Manner Monday®: Old School Etiquette

I love it when former students send interesting links to articles related to Etiquette!

Thanks Helena and Isabel for passing on the article that recently appeared in Mental Floss, 5 Ways to Avoid Being Rude (According to 100-Year-Old Etiquette Rules).  I love the history of Etiquette, along with the evolution of Etiquette and how many of the ‘old school’ rules, are actually still applicable today.  In the article, the author references a book written in the early 1900’s by Dr. Jefferis.  When talking about women and clothing, Dr. Jefferis writes, “For women are like books – too much gilding makes men suspicious, that the binding is the most important part. The body is the shell of the soul, and the dress is the husk of the body; but the husk generally tells what the kernel is. As a fashionably dressed young lady passed some gentlemen, one of them raised his hat, whereupon another, struck by the fine appearance of the lady, made some inquiries concerning her, and was answered thus: “She makes a pretty ornament in her father’s house, but otherwise is of no use.”

We’ve all heard by now, ‘you can’t judge a book by its cover’, but that’s exactly what we do when we form our ‘first impression’ of someone based on outward appearances. We want to make smart choices in building our professional wardrobe, we want people to read us, get to know us.

You have a lot to offer, you want to be taken seriously – you’re not ‘just a pretty ornament’; choose your wardrobe wisely… it’s sending a message whether you like it or not.

Book cover

 

In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/high-school

 

Social Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

We have one lunch workshop left this season.  Don’t miss out on a fun opportunity and a chance to network and meet some new friends.  We’ll be talking about how to Survive Hosting the Holidays:

  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business/general-public-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

– Carey Sue

 

 

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Manner Monday®: Hosiery or Stockings, should I?

Last week I spoke at the Oklahoma State University Spears School of Business to their undergraduate students.  After the presentation, I had many students come up to ask one-on-one questions – which were really well thought out and awesome!  One of the young ladies asked about wearing hosiery, aka “stockings” to an interview, and if it was a ‘must’, or a ‘deal-breaker’ if she didn’t.

Coming from a Millennial, her question caught me a bit off guard. Other than the trend of tights during winter months, I tend to associate hosiery more with the Boomer crowd.  Sorry, no offense to the Boomers out there!

I believe instead of being a rule of Etiquette or Protocol, it has evolved into something much more complicated. 
I personally think it boils down to a number of things:

  • Generational issues – Your Grandmother would not even consider stepping out in public with bare legs. Stockings are a must for her wardrobe!
  • Are your legs able to stand on their own without the gentle camouflage or support that stockings provide?
  • Time of year – will your legs have goose bumps and be pasty … Summer – not a problem.  Winter, bleh – opt for tights.
  • Flat out preference – Some people feel more confident WITH stockings, other people can’t stand them.
  • And last but not least: Depends on what company you will be keeping…. If you’re with a more ‘mature’ (meaning older) group, then out of respect I would don hosiery.

My answer to her in the end was to do a bit of research. As she’s preparing for her interview and researching the company, go ahead and find out what the company culture is when it comes to dress code; and let that be her guide.  And if there is any question, it’s best to err on the safe side and slip on some stockings.

And we can thank Kate Middleton for making tights look oh so chic!

Kate Middleton

 

 

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • The Interview Intensive begins in October, click here for more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/interview-intensive-10-12th-grades
  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

– Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: The Kentucky Derby and Hats

In honor of the Kentucky Derby this weekend, I thought I’d share some helpful tips when greeting your friends with a hug or kiss on the cheek while wearing a hat.

I’m a huge fan of acronyms, so to help avoid a Hat Hazard, here is a simple solution to help you navigate the social seas with style, grace…and of course a fabulous hat!

H – Hats are reserved for daywear; please remember, no fashion hats after dark.

A – Approach with your hat on the left and hug, or kiss on the right cheek,

T – Tilt your head, far enough for clearance (45 degrees should be good),

S – Stay in position as you step back.

For more fun on the history the hat and horse races, check out this fun article:  http://www.nbcbayarea.com/news/sports/NATL-History-Kentucky-Derby-Hats-202358231.html

If you’re stepping out with a beautiful bonnet in the next few days (or weeks), please email me a picture of you in your fabulous hat!  I would love to post it.

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Manner Monday®: Sunglass Etiquette

Spring is in the air (hopefully) and that means sunglasses are coming out of hibernation.

Eye contact is a huge part of human interaction, it helps to gauge honesty, character, and helps to make a good first impression. When engaging in outdoor face-to-face conversations, start things off right by taking off your shades.  Unless you’re Jack Nicholson or Corey Hart – the last thing you want is to appear ‘shady’ (pun intended).  And speaking of Corey Hart, don’t wear your sunglasses at night (yes I went there)!  It worked for him, but if you try it, you’ll look like a goof whose trying to revive your break dancing career from the 80’s.

Do your best to keep the sunglasses off during the conversation, unless of course, you have a medical condition.  If it’s really bright and you find yourself squinting and squirming, apologize to the other person you need to put the shades back on due to the bright sun.

Another nice gesture, when you’re on the go and interacting with another person via a drive through, take your sunglasses off at the window so you can look them in the eye and say thank-you during the transaction.

When choosing your shades, think about the environment you will be in – if you have really cute, trendy, blingy shades, they may be perfect for your summer vacation, but may not be the best choice for a professional situation.  Too much bling will be a distraction for others.  Something a bit more conservative will help to keep the focus on you and the professionalism you bring to the relationship.

Bottom line, you don’t want your sunglasses to create a barrier to relationships or opportunities, just a buffer from the sun and protection for your eyes – their intended purpose.

Sunglasses_at_Night_(Corey_Hart_album_-_cover_art)

 

Special Announcements:

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The highest compliment you can give us is a referral to your friends and coworkers. Please share our registration and contact information with any families you think might be interested in participating in our program.

Each year we build on the previous year as we add to the curriculum.  We have many students who continue with us each season, from our Level 5 (5th grade) program through our Passport (High School) Program.  Our goal with the continuous exposure, and gentle reminders, of the courtesies we teach over consecutive years – is to assist you in raising well-mannered young adults.

  • Continued Exposure:  Just as continued exposure to athletics and school homework reaps rewards; continued exposure to the social skills taught in our program will provide lifelong lessons that will benefit your child throughout the classroom and into the boardroom.
  • Benefits and Rewards:  One of the biggest rewards of our students returning year after year, is the virtual ‘light bulb’ that seems to turn on and stay on; the students are really starting to get it and they are very proud of themselves.  Their confidence is building.  We’ve highlighted some of our graduating seniors on my blog atwww.CareySueVega.com/?s=senior+spotlight

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As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

 

 

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Back to School Clothes and Tax-Free Shopping

I know many of you will be hitting the malls and stores soon to do your back-to-school shopping.  Oklahoma City will host Tax-Free shopping this weekend, Friday, August 2, through Sunday, August 4.  If you’re looking to pick up some ‘dress’ clothes for our programs, here is the link to the Dress Code Details and other frequently asked questions on the website that will be helpful.  If you need more information on the Tax-Free shopping weekend, Click here.

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Hat Etiquette

In honor of the Kentucky Derby this weekend, I thought I’d share some helpful tips on Hat Hazards and how to avoid bashing your bonnet.

I’m a huge fan of acronyms, so to help avoid a Hat Hazard, here is a simple solution to help you navigate the social seas with style, grace…and of course a fabulous hat!

H – Hats are reserved for daywear; please remember, no fashion hats after dark.

A – Approach with your hat on the left and kiss on the right cheek,

T – Tilt your head, far enough for clearance (45 degrees should be good),

S – Stay in position as you step back.

Good luck! Please email me a picture of you in your fabulous hat!  I would love to post them.

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What’s in your purse?

This past week, I was honored when a single dad asked me to help give his daughter advice on what to put in her new purse.  As I started thinking about what I have in my purse, I thought I’d ask my Facebook friends to chime in with their thoughts, and boy did they step up to the plate!  (Thank you ladies!)

Here is the list we came up with:

Lipstick / Chapstick

A mirror – in case spinach gets stuck in your teeth

Id (so the good Samaritan who finds your purse if it’s lost can return it to you)

Advil

Mints

Floss sticks

Kleenex

A ‘hankie’ (an old fashioned handkerchief mentioned a few times)

Wallet / Coin Purse

Cash (always have some cash on hand for emergencies)

Emery board

Personal toiletry items

Band-Aids

Pen

Small notepad

Miniature Swiss Army knife (but not at school)

Pepper Spray

Brush or comb

Hair tie

Stamps

Hand lotion

Trial size of your favorite perfume

Hand sanitizer

Small mending kit with a few safety pins

I suggested checking the local drug store for small, travel size, portions of toiletry items so the purse doesn’t get loaded down with too much stuff!

Ladies, what are you ‘must have’ items to include on the list?  Did we miss anything?  If so, hop over to my Facebook page to share your thoughts.  We want to make sure we have this young lady setup and ready to go!

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A “Royal Wedding” affair

I wish you could have been a fly on the wall, when I received this in the mail

The minute I opened it, I immediately checked my calendar and picked up the phone to RSVP.

Janet, our hostess, went ALL out!

As we walked in the front door, we were greeted with her wedding dress, from 1994, hanging on the wall.  What a way to set the stage!

She asked that we bring photo albums from our wedding to share with the other guests.

What a hoot… that was SO much fun!

We were also greeted with our choice of mimosa or traditional English tea

choices, choices

Janet worked tirelessly making all of the delicious food

AND… she even had a wedding cake

We all enjoyed visiting, eating and watching the Royal Wedding.  Janet was kind enough to DVR the official ceremony so we had the luxury of rewinding and catching every bit of the event on our own schedule.

One of the guests even donned her “going away” dress which she wore 27 years ago, talk about timeless and elegant…

And yes… she still can wear it, even after 6 boys!

And yes… she doesn’t even look 27 years old.

And of course the guests had a great excuse to pull out some fabulous hats and fascinators.

And not missing an opportunity for a fun and original party gift.  Janet had personalized bottles made with one of her original wedding pictures

Thanks Janet for fun party!

… I can’t wait for Harry to get married! :-)

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Manner Monday: A regal example of timeless style and respect.

Fresh off the Royal Wedding, I think the general consensus agrees it was a beautiful, romantic, classic, tasteful… and of course grand, event.  When trying to pinpoint my “favorite” from the event, I keep thinking about what a great example Kate and William set with how they showed respect to tradition, each other, and their families.  I loved the tasteful style of her dress; I loved the respectful way William looked at her and whispered, “you look beautiful”; I love how William joked with Kate’s dad about the wedding being “just a small family affair” and I love the way they both seem to be entering into their new roles with grace.

With so many questionable role models for young people today, I’m happy to see these two setting great examples of respect and decorum.

On another note… are you in need of personalized stationery?  If so, please visit:  www.MannerMonday.PaperConcierge.com we have hundreds of styles and designs from which to choose.  We also have darling place mats that help the little ones in your life get a jump start on their table manners and make dining more fun.

Please visit my post ‘What is Manner Monday?’ to learn more about how to make the most of Manner Monday. Do you have a ‘manner’ you would like to see covered on Manner Monday?  Feel free to send me your thoughts.

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Manner Monday: Avoiding a Hat Hazard

Easter, The Royal Wedding, The Kentucky Derby, Mother’s Day… Ladies, are you thinking what I’m thinking?  It’s hat season!

I’m a huge fan of acronyms, so to help avoid a Hat Hazard during all of the upcoming festivities, here is a simple solution to help you navigate the social seas with style, grace…and of course a fabulous hat!

H – Hats are reserved for daywear; please remember, no fashion hats after dark.

A – Approach with your hat on the left and kiss on the right cheek,

T – Tilt your head, far enough for clearance (45 degrees should be good),

S – Stay in position as you step back.

Good luck! Please email me a picture of you in your fabulous hat! I will post them on my blog in May, after Mother’s Day.

Are low on personalized stationery?  We’ve made it easy for you to order more.  Please visit:  www.MannerMonday.PaperConcierge.com we have hundreds of styles and designs from which to choose.  We also have darling place mats that help the little ones in your life get a jump start on their table manners and make dining more fun.

Please visit my post ‘What is Manner Monday?’ to learn more about how to make the most of Manner Monday. Do you have a ‘manner’ you would like to see covered on Manner Monday?  Feel free to send me your thoughts.

And, of course, please share ‘Manner Monday’ with your friends and colleagues. If you would like to subscribe to my newsletter and receive ‘Manner Monday’ in your inbox, please enter your email address in the ‘Subscribe to Newsletter’ box on the right.

Thank you for reading Manner Monday!

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