a book by its cover’, but that’s exactly what we do when we form our ‘first impression’ of someone based on outward appearances. We want to make smart choices in building our professional wardrobe, we want people to read us, get to know us.

You have a lot to offer, you want to be taken seriously – you’re not ‘just a pretty ornament’; choose your wardrobe wisely… it’s sending a message whether you like it or not.

Book cover

 

In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/high-school

 

Social Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

We have one lunch workshop left this season.  Don’t miss out on a fun opportunity and a chance to network and meet some new friends.  We’ll be talking about how to Survive Hosting the Holidays:

  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business/general-public-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

– Carey Sue

 

 

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Manner Monday®: The Switch Witch

Today’s post has nothing to do with Manners; it’s more of a ‘public service announcement’ that will hopefully have parents rejoicing in unison for the passing along of the information.

How have I never heard about the Switch Witch before now!?!?!?  I’m seriously scratching my head wondering how this has not caught on like the Christmas ‘Elf’.

Even though Halloween is over, many of you may still have hoards of candy lingering from the weekend.  And many of you (me included) can’t keep our little (ok, big) fingers out of the stash.  It’s not too late to put a call into the good witch – the Switch Witch.  She will be happy to help and take that candy off your hands.

So, who is she?  Think ‘Tooth Fairy’ – your kiddo leaves a tooth under their pillow at night then the Tooth Fairy slips in while they’re sleeping to replace the tooth with cold-hard-cash (or a fun little toy); same principle for the Switch Witch.

Our friends told us about this idea Halloween evening – I immediately thought ‘genius’… whoever came up with this idea should be nominated for a Nobel Peace Prize (well, not really – but maybe).

We told our 8-year-old son about the Switch Witch and he was all in – he ended up with $10 out of the deal and we have a big bag of candy ready to donate to the local shelter on Monday.

You can easily adapt the Switch Witch to fit your family and come up with your own tradition. Our friend replaces the candy with a small toy her son has been eyeing.  Since we inaugurated the idea on-the-fly Halloween night, we went with the cash option.  Next year, we can plan ahead and decide which direction we want to go as he’ll be 9 and the gig may be up.  But our friend said even the older kids still participate following the rule ‘if you believe, you receive’.

And if you’re not feeling the vibes of the Switch Witch – I read numerous stories about local dentists buying back candy, $1 per pound.  Then they donate the candy to the troops overseas!  Another great idea!

Either way, I’d love to hear your stories;

  • Did you already know about the Switch Witch?
  • If it’s a new idea, were you able to ‘sell’ it to your kids even after a few days have passed?
  • If you have older kids, where they up for it?
  • Does your dentist participate in the candy buy back program?

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In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/high-school

 

Social Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

We have one lunch workshop left this season.  Don’t miss out on a fun opportunity and a chance to network and meet some new friends.

  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business/general-public-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

– Carey Sue

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