Manner Monday®: Why do we wear black for funerals?

I recently attended a funeral for the father of a dear friend of mine. We were all visiting, when she said her 8 year old son had a question for me… he asked ‘why are we supposed to wear black for funerals?’ Other than as a sign of respect, I didn’t have the complete ‘why’ to answer his question – and I’m a big fan of knowing the ‘why’ behind social rules and customs. So I reached out to another friend, Stephen Zahn, who is the General Manager for Hahn-Cook/Street & Draper Funeral Directors at Rose Hill Burial Park. Stephen gladly agreed to write a blog post to answer the question in a bit more detail for us.   Thanks Stephen!

Why do we wear black to funerals?

“We mourn in black.” (Shakespeare)

The custom of wearing black funeral attire, or mourning clothes, can be traced back to the Roman Empire. Ancient Greeks and Romans wore black for periods of mourning after the death of a family member, especially for the funeral and procession accompanying the body to the burial site. Ancient Mourners clothes might be worn for up to a year after the death.

Throughout Western History public signs of mourning relied on symbolism, such as black clothing, to indicate a relationship to the deceased. Black mourning clothes were considered a mark of respect, and their absence could be interpreted as disrespect or nonchalance.

IMG_9584 During the Middle Ages and Renaissance, distinctive mourning was worn for the general as well as personal loss. Formal mourning and mourning attire culminated during the reign of Queen Victoria. After the death of her husband, Prince Albert, Victoria wore only black until her own death 42 years later. It was not unusual for the British Court to declare that all citizens should wear full mourning for a specified period after the death of a monarch.

By the 19th Century, mourning behavior in Europe had developed into a complex set of rules, particularly among the upper class. Women bore the greatest burden of these customs. They involved wearing heavy, concealing, black clothing, and the use of heavy veils of black crepe. The entire ensemble was known as widow’s weeds (from the Old English “weed” meaning “garment”.)

For the United States, mourning generally has followed English forms. However, faith in a particular religion plays a major role in whether black or white is worn at a funeral. For example, for the almost 4% of Americans who practice Hinduism or Buddhism, white is the traditional color for funeral attire. White symbolizes purity.

Mourning attire has become less customary since the mid twentieth century. It is still customary, though not as universal, to indicate mourning through somber, semi-formal dress, particularly at the funeral and among the family and close friends of the deceased.

Do you have a ‘manner’ or question you would like to see covered in a post?  Feel free to send me your thoughts, I would love to hear from you. My goal is to help my students to feel more comfortable and confident in the social and professional skills; do you know someone who would enjoy this post?  If so, please share it and encourage them to sign up to receive Manner Monday?  I would appreciate it!

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Back to School time for Adults too;  Adults, are YOU ready for a great Continuing Education opportunity? The Executive Success Series begins in September.  Research shows that 85 percent of success in the business world hinges on your soft skills, and only 15 percent on your technical skills. Yet many people do not take the time to invest in the most critical part of their professional training, the crucial social skills that enhance your ability to communicate, negotiate, and lead which helps you build relationships and close deals. Are you ready to invest in your 85 percent? Click here to register now, space is limited!  Registration closes Monday, August 31.

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Thanks for reading!
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  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • Dude your Rude! Interoffice civility awareness and team building
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress
  • Trade Show Booth Training

Word of Mouth is the best compliment you can give.  Do you know of some who may be interested in our programs, please share our information with them.  Here is the best link to share with them, it covers everything in a nutshell:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/

 

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Manner Monday®: Prom Etiquette

Ahhhhh, the fun and excitement of prom season …and the nervousness about “what to do.”  With Prom season upon us, I thought I’d share a few tips and reminders for teens headed out for this special occasion.

Gentlemen:

  • Tuxedo – if you’re renting a tuxedo, make sure to go early for your fitting. When the tuxedo is available for pick up, make sure to go as soon as possible in case alterations need to be made. If you wait until the last minute, you’ll be hit with a rush fee, and more than likely tux that doesn’t fit too well.
  • Open doors for your date.
  • Offer your arm, like the gentleman you are, to escort your date to and from the car to the restaurant and the prom location.
  • Stand and assist her with her chair…no matter how many times she ‘excuses’ herself from the table.
  • When entering a limousine, gentlemen enter first.  It is much easier for the guys to manage the awkwardness of crawling into the large area with their tuxedo or suit versus the ladies in their formal gowns and high heels.  The driver is there to open and close the door.

Ladies:

  • Dresses – Strapless dresses continue to be a dress-of-choice for many young ladies.  Unfortunately, once they’ve had the dress on for any length of time, they don’t realize they’re continually tugging on, and rearranging it.  Try implementing this rule:  if you choose to wear a strapless dress, once you put it on… don’t touch it again. And if you do need to adjust, discreetly excuse yourself to the ladies room. Keep in mind; your goal is to not only look great, but to feel confident and comfortable.
  • Do not go to the bathroom in ‘groups’, it leaves the gentlemen left alone at the table wondering what you are saying about them.
  • Do not put on make-up or fix your hair at the table, save this for your solo trip to the restroom.

Tips for Everyone:

  • For the most part, leave your cell phones alone for the evening.  It’s ok to snap pictures, but save the posting for later. DO NOT ignore your date while you continuously text your best friend or update your social media.  Treat your date with the same respect you would like, and that means giving your date your undivided attention, not your phone. Focus on good old-fashioned ‘face time’!
  • Please” and “Thank you” go along way in making your date feel appreciated.
  • Gum – get rid of it in favor of a mint.  You are dressed up, looking like a million bucks and ready for the red carpet …don’t ruin it by chomping on your gum.
  • Yes, the ladies are perfectly capable of opening their own doors and getting seated by themselves – but letting a gentleman be a gentleman and allowing him to show a bit of chivalry always makes for a nice evening.

Who pays for what?:

  • Traditional rules were that the gentleman pays for everything.
  • Modern rules say that whoever invites pays. Modern rules also say that it’s all right to go ‘dutch’ (which means you share expenses).
  • Either is rule is okay and perfectly acceptable. The best approach is to have a conversation early on to make decisions together so it doesn’t become a stressful event.

Reminding teens that manners aren’t just ‘old school’ rules that are arbitrary or outdated – they’re rules and guidelines to help make you feel comfortable, enabling you to make others around you feel comfortable, too.  Keeping that in mind while treating your date with the respect you wish to receive will ensure that everyone has a great time!

And the best part is you’ll have great memories to look back on 30 years later… like this great pic of me and some of my high school friends! (Yes, that’s me on the right in the black dress with a HUGE hot pink bow!)

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Do you have a ‘manner’ or question you would like to see covered in a post?  Feel free to send me your thoughts, I would love to hear from you.

As always;  Thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue


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  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • Dude your Rude! Interoffice civility awareness and team building
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress
  • Trade Show Booth Training

Word of Mouth is the best compliment you can give.  Do you know of some who may be interested in our programs, please share our information with them.  Here is the best link to share with them, it covers everything in a nutshell:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/

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Manner Monday®: White-Tie Tails and Tuxedos

If you’ve been near any TV or social media, you know that Oscar night has been trending:  the red carpet, the beautiful dresses, and of course… the Tuxedo.

tuxedo.jpg The traditional tuxedo is classic and timeless.  Originally called a “dinner jacket” in England, the suit made it’s way to Tuxedo Park, New York, where members wore the jacket to the Tuxedo Club in the early 1900’s.  As the men traveled to New York City they would don their classic dinner jacket for evenings out in the Big Apple and the style was quickly adapted as the norm; referencing the men from the Tuxedo Club, the “Tuxedo” was born.

 

white tie

For the Downton Abbey fans, you may have noticed in the first few seasons the men wore traditional tailcoats (white tie and tails, aka orchestra conductor regalia) for dinner. The past few seasons, the dress code has become a bit more relaxed and the gentlemen are now donning classic tuxedo suits at the table. Change is something everyone is not always keen on, as we watched when Lady Dowager said to Robert Crawley who was dressed ‘down’ for dinner (black tie instead of white), “Why are you in your rompers?”

 

Who was your favorite Oscar attendee sporting a traditional Tuxedo?  I think my vote may go to Leonardo DiCaprio.

LeoTux

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Do you have a ‘manner’ or question you would like to see covered in a post?  Feel free to send me your thoughts, I would love to hear from you.

As always;  Thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue


In other news….

Do you know of a 5th-12th grader who would benefit from improved social skills, confidence (the right kind of confidence) and better manners?  We have a few options for them…

Early Bird Registration for the 2016-2017 Season 5-8th grade programs is open, Click here to register.

  • Save $100 by registering by March 1 for a single season.
  • Or save $364 by taking advantage of the Multi-Season Discount.

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program

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Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • Dude your Rude! Interoffice civility awareness and team building
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress
  • Trade Show Booth Training

Word of Mouth is the best compliment you can give.  Do you know of some who may be interested in our programs, please share our information with them.  Here is the best link to share with them, it covers everything in a nutshell:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/

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Manner Monday®: ‘Should I wear Pantyhose?’

Pantyhose, to be or not to be – that is the question… that continually comes up when I’m speaking to Millenials. During a recent presentation, one of the young ladies asked about wearing pantyhose, aka ‘hosiery’, ‘stockings’ to an interview and did I recommend them.

I believe instead of being a rule of Etiquette or Protocol, it has evolved into something much more complicated. 
I personally think it boils down to a number of things:

  1. Before the interview, do some research on the company culture. If the atmosphere is conservative and traditional, then bust out the hose. If the organization is more casual and a bit on the trendy side, I’d say bare legs would be acceptable.
  2. Generational issues; if your Grandmother is a Traditionalist, she would not even consider stepping out in public with bare legs. Stockings are a must for her wardrobe! 
 So if you’ll be with a more ‘mature’ (meaning older) group, then out of respect I would don hosiery.
  3. Are your legs able to stand on their own without the gentle camouflage or support that stockings provide?
  4. Time of year – will your legs have goose bumps and be pasty … Summer – not a problem. Winter, bleh – opt for hosiery.
  5. Flat out preference – Some people feel more confident WITH stockings, other people can’t stand them.

My answer to her in the end was to do a bit of research. As she’s preparing for her interview and researching the company, go ahead and find out what the company culture is when it comes to dress code; and let that be her guide. And if there is any question, it’s best to err on the safe side and slip on some stockings.

After that, I suggested that all of the ladies search the Internet for pictures of the Duchess of Cambridge, Kate Middleton! (Spoiler alert, she often wears hosiery!) I love her sense of style. She’s a great role model for young professional women in so many ways. And I love how she doesn’t have to break the bank to look good. You can easily find Kate’s preferred choice of pantyhose by googling the topic. In case you’re curious, they run about $9US. Sensible, smart and fashionable – she’s a great role model to follow for clothing cues.

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If you found this post helpful, would you mind sharing it with someone else you think might enjoy it and encourage them to sign up to receive Manner Monday?  I would appreciate it!  And if you’re new to Manner Monday, I’d love for you to take a minute to learn more about why I started it. You can click here to read my very first post (five years ago – yowzer) that tells all about it.

Do you have a ‘manner’ or question you would like to see covered in a post?  Feel free to send me your thoughts, I would love to hear from you.

As always – Thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

Hosiery

On another note…

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Research shows that 85 percent of success in the business world hinges on your soft skills, and only 15 percent on your technical skills. Yet many people do not take the time to invest in the most critical part of their professional training, the crucial social skills that enhance your ability to communicate, negotiate, and lead which helps you build relationships and close deals. Are you ready to invest in your 85 percent?
Click here to register now, space is limited!
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Youth Programs
Registration is under way for our 5-12th grade programs that start soon.  Don’t miss out – register today!

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We have a few of styles and designs of personalized youth stationery available.  We also have darling place mats that help the little ones in your life get a jump-start on their table manners and make dining more fun.  Here is the link to the shop.

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Manner Monday®: Treating Others Like A Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader

I was recently at the Dallas Love Field airport, getting ready to board the same flight as a small group of 10 Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders. It was obvious who they were as they all had matching Cowboy Cheerleader logo luggage. They were beautiful young ladies. They were dressed respectfully, and they had flawless hair and makeup. They looked camera ready, which I think I’ve heard is part of their contract. If I haven’t already painted a good enough picture for you, I’m sure you can imagine it was definitely fun people watching in the waiting area. Between the grown men and women who were literally tripping over themselves as they walked by, turning to get a better look, to the sweet young girls who were looking up to the Cheerleaders with huge smiles.

What I really loved about the whole process was how the Cheerleaders stopped and put their technology away and would give each little girl 100% of their attention and focus and ask the little girl questions as if she was the star. The exchange always ended up with the parent getting a picture of the young girl with her new BFF’s.

I’m sure the Cheerleaders receive extensive training on how to act in public, but it was reassuring to see the interaction and what appeared to be their genuine interest in each person who approached them. They didn’t seem putout or annoyed, they truly acted as if it was their pleasure to accommodate the interruption.

For all of the negative stereotypes that are associated with the beauty behind the Cheerleader image, it was definitely enjoyable to watch how poised and professional these young ladies were. I’m thinking the training they’re receiving behind the scenes, as a Cheerleader, will serve them well into the next phases of their professional careers.

It all was a good reminder for me to treat the person I’m interacting with as if THEY were a Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader.

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In Other News…

I’m hosting a Free Webinar to learn more about our programs.  Do you know someone who may be interested? They can register for the free webinar that will take place Tuesday, April 14, by clicking on the button below. We only have a limited number of ‘seats’ so please sign up now!:Reg for webinar

During the webinar, I will go into detail about all of our programs for our:

  •  5-8th grade programs
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  • Adult Business Training
  • How the classes are setup
  • The M/F ratios
  •  And much, much more!

If you have a specific question you would like answered during the webinar, please feel free to shoot me an email via the ‘contact us’ form and I’ll make sure to include it. We’ll also have time at the end of the live webinar for Q&A, so no worries if you don’t have a question now.

AND if for some reason you’re not able to make it to the live webinar, please go ahead and register anyway, we will send a recording of the event out to everyone who registered so you can watch it at your convenience.

 

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

 

 

 

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Manner Monday®: Old School Etiquette

I love it when former students send interesting links to articles related to Etiquette!

Thanks Helena and Isabel for passing on the article that recently appeared in Mental Floss, 5 Ways to Avoid Being Rude (According to 100-Year-Old Etiquette Rules).  I love the history of Etiquette, along with the evolution of Etiquette and how many of the ‘old school’ rules, are actually still applicable today.  In the article, the author references a book written in the early 1900’s by Dr. Jefferis.  When talking about women and clothing, Dr. Jefferis writes, “For women are like books – too much gilding makes men suspicious, that the binding is the most important part. The body is the shell of the soul, and the dress is the husk of the body; but the husk generally tells what the kernel is. As a fashionably dressed young lady passed some gentlemen, one of them raised his hat, whereupon another, struck by the fine appearance of the lady, made some inquiries concerning her, and was answered thus: “She makes a pretty ornament in her father’s house, but otherwise is of no use.”

We’ve all heard by now, ‘you can’t judge a book by its cover’, but that’s exactly what we do when we form our ‘first impression’ of someone based on outward appearances. We want to make smart choices in building our professional wardrobe, we want people to read us, get to know us.

You have a lot to offer, you want to be taken seriously – you’re not ‘just a pretty ornament’; choose your wardrobe wisely… it’s sending a message whether you like it or not.

Book cover

 

In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/high-school

 

Social Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

We have one lunch workshop left this season.  Don’t miss out on a fun opportunity and a chance to network and meet some new friends.  We’ll be talking about how to Survive Hosting the Holidays:

  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business/general-public-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

– Carey Sue

 

 

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Manner Monday®: Hosiery or Stockings, should I?

Last week I spoke at the Oklahoma State University Spears School of Business to their undergraduate students.  After the presentation, I had many students come up to ask one-on-one questions – which were really well thought out and awesome!  One of the young ladies asked about wearing hosiery, aka “stockings” to an interview, and if it was a ‘must’, or a ‘deal-breaker’ if she didn’t.

Coming from a Millennial, her question caught me a bit off guard. Other than the trend of tights during winter months, I tend to associate hosiery more with the Boomer crowd.  Sorry, no offense to the Boomers out there!

I believe instead of being a rule of Etiquette or Protocol, it has evolved into something much more complicated. 
I personally think it boils down to a number of things:

  • Generational issues – Your Grandmother would not even consider stepping out in public with bare legs. Stockings are a must for her wardrobe!
  • Are your legs able to stand on their own without the gentle camouflage or support that stockings provide?
  • Time of year – will your legs have goose bumps and be pasty … Summer – not a problem.  Winter, bleh – opt for tights.
  • Flat out preference – Some people feel more confident WITH stockings, other people can’t stand them.
  • And last but not least: Depends on what company you will be keeping…. If you’re with a more ‘mature’ (meaning older) group, then out of respect I would don hosiery.

My answer to her in the end was to do a bit of research. As she’s preparing for her interview and researching the company, go ahead and find out what the company culture is when it comes to dress code; and let that be her guide.  And if there is any question, it’s best to err on the safe side and slip on some stockings.

And we can thank Kate Middleton for making tights look oh so chic!

Kate Middleton

 

 

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • The Interview Intensive begins in October, click here for more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/interview-intensive-10-12th-grades
  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

– Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: The Kentucky Derby and Hats

In honor of the Kentucky Derby this weekend, I thought I’d share some helpful tips when greeting your friends with a hug or kiss on the cheek while wearing a hat.

I’m a huge fan of acronyms, so to help avoid a Hat Hazard, here is a simple solution to help you navigate the social seas with style, grace…and of course a fabulous hat!

H – Hats are reserved for daywear; please remember, no fashion hats after dark.

A – Approach with your hat on the left and hug, or kiss on the right cheek,

T – Tilt your head, far enough for clearance (45 degrees should be good),

S – Stay in position as you step back.

For more fun on the history the hat and horse races, check out this fun article:  http://www.nbcbayarea.com/news/sports/NATL-History-Kentucky-Derby-Hats-202358231.html

If you’re stepping out with a beautiful bonnet in the next few days (or weeks), please email me a picture of you in your fabulous hat!  I would love to post it.

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Manner Monday®: Sunglass Etiquette

Spring is in the air (hopefully) and that means sunglasses are coming out of hibernation.

Eye contact is a huge part of human interaction, it helps to gauge honesty, character, and helps to make a good first impression. When engaging in outdoor face-to-face conversations, start things off right by taking off your shades.  Unless you’re Jack Nicholson or Corey Hart – the last thing you want is to appear ‘shady’ (pun intended).  And speaking of Corey Hart, don’t wear your sunglasses at night (yes I went there)!  It worked for him, but if you try it, you’ll look like a goof whose trying to revive your break dancing career from the 80’s.

Do your best to keep the sunglasses off during the conversation, unless of course, you have a medical condition.  If it’s really bright and you find yourself squinting and squirming, apologize to the other person you need to put the shades back on due to the bright sun.

Another nice gesture, when you’re on the go and interacting with another person via a drive through, take your sunglasses off at the window so you can look them in the eye and say thank-you during the transaction.

When choosing your shades, think about the environment you will be in – if you have really cute, trendy, blingy shades, they may be perfect for your summer vacation, but may not be the best choice for a professional situation.  Too much bling will be a distraction for others.  Something a bit more conservative will help to keep the focus on you and the professionalism you bring to the relationship.

Bottom line, you don’t want your sunglasses to create a barrier to relationships or opportunities, just a buffer from the sun and protection for your eyes – their intended purpose.

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Special Announcements:

Early Bird Registration for 5-8th Grade Programs
The highest compliment you can give us is a referral to your friends and coworkers. Please share our registration and contact information with any families you think might be interested in participating in our program.

Each year we build on the previous year as we add to the curriculum.  We have many students who continue with us each season, from our Level 5 (5th grade) program through our Passport (High School) Program.  Our goal with the continuous exposure, and gentle reminders, of the courtesies we teach over consecutive years – is to assist you in raising well-mannered young adults.

  • Continued Exposure:  Just as continued exposure to athletics and school homework reaps rewards; continued exposure to the social skills taught in our program will provide lifelong lessons that will benefit your child throughout the classroom and into the boardroom.
  • Benefits and Rewards:  One of the biggest rewards of our students returning year after year, is the virtual ‘light bulb’ that seems to turn on and stay on; the students are really starting to get it and they are very proud of themselves.  Their confidence is building.  We’ve highlighted some of our graduating seniors on my blog atwww.CareySueVega.com/?s=senior+spotlight

5-8th Grade Levels:  We encourage you to register early to take advantage of the ‘early bird’ discount.  Regular tuition for the 2014-2015 season will be $425.

9-12th Grade Levels:  Registration is open and will continue with the Early Bird discount into the fall.  Register early to avoid the waiting list.

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

 

 

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Back to School Clothes and Tax-Free Shopping

I know many of you will be hitting the malls and stores soon to do your back-to-school shopping.  Oklahoma City will host Tax-Free shopping this weekend, Friday, August 2, through Sunday, August 4.  If you’re looking to pick up some ‘dress’ clothes for our programs, here is the link to the Dress Code Details and other frequently asked questions on the website that will be helpful.  If you need more information on the Tax-Free shopping weekend, Click here.

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