Manner Monday®: Sunglass Etiquette

Spring is in the air (hopefully) and that means sunglasses are coming out of hibernation.

Eye contact is a huge part of human interaction, it helps to gauge honesty, character, and helps to make a good first impression. When engaging in outdoor face-to-face conversations, start things off right by taking off your shades.  Unless you’re Jack Nicholson or Corey Hart – the last thing you want is to appear ‘shady’ (pun intended).  And speaking of Corey Hart, don’t wear your sunglasses at night (yes I went there)!  It worked for him, but if you try it, you’ll look like a goof whose trying to revive your break dancing career from the 80’s.

Do your best to keep the sunglasses off during the conversation, unless of course, you have a medical condition.  If it’s really bright and you find yourself squinting and squirming, apologize to the other person you need to put the shades back on due to the bright sun.

Another nice gesture, when you’re on the go and interacting with another person via a drive through, take your sunglasses off at the window so you can look them in the eye and say thank-you during the transaction.

When choosing your shades, think about the environment you will be in – if you have really cute, trendy, blingy shades, they may be perfect for your summer vacation, but may not be the best choice for a professional situation.  Too much bling will be a distraction for others.  Something a bit more conservative will help to keep the focus on you and the professionalism you bring to the relationship.

Bottom line, you don’t want your sunglasses to create a barrier to relationships or opportunities, just a buffer from the sun and protection for your eyes – their intended purpose.

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The highest compliment you can give us is a referral to your friends and coworkers. Please share our registration and contact information with any families you think might be interested in participating in our program.

Each year we build on the previous year as we add to the curriculum.  We have many students who continue with us each season, from our Level 5 (5th grade) program through our Passport (High School) Program.  Our goal with the continuous exposure, and gentle reminders, of the courtesies we teach over consecutive years – is to assist you in raising well-mannered young adults.

  • Continued Exposure:  Just as continued exposure to athletics and school homework reaps rewards; continued exposure to the social skills taught in our program will provide lifelong lessons that will benefit your child throughout the classroom and into the boardroom.
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5-8th Grade Levels:  We encourage you to register early to take advantage of the ‘early bird’ discount.  Regular tuition for the 2014-2015 season will be $425.

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As always, thanks for reading!
- Carey Sue

 

 

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Back to School Clothes and Tax-Free Shopping

I know many of you will be hitting the malls and stores soon to do your back-to-school shopping.  Oklahoma City will host Tax-Free shopping this weekend, Friday, August 2, through Sunday, August 4.  If you’re looking to pick up some ‘dress’ clothes for our programs, here is the link to the Dress Code Details and other frequently asked questions on the website that will be helpful.  If you need more information on the Tax-Free shopping weekend, Click here.

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Hat Etiquette

In honor of the Kentucky Derby this weekend, I thought I’d share some helpful tips on Hat Hazards and how to avoid bashing your bonnet.

I’m a huge fan of acronyms, so to help avoid a Hat Hazard, here is a simple solution to help you navigate the social seas with style, grace…and of course a fabulous hat!

H – Hats are reserved for daywear; please remember, no fashion hats after dark.

A – Approach with your hat on the left and kiss on the right cheek,

T – Tilt your head, far enough for clearance (45 degrees should be good),

S – Stay in position as you step back.

Good luck! Please email me a picture of you in your fabulous hat!  I would love to post them.

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What’s in your purse?

This past week, I was honored when a single dad asked me to help give his daughter advice on what to put in her new purse.  As I started thinking about what I have in my purse, I thought I’d ask my Facebook friends to chime in with their thoughts, and boy did they step up to the plate!  (Thank you ladies!)

Here is the list we came up with:

Lipstick / Chapstick

A mirror – in case spinach gets stuck in your teeth

Id (so the good Samaritan who finds your purse if it’s lost can return it to you)

Advil

Mints

Floss sticks

Kleenex

A ‘hankie’ (an old fashioned handkerchief mentioned a few times)

Wallet / Coin Purse

Cash (always have some cash on hand for emergencies)

Emery board

Personal toiletry items

Band-Aids

Pen

Small notepad

Miniature Swiss Army knife (but not at school)

Pepper Spray

Brush or comb

Hair tie

Stamps

Hand lotion

Trial size of your favorite perfume

Hand sanitizer

Small mending kit with a few safety pins

I suggested checking the local drug store for small, travel size, portions of toiletry items so the purse doesn’t get loaded down with too much stuff!

Ladies, what are you ‘must have’ items to include on the list?  Did we miss anything?  If so, hop over to my Facebook page to share your thoughts.  We want to make sure we have this young lady setup and ready to go!

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A “Royal Wedding” affair

I wish you could have been a fly on the wall, when I received this in the mail

The minute I opened it, I immediately checked my calendar and picked up the phone to RSVP.

Janet, our hostess, went ALL out!

As we walked in the front door, we were greeted with her wedding dress, from 1994, hanging on the wall.  What a way to set the stage!

She asked that we bring photo albums from our wedding to share with the other guests.

What a hoot… that was SO much fun!

We were also greeted with our choice of mimosa or traditional English tea

choices, choices

Janet worked tirelessly making all of the delicious food

AND… she even had a wedding cake

We all enjoyed visiting, eating and watching the Royal Wedding.  Janet was kind enough to DVR the official ceremony so we had the luxury of rewinding and catching every bit of the event on our own schedule.

One of the guests even donned her “going away” dress which she wore 27 years ago, talk about timeless and elegant…

And yes… she still can wear it, even after 6 boys!

And yes… she doesn’t even look 27 years old.

And of course the guests had a great excuse to pull out some fabulous hats and fascinators.

And not missing an opportunity for a fun and original party gift.  Janet had personalized bottles made with one of her original wedding pictures

Thanks Janet for fun party!

… I can’t wait for Harry to get married! :-)

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Manner Monday: A regal example of timeless style and respect.

Fresh off the Royal Wedding, I think the general consensus agrees it was a beautiful, romantic, classic, tasteful… and of course grand, event.  When trying to pinpoint my “favorite” from the event, I keep thinking about what a great example Kate and William set with how they showed respect to tradition, each other, and their families.  I loved the tasteful style of her dress; I loved the respectful way William looked at her and whispered, “you look beautiful”; I love how William joked with Kate’s dad about the wedding being “just a small family affair” and I love the way they both seem to be entering into their new roles with grace.

With so many questionable role models for young people today, I’m happy to see these two setting great examples of respect and decorum.

On another note… are you in need of personalized stationery?  If so, please visit:  www.MannerMonday.PaperConcierge.com we have hundreds of styles and designs from which to choose.  We also have darling place mats that help the little ones in your life get a jump start on their table manners and make dining more fun.

Please visit my post ‘What is Manner Monday?’ to learn more about how to make the most of Manner Monday. Do you have a ‘manner’ you would like to see covered on Manner Monday?  Feel free to send me your thoughts.

And, of course, please share ‘Manner Monday’ with your friends and colleagues. If you would like to subscribe to my newsletter and receive ‘Manner Monday’ in your inbox, please enter your email address in the ‘Subscribe to Newsletter’ box on the right.

Thank you for reading Manner Monday!

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Manner Monday: Avoiding a Hat Hazard

Easter, The Royal Wedding, The Kentucky Derby, Mother’s Day… Ladies, are you thinking what I’m thinking?  It’s hat season!

I’m a huge fan of acronyms, so to help avoid a Hat Hazard during all of the upcoming festivities, here is a simple solution to help you navigate the social seas with style, grace…and of course a fabulous hat!

H – Hats are reserved for daywear; please remember, no fashion hats after dark.

A – Approach with your hat on the left and kiss on the right cheek,

T – Tilt your head, far enough for clearance (45 degrees should be good),

S – Stay in position as you step back.

Good luck! Please email me a picture of you in your fabulous hat! I will post them on my blog in May, after Mother’s Day.

Are low on personalized stationery?  We’ve made it easy for you to order more.  Please visit:  www.MannerMonday.PaperConcierge.com we have hundreds of styles and designs from which to choose.  We also have darling place mats that help the little ones in your life get a jump start on their table manners and make dining more fun.

Please visit my post ‘What is Manner Monday?’ to learn more about how to make the most of Manner Monday. Do you have a ‘manner’ you would like to see covered on Manner Monday?  Feel free to send me your thoughts.

And, of course, please share ‘Manner Monday’ with your friends and colleagues. If you would like to subscribe to my newsletter and receive ‘Manner Monday’ in your inbox, please enter your email address in the ‘Subscribe to Newsletter’ box on the right.

Thank you for reading Manner Monday!

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Manner Monday: Hosiery… aka “Stockings”

It seems as though hosiery, aka “stockings”, can stir up some interesting conversations.  A friend of mine was having a discussion with some of her coworkers recently on the topic when one of the junior employees proudly stated she has never, to date, donned a pair of “stockings”.  Needless to say, an interesting conversation ensued prompting her to ask a question similar to the one my sister recently posed.

Here is an excerpt from a previous post on the topic:

My sister Audrey (we call each other ‘Dolly, Doll, Dollette’… long story) emailed me the other day with a question about hosiery, aka ‘stockings’.

Doll (My sister to me),
What is the rule on stockings? I noticed Michelle Obama isn’t wearing them on the White House special with Oprah. Maya and Suzanne had bare legs at Granny’s party. When I showed up at Billy’s baptism without them, I felt horrified.

Hi Doll (Me responding to my sister),
Wellllllllll. Here’s my two cents…

I believe instead of being a rule of Etiquette or Protocol, it has evolved into something much more complicated.
I personally think it boils down to a number of things:
1- Generational issues….I don’t think Laura (Mrs. Bush) would EVER have appeared on National television without hosiery.
2- Can your legs stand on their own?…Maya and Suzanne, yep.  Me, not so much.
3- Season, will your legs have goose bumps and be pasty … Summer, not a problem. Winter, bleh – opt for tights.
4- Flat out preference…. I feel more confident WITH them, other people can’t stand them.
5- And last but not least: Depends on what company you will be keeping…. If you’re with a more ‘mature’ (meaning older) group, then out of respect I would don hosiery. Generation X, you’ll see a bit of both. Generation Y, I don’t think they know what stockings are, unless you’re talking Christmas and it’s a ‘stocking stuffer’.

Hope that helps!
Love, Dolly

What is your take on the Hosiery/Stocking debate?… please share!

On another note, if you would like to order personalized stationery please visit:  www.MannerMonday.PaperConcierge.com There are hundreds of styles and designs from which to choose.

Please visit my post ‘What is Manner Monday?’ to learn more about how to make the most of Manner Monday. Do you have a ‘manner’ you would like to see covered on Manner Monday?  Feel free to send me your thoughts.

And, of course, please share ‘Manner Monday’ with your friends and colleagues. If you would like to subscribe to my newsletter and receive ‘Manner Monday’ in your inbox, please enter your email address in the ‘Subscribe to Newsletter’ box on the right.

Thank you for reading Manner Monday!

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Summer Newsletter

I hope everyone is enjoying their summer!!!

We have so much going on with our Programs!!!!

Adult Educational Events

Teen Board / Ambassador Program

Cotillion Clothing Exchange Opportunities

Click here to view the current newsletter in full detail:  Newsletter

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Cotillion Clothing Exchange

Many of our Cotillion families have asked about a possible clothing exchange.  With growth spurts coming out of nowhere, you may find your child in need of new clothing before they’ve had an opportunity to make the most of their current wardrobe.  We are offering two opportunities for you to donate, trade or sell your gently used Cotillion Clothing.

Opportunity #1. The first opportunity is the Junior League’s ‘Remarkable Shop’.  The ‘Remarkable Shop’ is a resale and consignment store that provides Oklahoma City with affordable clothing and household items.  Donations are provided by the membership of the Junior League of Oklahoma City and the community at large.  If you would like to donate your gently used Cotillion Clothing, and any other items you think would benefit the shop, please do so by July 31.  When dropping off your items, make sure you designate your Cotillion Clothing as such.  After July 31, we will post information in the next newsletter as to whether or not the shop has received Cotillion Clothing and you can make your way down to try on and purchase items for under $10.00.  Please click here for details on the ‘Remarkable Shop’, it’s mission, location and hours.

Opportunity #2. We have posted a Clothing Exchange Forum on my blog.  You will be able to post gently used Cotillion Clothing as well as review postings for availability.  You will then be able to contact one another to trade, sell or donate the specific items listed.

Click here for instructions on how to access the Forum:  Instructions

Click here to view the forum:  www.CareySueVega.com/Forum


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