Manner Monday®: Treating Others Like A Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader

I was recently at the Dallas Love Field airport, getting ready to board the same flight as a small group of 10 Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders. It was obvious who they were as they all had matching Cowboy Cheerleader logo luggage. They were beautiful young ladies. They were dressed respectfully, and they had flawless hair and makeup. They looked camera ready, which I think I’ve heard is part of their contract. If I haven’t already painted a good enough picture for you, I’m sure you can imagine it was definitely fun people watching in the waiting area. Between the grown men and women who were literally tripping over themselves as they walked by, turning to get a better look, to the sweet young girls who were looking up to the Cheerleaders with huge smiles.

What I really loved about the whole process was how the Cheerleaders stopped and put their technology away and would give each little girl 100% of their attention and focus and ask the little girl questions as if she was the star. The exchange always ended up with the parent getting a picture of the young girl with her new BFF’s.

I’m sure the Cheerleaders receive extensive training on how to act in public, but it was reassuring to see the interaction and what appeared to be their genuine interest in each person who approached them. They didn’t seem putout or annoyed, they truly acted as if it was their pleasure to accommodate the interruption.

For all of the negative stereotypes that are associated with the beauty behind the Cheerleader image, it was definitely enjoyable to watch how poised and professional these young ladies were. I’m thinking the training they’re receiving behind the scenes, as a Cheerleader, will serve them well into the next phases of their professional careers.

It all was a good reminder for me to treat the person I’m interacting with as if THEY were a Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader.

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In Other News…

I’m hosting a Free Webinar to learn more about our programs.  Do you know someone who may be interested? They can register for the free webinar that will take place Tuesday, April 14, by clicking on the button below. We only have a limited number of ‘seats’ so please sign up now!:Reg for webinar

During the webinar, I will go into detail about all of our programs for our:

  •  5-8th grade programs
  •  9-12th grade programs
  • Adult Business Training
  • How the classes are setup
  • The M/F ratios
  •  And much, much more!

If you have a specific question you would like answered during the webinar, please feel free to shoot me an email via the ‘contact us’ form and I’ll make sure to include it. We’ll also have time at the end of the live webinar for Q&A, so no worries if you don’t have a question now.

AND if for some reason you’re not able to make it to the live webinar, please go ahead and register anyway, we will send a recording of the event out to everyone who registered so you can watch it at your convenience.

 

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

 

 

 

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Manner Monday®: April Fools Day

I did a segment with Channel 4 on April Fools Etiquette for the Family and the Office.
We don’t have the video available, but here is the transcript:

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Q – When do kids think a prank is good fun, and why do parents need to tread carefully from the start?

A – Parents REALLY need to tread lightly, we need to set good examples of what’s acceptable and what isn’t.

This is a great time and opportunity to have a conversation with your kiddos about pranks and practical jokes.

Ask them what they think is appropriate, then you can guide the conversation and point out that what they think may be funny, may actually be mean or offensive to others.

 

Q – It seems a lot of families have a ‘prankster’ who goes a bit too far? What’s going on with this person?

A – Do you see a pattern occurring?
Are they pulling the pranks as a way to get attention?
What is the motive behind the prank?
Is the prankster well-meaning, but ends up getting excited and over-zealous?
Or is their intent to see how far they can push the limit or boundaries?
Determine the motive before taking action.

 

Q – So how do you talk to a serial prankster – and still feel like you can sit down together next Thanksgiving?

A – If you do see a pattern occurring, it’s important to point it out and make sure the person realizes what they’re doing.

Explain the unintended potential consequences of their behavior: How is it affecting his reputation?

He may think it’s funny, but others think of him as annoying, ignorant, prejudiced or narrow-minded. Make sure to point out the impact of the pranks on others; people may be avoiding him and not want to be around him.

 

Q – Now lets talk about Office Pranks. What are the three elements to avoid at all cost?

A – Humor that falls into the category of sex, race, or religion does not belong in any office, period.

As an adult, playing a few pranks in the office can lighten the mood and bring some fun and excitement into the workplace.  On the other hand, it can cause stress, create unnecessary problems, breed animosity and cut into productivity.

If you like to get into the spirit of the day and you’re busy scheming and planning the perfect prank, ask yourself  “how would I feel if this joke were played on me?”

Many pranks may seem funny to you, but fall into the gray area and need to be administered with extreme caution. Everyone needs to be aware that what is funny to one person, can be offensive to another.

 

Q – Lets continue on the theory that a good laugh is a good moral booster in the workplace. What else should you keep in mind?

A – Make sure to be a good role model and keep your pranks good-natured and squeaky-clean. And if a coworker does take something personal or the wrong way, simply stop, apologize and don’t argue that it was funny or that they lack a sense of humor. Apologize, clear the air, and move forward.

Also, keep in mind the timing of your prank.  It may be April Fools Day on the calendar, but if you’re timing is wrong and if your prank is unprofessional – you may end up being the Fool.

 

 

 

In other news…

Spring Special Registration Discount is available
Registration Information for 5th-8th Grades for 2015-2016 Season

Registration Information for 9th-12th Grades for the 2015-2016 Season

Multi-Season Discount
You’ve asked and we have listened!  We now offer a multi-sesason discount to families who would like to register a child for three consecutive years in the program.  As each season builds on the previous; maximum benefits are achieved by continued exposure for a minimum of three years (many students participate for 8 consecutive years).

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: Is it rude to cut my salad with a knife?

Q – ‘We were told today at lunch that it is poor manners to cut a large chunk of lettuce in a salad. We were quite surprised. Is this true?’ – Linda

A – First off, I hope that it was told to you in conversation and not directed towards you as if you were breaking the law. If the latter is the case, then the person correcting you would be creating a much bigger etiquette violation than anyone who may be using a utensil ‘incorrectly’.

To answer the question, this is actually an ‘old-school’ rule that really no longer applies. Old-fashioned knife blades were made from steel or iron and they had a tendency to react with vinegar or citrus juice in the dressing, the knives also had a tendency to discolor/brown the edges of cut lettuce; hence the utilitarian need for the rule.

This is one of the numerous ‘old-school’ rules that continue to get recycled but don’t really apply. Plus, can you imagine tacking the trendy ‘wedge’ salad without a knife? Today it boils down to courtesy and respect versus usage of fork and silverware. As long as you don’t look like a Neanderthal at the table, you’re good!!!

Tweetable: Dining Etiquette boils down to courtesy and respect versus usage of fork and silverware. Just don’t look like a Neanderthal! #MannerMonday

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In other news…

Spring Special Registration Discount is available
Registration Information for 5th-8th Grades for 2015-2016 Season

Registration Information for 9th-12th Grades for the 2015-2016 Season

Multi-Season Discount
You’ve asked and we have listened!  We now offer a multi-sesason discount to families who would like to register a child for three consecutive years in the program.  As each season builds on the previous; maximum benefits are achieved by continued exposure for a minimum of three years (many students participate for 8 consecutive years).

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

 

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Executive Success Series 

I’m so excited for this new series!!!  Please feel free to share this information with anyone else you think may be interested.

Research shows that 85 percent of success in the business world hinges on your soft skills, and only 15 percent on your technical skills.  Yet many people do not take the time to invest in the most critical part of their professional training, the crucial social skills that enhance your ability to communicate, negotiate, and lead which helps you build relationships and close deals.  Are you ready to invest in your 85 percent?

Schedule:

  • Tuesday, March 10, 11:30am-1:00pm, Skirvin, Downtown Oklahoma City  (lunch included)
  • Tuesday, April 14, 11:30am-1:00pm, Skirvin, Downtown Oklahoma City  (lunch included)
  • Tuesday, May 12, 6:00-7:30pm, Cocktail Party, Location TBA

Curriculum:

  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Hosting and being a guest at a lunch, dinner, board, or coffee meeting
  • Communication; verbal, written and electronic
  • Networking Events; advanced techniques for both Introverts and Extroverts
  • Customer Service, and much more.

Course Fee:  $287 for all three events in the series

Click here to register, seating is limited and registration closes on March 3.

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Manner Monday®: What Would George Say?

Happy President’s Day!

In honor of the Holiday, we’re pulling another rule from George Washington’s 110 Rules of Civility and Decent Behavior in Company and Conversation which he penned at the ripe age of 16 (yes, 16) to highlight how his ‘archaic’ rules are still pretty relevant in today’s modern world.

Rule #42: “Let thy ceremonies in Courtesy be proper to the Dignity of his place with whom thou converses for it is absurd to act the same with a Clown and a Prince.”

In other words:  There is a time and a place for everything. We’re all about fun, but knowing when to ‘drop anchor’ (pun intended) and knowing how and when to apply the rules of etiquette is your ticket to self-confidence!

Tweetable: We’re all about fun, but knowing knowing how and when to apply the rules of etiquette is your ticket to self-confidence! #MannerMonday

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In other news….

Early Bird Registration for the 5-8th grade programs is openClick here to register.

  • Save $100 by registering now for a single season.
  • Or save $364 by taking advantage of the Multi-Season Discount.


Business Etiquette Training:  
Executive Presence Master Class Coming Soon 

We’re putting the finishing touches on this exciting program.  We should be ready to announce the details very very soon!
Do you know of a young professional who could benefit from participation?
Classes are scheduled to begin in March. … stay tuned…

In the meantime, Click Here to access the Business Section of the website.
Or please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

 

Thanks for reading!
-Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: Finger Bowls

Finger Bowls are rarely seen today in a formal environment – but if you are are ever presented with this old-fashioned ritual, I want to make sure you know what to do.

Their purpose is to help diners clean their fingers after a course that may have been a little more ‘hands-on’, such as lobster, clams, or corn on the cob.

Let’s ‘dive in’ to the do’s and don’ts of the Finger Bowl:

  • Don’t use your spoon – it’s not soup!  It may look like a soup, but it’s just lukewarm water.  Often you will see flower petals floating (this is another giveaway that it’s not soup).
  • No Splashing.  Be gentle, we’re not at the water-park.  Gently dip fingertips, one hand at a time, into the bowl, using your napkin to dab them dry.
  • It’s not a bath. If you would like to gently dab your lips/mouth, do so discreetly – don’t proceed with a self-administered facial.
  • Clear the path.  Once you’re finished with your Finger Bowl, carefully pick it up along with the doily (the fancy white thing that was positioned underneath the bowl and on top of the service plate) and move them both to the left of your plate for the waiter to collect (your drinks and coffee cup will be on the right leaving no room on that side).  The empty plate that remains will now serve as a charger for your plated dessert.

Modern Version – Warm Wet Washcloths.  This is a popular variation that serves the same purpose. The same rules above still apply. Some restaurants provide warm washcloths before the meal is served, others offer them at the end of the meal.  Either way, it’s a nice touch of hospitality.

In other news….

Early Bird Registration for the 5-8th grade programs is openClick here to register.

  • Save $100 by registering now for a single season.
  • Or save $364 by taking advantage of the Multi-Season Discount.


Business Etiquette Training:  
Executive Presence Master Class Coming Soon 

In response to the many requests for Business Etiquette and Professionalism Training, I’m working on the final details for an ‘Executive Presence Master Class’ that will be announced soon.
Do you know of a young professional who could benefit from participation?
Classes are scheduled to begin March 10. … stay tuned…

In the meantime, Click Here to access the Business Section of the website.
Or please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

 

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

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Manner Monday®: Martin Luther King, Jr.

Here are some words from previous MLK posts that I thought were worth repeating:

Martin Luther King (b1929), in 1964 became the youngest person to receive the Nobel Peace Prize.  The prize was awarded to him for his efforts and advancements to end racial segregation and discrimination, by way of civil disobedience and other nonviolent means.  That’s pretty good headway for a 35 year old.  We are all only left to wonder what he could have accomplished had he made it to his 40’s and beyond.

I’m thinking it’s pretty safe to say that one of the characteristics that led him to his power was one of respectfulness.  By treating everyone with the same respect we wish to be treated, we can strive to be respectful and civil towards others in all of our actions.  Sometimes we may fall short, but remembering one of his famous quotes, “The time is always right to do what is right,” may help us on our journey.

Taking a look at Dr. King’s famous “I have a dream speech”, the following line is pretty powerful (OK, I know the whole speech is powerful, but bear with me):

“I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.”

A person’s character is critical.  No matter how successful one gets in life, his or her character is one of the few things they will not be able to “out-source” to someone else to “increase the bottom line” or “make it happen”.

Take a few minutes today to visit with a young person in your life about “character” and how important it is everyday to consistently make smart choices and good decisions.  As we all know…the good, the bad and the ugly: those choices and decisions stick with you for a lifetime!

 

 

In other news….

Early Bird Registration for the 5-8th grade programs is open, Click here to register.

  • Save $100 by registering now for a single season.
  • Or save $364 by taking advantage of the Multi-Season Discount.

 

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events have begun!

  • Click Here to access more information and to access the Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online.

 

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Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!
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Manner Monday®: Hurt Feelings

My Aunt passed away last week.  She would always send an email after reading Manner Monday with a kind word of encouragement and a thoughtful comment about the post.  She was such an amazing lady with a kind, gentle spirit.  Never a harsh or unkind word – she always found the silver lining in everything!  In honor of Aunt Linda, I wanted to share one of her favorite posts.  She would often tell me how much she enjoyed this one:

Kindergarten is tough… on a parent!

Our 5 year-old came home from school the other day with “hurt feelings”.  One of the other kiddos told our son that his hair looked funny.  As a parent, the “mama bear” in me started to come out:  then I got to thinking… this is life.  As a part of life, we deal with “hurt feelings” on a regular basis… someone didn’t like our idea during a meeting; someone chose our competitor over us; someone said something to us that we didn’t “like” and we took it personal.  What I’ve found myself repeating lately to our 5 year old is “we can’t control what other people do or say, the only thing we can control is how we react ”.  It’s been a great reminder for me, as an adult; we may not like what we heard, and we may not be able to change what was said, the only thing we have control over is our reaction.

Tweetable: “We can’t control what other people do or say, the only thing we can control is how we react.”

She was one of my biggest cheerleaders and always encouraged me to keep doing what I’m doing.  Thanks for letting me share with you about my Aunt Linda!   I wish you could have known her.

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Manner Monday®: How can I serve you better in 2015?

I’m getting more and more requests to offer Business Etiquette training for individuals and companies.  What would you like to know most about Business Etiquette and the strategy of navigating business lunches or networking events?  Would you like information or tools for your staff or team?  Or is there anything else you would like me to cover in 2015 to help you navigate business and social settings as an adult?

Will you please take a minute (I promise – it’s only one question) and fill out a short survey?
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I LOVE working with youth – but I also look forward to helping you grow and be the best you can be this year!

 

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Happy New Year!  

From our family to yours… We wish you and your family a Happy New Year and a Healthy and Prosperous 2015!  – Carey Sue, Ricardo, and Billy

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Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon (really soon) – don’t miss out!

  • Click Here to access more information and to access the Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online.


Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops

Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, Click Here to access the Business Section of the website.  Or please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: Holiday Party Circuit

It’s the season of Christmas and Holiday Parties!  Whether it’s a social gathering or a company celebration, parties are on the calendar and people are celebrating.  If you have the company party to attend, you may be interested in a recent Podcast Jessica hosted where we talked about How To Not Get Fired At Your Holiday Party.  As silly as it sounds, some really smart and normal people make bad choices after having too many adult beverages at the company party and, well… you know the rest of the story. I think we all have a story we could share, and some of those stories may hit a little close to home.  If so, it may be worth throwing yourself under the proverbial bus to share that story with a junior colleague who you may be mentoring, to hopefully keep him or her from doing the same thing.

Podcast:  click here for the link to the podcast with Jessica.

And here are some tips that may be helpful as well as you head out to the company party:

  1. Technology – Steer clear of excessive use of technology at the table or gathering.  This is a time for good old-fashioned “face-time”.
  2. No Show – Unless you have a legitimate excuse like the flu, you should always attend the office party.
  3. Low Show – Use good judgment when you dress for an office or holiday party. Don’t wear something too casual like jeans. Women should avoid low-cut blouses and short, tight skirts or dresses.
  4. Watch Your Mouth – Remember the office party is an office function, so don’t be negative, tell inappropriate jokes or bring up controversial topics. You never know who will be there, such as a current or potential client.
  5. Flirting – Don’t even think about it!!  Your job is at stake here.
  6. Too Much Fun – Remember that office holiday parties are still an office function. Limit yourself to one or two drinks.
  7. Mix and Mingle – Refrain from holding court in the corner with your bestie.  Parties provide a great opportunity to meet new people and visit with others you don’t get to see very often.
  8. RSVP – You should always RSVP.  Pay close attention to how the invitation was addressed; you should never bring a child or guest who was not invited and who you didn’t RSVP for in advance.
  9. Hostess Gift – When attending a party or function in someone’s home, take a hostess gift. It can be a traditional holiday goody or something more unique like a book for the host’s child.
  10. Thank You Notes – Don’t forget to write – not e-mail – thank you notes for gifts and to party hosts.  This may seem archaic, but it it’s a little gesture that makes a huge impact.  When’s the last time you received a hand-written note?

By keeping these tips in mind you will be remembered for all of the right reasons… and you will save yourself from headlining the Monday morning water cooler gabfest.

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In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/high-school

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

– Carey Sue

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