Manner Monday®: Japanese Etiquette

One of our Students Hadley Griffith, from Shawnee, Oklahoma, had the amazing opportunity to travel to Japan last year.  In visiting with her, we thought it would be fun to share some Japanese Etiquette tips in case you get the chance to visit:

  • The Japanese do not approve of male/female touching in public.
  • The American ‘okay’ sign means “money” in Japan.
  • Pointing is considered impolite.  Instead, you wave your hand, palm up, toward the object in reference.
  • The Japanese do not engage in backslapping or other forms of touching.
  • In Japan, it’s rude to blow your nose in public.
  • The Japanese non-visual ‘space bubble’ that appears between two people is farther apart in Japan.
  • When entering someones home, remove your shoes and leave them by the door.  You will put on the ‘house slippers’ provided, and will exchange them again for ‘toilet slippers’ if you need to visit the bathroom.
  • When greeting, if someone bows to you – observe their bow carefully.  If they are a peer (or an equal), bow to the same depth as the depth of the bow is indicative of the relationship between you.  Don’t forget to lower your eyes as you bow.

When eating:

  • Meals are long, and sometimes go until after 10:00pm.
  • Never point your chopsticks at another person. If you are not using them, line them up on the chopstick rest.
  • Use both hands on a bowl or cup to signal a refill.
  • If eating in a private home, you will sit on the floor cross-legged, or with your legs to the side.

More from Hadley:

“I recently had an amazing opportunity to visit Nikaho, Japan with the Shawnee Sister Cities program along with seven other students and two adults. My name is Hadley Griffith and the other delegates are Carly Fisher, Lauren Canaday, Kate Barrett, Abby Morris, Rose Templeton, Josh Floyd, and Jaxon Canard. The adults are Jessica Brown and Beth Polston.We visited Tokyo, swam in the Sea of Japan, and watched the Kanto festival in Akita, Japan. We all experienced the japanese culture in different ways through our host family and the neat things they took us to do. For example I visited Mt. Chai, shopped at a huge mall in Akita, and ate japanese cuisine in an ancient japanese home. Our experience was culminated with a banquet in our honor where we dressed in traditional Japanese Kimonos and performed a song and dance for the audience. As a group, I think we all enjoyed the people we encountered on our trip. Everyone was very kind and selfless. We felt like movie stars everywhere we went. I had the opportunity to give a speech to a school in Nikaho and their reaction was amazing. All the students smiled and clapped like I was a professional speaker. As a group we also met many Japanese teenagers who acted like we were their best friends. It was truly the trip of a lifetime!”

Hadley

 

 

 

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • The Interview Intensive begins in October, click here for more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/interview-intensive-10-12th-grades
  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

 

 

 

 

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Manner Monday®: Soup

Every time I speak at a lunch or dinner workshop – we talk about eating soup in the presence of others.  Yes, at home, some of us may pick it up like a coffee mug and slurp… but hopefully not in public!

And each year when Columbus Day rolls around, the legendary poem many of us learned as children in history class pops into my head…

In fourteen hundred ninety-two

     Columbus sailed the ocean blue.

He had three ships and left from Spain;

     He sailed through sunshine, wind and rain…

Ok, ok, I’ll stop there… sorry to get that stuck in your head.

Thinking about the poem is very handy when you are trying to navigate soup somewhat gracefully in the presence of others…

    As a ship sails out to sea, I sail my spoon away from me.

By “sailing your spoon away”, any precarious drips will drip away from you, instead of on your shirt or tie.   And if your soup is SO delicious you’re trying to figure out how to get the last few scoops (without picking it up like a coffee cup)… keep the same poem in mind and tilt your bowl away from you.  Again, if you fumble your soup bowl while tilting, the soup will sail away from you and not end up in your lap.

 

Soup sailing.pdf

 

 

 

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • The Interview Intensive begins in October, click here for more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/interview-intensive-10-12th-grades
  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: Hosiery or Stockings, should I?

Last week I spoke at the Oklahoma State University Spears School of Business to their undergraduate students.  After the presentation, I had many students come up to ask one-on-one questions – which were really well thought out and awesome!  One of the young ladies asked about wearing hosiery, aka “stockings” to an interview, and if it was a ‘must’, or a ‘deal-breaker’ if she didn’t.

Coming from a Millennial, her question caught me a bit off guard. Other than the trend of tights during winter months, I tend to associate hosiery more with the Boomer crowd.  Sorry, no offense to the Boomers out there!

I believe instead of being a rule of Etiquette or Protocol, it has evolved into something much more complicated. 
I personally think it boils down to a number of things:

  • Generational issues – Your Grandmother would not even consider stepping out in public with bare legs. Stockings are a must for her wardrobe!
  • Are your legs able to stand on their own without the gentle camouflage or support that stockings provide?
  • Time of year – will your legs have goose bumps and be pasty … Summer – not a problem.  Winter, bleh – opt for tights.
  • Flat out preference – Some people feel more confident WITH stockings, other people can’t stand them.
  • And last but not least: Depends on what company you will be keeping…. If you’re with a more ‘mature’ (meaning older) group, then out of respect I would don hosiery.

My answer to her in the end was to do a bit of research. As she’s preparing for her interview and researching the company, go ahead and find out what the company culture is when it comes to dress code; and let that be her guide.  And if there is any question, it’s best to err on the safe side and slip on some stockings.

And we can thank Kate Middleton for making tights look oh so chic!

Kate Middleton

 

 

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • The Interview Intensive begins in October, click here for more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/interview-intensive-10-12th-grades
  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: ‘Thank-you’ = You’re hired!

You’ve heard me time and time again talking about the importance of a hand written ‘thank-you’ note.  We’ve come to expect a thank-you note after sending a wedding present, or a baby gift.  But in the world of business, when you receive that UN-expected note in the mail – that’s the icing on the cake.  That’s the ‘wow’ that makes a difference!

And that simple act of putting pen to paper made a HUGE difference in the life of a local Oklahoma City Metro area resident.  After finding out what I do for a living – a few years ago our realtor, Wyatt Poindexter, shared this story with me.  I recently reached out to ask him if he’d put the story in writing so I could share it with you.

“In 1993 I moved to West Palm Beach to go to college. I talked a friend of mine to move out there with me. My friend, Bryan Pearson, started a new job at the Ibis Country Club Golf Course. One weekend he met Donald Trump at the club. The rain was delaying the golfing so Bryan spent the day talking with Trump. Bryan came back to our apartment and told me all about Trump. Bryan decided to write a “Thank-You” letter to Mr. Trump. About a week letter Trump calls Bryan at our apartment and invited him over for dinner at his famous Mar-a-Lago estate. Bryan went to Trumps house for dinner and Trump was so impressed with him and his letter that he offered him a job. Bryan’s new job was the head house manager of Mar-a-lago.”

Wow!  Now if that doesn’t demonstrate the power of a thank-you note – I don’t know what will.  Of course, every time you write a note, you can’t expect Donald Trump to hire you – but you never know what door it may open, or opportunity it may present.

donald-trump-hired
Special Announcements:

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our Passport Party is fast-approaching and will take place, Thursday, October 2.  It’s a great way to meet new friends and learn about the program.  Here is the link to more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-party

  • The Interview Intensive begins in October, click here for more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/interview-intensive-10-12th-grades
  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

Don’t miss out – Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

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Manner Monday®: Cuff Links

We recently had pins made for our Student Ambassadors; lapel pins for the gentlemen, and pins with sparkly crystals for the ladies.  When the samples arrived, the company also sent cuff link examples.  I loved the cuff links, but personally thought our young men would not be interested.  Boy was I wrong!  Most of the gentlemen insisted they would were the cuff links, even to the point of saying they would purchase them themselves.  Then one of them asked, ‘what’s the purpose of cuff links, when you can just use the buttons that came with the shirt instead?’  So you know what I told them… that’s a great question, and it makes a great topic for Manner Monday – so here it is.

History
We can thank the French for the invention.  Prior to the 16th century and the reign of Louis XIV, men wore ruffled wristbands that were fitted with ‘cuff strings’. But of course simple strings were not enough for Louis XIV; he preferred using diamond buttons in lieu of the strings.  One of his coats featured 125 diamond buttons – I guess he was going for something simple (I’m kidding!).  For those who didn’t have access to diamonds, they would use glass buttons to replicate the look.

In the 19th century, cuff links were the norm, and by the Victorian period, both cuff links and shirt studs became essential parts of a gentleman’s wardrobe.

Today
If you’re looking to add cuff links to your wardrobe, you have many options.  One of the most basic and popular styles today is the silk knot, which is two small knots, woven together with a connecting thread.  Or maybe you’re in the market for something other than silk, you can search eBay and other vintage websites to find some real treasures that are reasonably priced.  You might even ask a grandparent or other family member if they have a pair, there’s a pretty good chance they have something tucked away that they would be happy to pass along.

Alternate Use
I remember reading an article on napkin rings awhile back that offered up a really fun and unique repurpose idea for cuff links.  When hosting a dinner part, use vintage cuff links as napkin rings (pairing with ribbon or material), to identify partners. Then each couple will take their cuff links home as a party favor at the end of the evening.

Conversation Starters
Cufflinks can end up being great conversation starters.  When you see someone wearing them, use it as a fantastic way to break the ice.  There is a pretty good chance they’ll have a story to go with their cuff links to get the conversation started.

photo

 

Special Announcements:

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Don’t miss out – Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, September 23, Skirvin
  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

9-12th Grade Levels:  Registration is open and will continue with the Early Bird discount into the fall.  Register early to avoid the waiting list.

  • 9-12th Grade registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

As always, thanks for reading!
- Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: Disability Etiquette

For the past few years, I’ve worked with the Oklahoma Developmental Disabilities Council.  Every summer they put on an amazing camp, the Youth Leadership Forum.  I can’t say enough about the remarkable work Ann, Jen, and their team do for our state!

The Youth Leadership Forum is always one of my favorite events during the year, and I always feel like I end up learning more from the students than I think they learn from me!

Here are a few things about Disability Etiquette that I think are important:

Don’t let fear keep you from getting to know people who have a disability.  Remember: a person with a disability is a person with feelings. Treat him or her with the same respect you wish to be treated.

You cannot always see a disability. If a person acts unusual or seems different, just be yourself.  Let common sense and friendship break down any barriers you may encounter.

Key Points of Disability Etiquette:

  • Don’t stare.  Staring is disrespectful and makes people feel uneasy.
  • Avoid asking personal questions about someone’s disability. If you must ask, be sensitive and show respect.
  • Be considerate of the extra time it might take for a person with a disability to do or say something.
  • Be polite and patient when offering assistance, and wait until your offer is accepted. Listen or ask for specific instructions.
  • Refer to a person’s disability only when necessary and appropriate.
  • Use people first language – refer to the individual first, then to his or her disability.  It is better to say “the person with a disability,” rather than “the disabled person.” Other examples of people first language are:  Uses a wheelchair; has cerebral palsy (CP) or other condition; person with Down syndrome; person with Autism; person with a mental or emotional disorder.
  • Don’t pet or distract a guide dog.  The dog is responsible for the owner’s safety and is always working.  It is not a pet.

One of the biggest lessons I have learned is to speak to the person with the disability, not just to the ones accompanying him or her.  It may take a little more time and effort in the exchange – but it will be well worth your time to focus on the individual.  Put yourself in their position, you would want the same courtesy extended to you – right?!

photo

 

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Manner Monday®: Assumptions

In the world of manners, etiquette and professionalism, we talk a lot about ‘first impressions’.  Right, wrong, or indifferent, a first impression can make or break you.  First impressions can also be wrong.  Have you ever had a bad day?  Have you ever fumbled a first impression?  It happens – and it’s really hard to recover from.  If you think about it, a first impression is really an assumption, an assumption formed of the person in front of you:

  • How are they dressed?  Do they look like a million bucks?  They may have picked up that designer suit at a resale shop.
  • Are they carrying a high-end handbag?  It may have been a gift.
  • Are they driving a luxury car?  It may be an older model that has been paid off for years and is the only reliable thing they have in their life right now.

I’m guilty of it.  I’ve looked at a person, sized them up, and assumed I had a pretty good handle on them from the get go – only to find out I’d made a mistake.

Where you ever taught that trick about separating out the word assume?  If you haven’t, ask around – it’s a fun reminder that we don’t want to fall into the trap of assuming anything!

photo

Special Announcements:

Don’t forget to register now and save $50 with the ‘Summer Special’ rate, which is open through July 31.
Registration is in full swing for our 5-8th grade programs that begin this Fall and classes are fulling up quickly.
And yes, a deposit can still be made to secure their spot!
For more information, visit the registration page on the website:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/registration

etc…
The highest compliment you can give us is a referral to your friends and coworkers. Please share our registration and contact information with any families you think might be interested in participating in our program.

Each year we build on the previous year as we add to the curriculum.  We have many students who continue with us each season, from our Level 5 (5th grade) program through our Passport (High School) Program.  Our goal with the continuous exposure, and gentle reminders, of the courtesies we teach over consecutive years – is to assist you in raising well-mannered young adults.

  • Continued Exposure:  Just as continued exposure to athletics and school homework reaps rewards; continued exposure to the social skills taught in our program will provide lifelong lessons that will benefit your child throughout the classroom and into the boardroom.
  • Benefits and Rewards:  One of the biggest rewards of our students returning year after year, is the virtual ‘light bulb’ that seems to turn on and stay on; the students are really starting to get it and they are very proud of themselves.  Their confidence is building.  We’ve highlighted some of our graduating seniors on my blog at www.CareySueVega.com/?s=senior+spotlight

5-8th Grade Levels:  We encourage you to register early to take advantage of the ‘Summer Special’ discount.  Regular tuition for the 2014-2015 season will be $425.

  • All Families, ‘Summer Special’ $375 by July 31
  • 5-8th Grade registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/registration

9-12th Grade Levels:  Registration is open and will continue with the Early Bird discount into the fall.  Register early to avoid the waiting list.

  • 9-12th Grade registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I’m busy booking projects and working on presentations for clients and am already scheduling well into the Fall!  Thank you so much for your continued support for this part of my business!

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!
- Carey Sue

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Manner Monday®: The Other Side of Customer Service

During the Customer Service workshops I’ve recently conducted, we always cover ‘how’ to provide Great Customer service.  We talk about what it is, and what it isn’t.  It’s always a fun exercise to discuss how we’ve come to learn what good Customer Service is.  Not too many people have stories from childhood of their parents pointing out great customer service examples and saying, ‘hey, Junior, did you notice that interaction, that was a great example of good customer service’.

And, of course, it always comes up about how badly those providing Great Customer Service unfortunately get mistreated.  From being ignored, to being yelled at, you can imagine – it’s not always pleasant.  So much so, that it’s sometimes not very motivating to continue doing the right thing.

As the Customer, we need to be aware of our actions as well during the interaction with the service provider.

Put away the Cell Phone
Engage with the clerk, smile and give them your full attention…not your cell phone.

Give them a Compliment
I’ll never forget the time we were travelling through an airport and I noticed one of the custodial ladies and was drawn to the fact that her hair looked especially nice, so I looked her in the eye and said, “Your hair looks so nice”.  She stopped, dead in her tracks, and looked at me a bit puzzled (I think she was expecting a complaint or some other rant)… then she realized I had given her a compliment.  Her face lit up and a smile appeared from ear to ear as she said “thank-you”.

It’s amazing – the power of an honest and sincere compliment, and how it can add a bit of pep to someone’s step.

Don’t take out your frustrations on them
There’s a pretty good chance that the person in front of you is not directly responsible for the problem at hand.  If they are, then you need to take the situation to their supervisor, in a professional manner.  Treating the clerk rudely and inappropriately will get you nowhere – fast!  By treating them in a professional and responsible manner, we are showing them respect, and they will in turn, hopefully show us respect and help to resolve the situation quickly.

upset customer

Special Announcements:

Don’t forget to register now and save $50 with the ‘Summer Special’ rate, which is open through July 31.
Registration is in full swing for our 5-8th grade programs that begin this Fall and classes are fulling up quickly.
And yes, a deposit can still be made to secure their spot!
For more information, visit the registration page on the website:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/registration

etc…
The highest compliment you can give us is a referral to your friends and coworkers. Please share our registration and contact information with any families you think might be interested in participating in our program.

Each year we build on the previous year as we add to the curriculum.  We have many students who continue with us each season, from our Level 5 (5th grade) program through our Passport (High School) Program.  Our goal with the continuous exposure, and gentle reminders, of the courtesies we teach over consecutive years – is to assist you in raising well-mannered young adults.

  • Continued Exposure:  Just as continued exposure to athletics and school homework reaps rewards; continued exposure to the social skills taught in our program will provide lifelong lessons that will benefit your child throughout the classroom and into the boardroom.
  • Benefits and Rewards:  One of the biggest rewards of our students returning year after year, is the virtual ‘light bulb’ that seems to turn on and stay on; the students are really starting to get it and they are very proud of themselves.  Their confidence is building.  We’ve highlighted some of our graduating seniors on my blog at www.CareySueVega.com/?s=senior+spotlight

5-8th Grade Levels:  We encourage you to register early to take advantage of the ‘Summer Special’ discount.  Regular tuition for the 2014-2015 season will be $425.

  • All Families, ‘Summer Special’ $375 by July 31
  • 5-8th Grade registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/registration

9-12th Grade Levels:  Registration is open and will continue with the Early Bird discount into the fall.  Register early to avoid the waiting list.

  • 9-12th Grade registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I’m busy booking projects and working on presentations for clients and am already scheduling well into the Fall!  Thank you so much for your continued support for this part of my business!

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!
- Carey Sue

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Manner Monday®: Sporks, Saltcellars, and Knife Rests, oh my!

As our students are out and about living life, they often stumble across old-fashioned table accessories that make them scratch their heads and ask, what in the world?  Sporks, Salt Cellars, and Knife Rests are all items we’ve received texts, or pictures posted via social media, with the questions of what and why?

So here’s the scoop…

Sporks
A few years ago, one of our students texted me, with a bit of good humor, asking about the plastic ‘spork’ in his KFC to-go order and if it should it be placed on the left or the right when setting the table… much to his surprise, I had a little history to share with him – which turned into a pretty fun text exchange.  I wish I had thought to get a screen shot of our dialogue, it was pretty funny.  Needless to say, he was shocked to learn that KFC didn’t invent the “spork”.  The spork (a spoon and fork hybrid) dates back to the late 1800’s.  The predecessor to our contemporary plastic spork is the ‘terrapin fork’ (yes, you read that correctly) or the ‘ice cream spoon’.  So to answer his question, I tossed it back to him to ask for which course he plans to use the ‘spork’.  That would help me with my suggestion for the placement of it.  If it’s for ‘terrapin’ during the meal, then it would go to the left with the other ‘forks’, if it’s for ice cream, it would be placed to the top of the place setting where the dessert utensils are found.  Or in his case, KFC, it really doesn’t matter where it’s placed, because he’s probably eating in his lap, out of a paper bag.

With his newfound knowledge, he said he’s holding out to win a chocolate bar sometime in the near future – or, if he ever appears on Jeopardy, he’s hopes to say “Sporks for $500 Alex”.

Here are some pictures of different types of ‘sporks’ for your enjoyment.

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Saltcellars
A Saltcellar is a lidded or open vessel with a miniature spoon, which is placed on the dining table and used to dispense salt – in lieu of a modern saltshaker.  Use of saltcellars date back as early as Classical Greek and Roman times and continued through the first half of the 20th century.  They started falling out of favor with the introduction of free flowing salt in 1911, and have for the most part become obsolete with the convenience of saltshakers.

At the height of their glory, during the Middle Ages, elaborate master saltcellars evolved.  These works of art were placed at the head table and the large vessel was a sign of status and prosperity and was always prominently displayed.  In addition to the master salt (the big Kahuna), smaller, simpler saltcellars were distributed for diners to share.

The social status of guests could easily be identified by their positions relative to the master’s large salt cellar: high-ranking guests sat above the salt while those of lesser importance sat below the salt.

Here’s a picture of one of the most famous saltcellars made for Francis I of France, 1540-1543:

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A modern version from Tiffany:

Tiffany-Co.-Salt-Cellars

Knife Rests
Technically, once you’ve used a utensil and it’s ‘dirty’, you’re not supposed to place it back on the table.  The reasoning was so that diners would not soil the tablecloth with a grimy utensil, hence the job of the knife rest.   Modern knife rests came about in the late 17th or early 18th century, but they originally can be tied to the times of Henry VIII.

Another fun fact about the dinner, or table, knife is the distinguishing feature of a blunt or rounded end. The origin of this, and thus of the table knife itself, dates back to the 1600’s; supposedly to cure dinner guests of the unsavory habit of picking their teeth with their knife-points.  In 1669, King Louis XIV of France banned pointed knives in the street and at his table, insisting on blunt tips, in order to reduce violence.  This history is helpful when setting the table; it’s a fun way to remember that you always place the blade of the knife towards your plate – and not towards your neighbor, think of it as helping to ‘keep the peace’.

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Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I’m busy booking projects and working on presentations for clients and am already scheduling well into the Fall!  Thank you so much for your continued support for this part of my business!

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!
- Carey Sue

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Manner Monday®: Airplane and Travel Etiquette

Many families are heading out on summer vacation.  For many, that means hitting the airport.

For the frequent flyer, they know the rules of Airplane and Travel Etiquette inside and out!  But for families who don’t fly on a regular basis, airline travel can be a bit overwhelming and it can add undo stress to the family vacation.  Don’t let the stress override your end goal of relaxing and having fun.

Look at this also as a great opportunity to teach your kids how to be gracious travelers.  Point out the good, the bad, and the ugly and have conversations.  One of these days they’ll be travelling on their own and you want to make sure they have the tools to be good travelers… not ‘tacky tourists’.

Here are a few of the things you may encounter during your trip and some tips to help you navigate them comfortable and confidently.

Escalators and Moving Sidewalks
Think of moving sidewalks and escalators as a highway. Slower traffic (standing) in the right lane, faster traffic (walking) in the left lane. When driving on a highway, if you stop in the middle of the rode, you create a traffic jam, or worse, an accident… same thing happens on people movers. Add to the mix, people pulling luggage, pushing small children in strollers, the elderly who may be feeling unstable… you get the picture. When you step off the escalator or moving sidewalk, if you need to get your bearings before moving on, make sure you step aside completely clear of traffic to alleviate an accident.

Also, it’s always a good idea to “hold on”, you’d hate to lose your balance and create the domino effect down the escalator.

Trams
Just like an elevator, you need to wait for those exiting to clear the doorways before you start to enter.  Everyone is in a hurry, and everyone wants to be the first off – but everyone also needs to get onto the tram.  As you enter, move towards the back to make way for the others.  Once you find your spot, “hold on”.  Not only will you need to hold on to the pole to secure yourself, but you also need to hold on to your personal effects, those little trams can fly… sending your carryon on a little journey of its own!

Carry On Bags
If you’re carrying on your luggage and have more than one bag, take time BEFORE you board the plane to organize your bags.  Determine which one will be your ‘below bag’ and which will be your ‘above bag’.  The below bag should contain items you’ll need during the flight such as water, technology, medicine, etc.  The above bag contains everything else that’s not needed during the flight.

Don’t be a ‘bin hog’.  Keep your bag to a manageable size.  Don’t overstuff it – you know how big (or should I say little) those bins are!!! (If you’re traveling for the first time and do not know the size – you can look at the requirements on the airlines website.)

Who gets the armrest?
Technically the person in middle seat gets the short end of the stick all the way around, so let’s at least gives them the arm rests!  If we look at it logically, the outer seats both have the outside armrests and space to lean into.  Again, the person in the middle seat is stuck with no place to go – so let’s cut them some slack.  Look at it as the consolation prize for being stuck in the middle.

Sleeping Seatmates
There’s not getting around them – literally.  If you try, you’ll find yourself in a very awkward position mid-straddle when then wake up!  Gently nudge them and say ‘excuse me’.  They’ll understand – it’s part of travelling.

Chatty Cathy
If you’re not in the mood to talk, put on the ear buds and plug in.  Or open a book and read.  If your seatmate keeps trying to talk to you, you can gently say something like ‘I would love to visit, but I’m in the middle of this book and am trying to finish it during this flight’.

And who knows, everything is meant for a reason, maybe you need to engage in the conversation, you may learn something, or meet someone new and it might be well worth the ‘interruption’.

Dress Code
Gone are the days of dressing up to travel, but some travelers have taken dressing down to a whole new level.  Please leave the pajamas and house shoes at home.  You can still be comfortable and look respectable.  And if you feel like kicking off your shoes in flight – make sure you’re wearing clean socks that are ‘odor free’.  One time on an overseas flight, I had to endure a seatmate who not only kicked off her shoes, but proceeded to prop her bare (stinky) feet up on the headrest in front of her.  Needless to say, I lost my appetite during that flight!

Kids and travel
Having a child myself, I know traveling can be a bit of a nightmare when they’re toddlers: and as a parent, we do just about anything possible to keep the little tykes entertained, so they don’t “entertain” the other travelers.  Unfortunately though, we get so caught up in keeping Junior occupied, that we sometimes forget we may be “occupying” our neighbor’s space as well.  If you take along technology, don’t forget the headsets/ear buds.  If they’re playing games and don’t have their ear buds in – turn the sound off.

I recently stumbled across a great little accessory we use when traveling, it’s a “splitter” attachment to allow access for two sets of headphones to be plugged into one device.  This little gadget has worked wonders on long trips as we can watch a movie, or listen to music, together and it helps to keep us from “disturbing the peace”.

It’s all in the ‘tude
Keep a positive attitude!  Things happen, fights get delayed, and people get cranky.  If you keep a positive attitude – you’ll get much farther.  The old saying ‘you catch more flies with honey’ is a great rule of thumb to remember when the situation gets sticky!  Being nice may be the difference of getting on that overbooked flight vs. being stuck in the airport with the other sourballs that were yelling at the gate agents!

A friend who frequently travels for business shared this commercial.  As he mentioned in the post, ‘this about sums it all up perfectly for me….Its not about the advertisement – just what’s going on around her.’

If you are traveling through airports this summer, have a great vacation!

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