Manner Monday®: Preparing for Thanksgiving Dinner conversation

With the Holidays fast approaching, many people will be sitting down to ‘break bread’ with sometimes a great number of extended family members.  Oftentimes, this includes ‘unfamiliar’ family members.  Not too many of us actually enjoy that awkward moment of ‘what am I going to say’ or being stuck in an uncomfortable moment when the conversation isn’t flowing as freely as we would like for it to.  By spending some time now with your immediate family, during your FFT dinner, you can work on ‘comfortable conversation’ starters, so hopefully you won’t be stuck in an ‘uncomfortable conversation’.

If you’re hosting this year, here are some helpful tips to make sure things go as smooth as possible when it comes to creating ‘comfortable conversation’ opportunities:

Assigned Seating:  It helps to take the guess work out of where everyone will sit and you’re also able to corral “Uncle Tom” between you and your sister… who will be able to help you keep him in check.

Table Setting Tips:  If you’re tasked with setting the table, check out this previous post with details to make it fun and easy!

Place Cards:  You can use something as simple as a piece of card stock, or you can do something fun such as a pinecone with the persons name tied to it with construction paper or ribbon.  You can also do something a bit more special such as a mini picture frame with your guest’s name, or photo, in it that they can take home with them as cherished memento.  If you have a little one, have them get in on the place card task; they love being included and can add an artistic touch that everyone will appreciate.

Conversation starters:  Another benefit of place cards, you can place a question on each place card that helps to get the conversation going.  Planting questions is a fabulous way to get the family talking and to share stories from ‘days gone by’ and create wonderful family memories you will treasure for a lifetime.

Here are some sample questions:

  • Ask an ‘older’ relative (grandparent, aunt, uncle or friend) what they remember about:
    • the invention of ‘cell phones’ and what did it look like?
    • What were their telephone ‘rules’ in the house before cell phones?
    • Before text and email, how did they send correspondence to friends and family. Did they have a ‘pen pal’?
    • Landline phones that were attached to the wall via a cord Party lines.
  •  Tell us about your favorite childhood Thanksgiving memory.
  • What was life like before Cell Phones and DVRs?
  • What are you most thankful for this year?
  • What is your most memorable school picture?
  • What special childhood memory do you have of a family member who is no longer with us?
  • What luxuries do you take for granted and why are you thankful for them?
  • Which teacher were you most grateful for?
  • What is your favorite memory from grade school?
  • How did you meet?  Tell us about your first date.  (This is a great one for the Grandparents.)
  • What family recipe reminds you of something special?
  • Tell about a time when you were reminded “it’s better to give than receive”.
  • Thinking of the pilgrims and their adventure, what do you think it would be like to leave everyone and everything behind and move to a new country…without a job secured?
  • What’s the biggest risk you’ve taken in your life?
  • What do you appreciate most about the person on your right?

As people are answering their questions, think of saying things such as “tell us more” instead of cutting them short to share your version or answer.

Turn the TV off and leave your cell phone at the front door (or in the car).  Take this time to focus on good old-fashioned ‘face-time’!!!

And if you missed last weeks post, here are more tips on Planning the Perfectly Imperfect Party.

What are your tricks to keeping the conversation comfortable at your Thanksgiving table?  Please leave a comment below to share your tips and stories.

Happy Thanksgiving!  …and may the conversation be comfortable!

Thanksgiving Table

 

In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/high-school

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

 

No comments | leave a comment
Etiquette, Family, Family Dinner, Manner Monday, Manners

Manner Monday®: Tips for Planning the Perfectly Imperfect Party

Are you hosting for the Holidays?  During this time of year, I always get questions from nervous hosts and hostesses asking for tips to make the process a bit less painful.  Well, not sure about the pain factor, but I can share some tips with you to make it hopefully flow a bit smoother.

First of all – take a deep breath!  And follow the Nike slogan ‘just do it’! Don’t stress about things such as ‘my house isn’t perfect’, ‘I don’t have the right dishes or silverware’.  By focusing on ‘hospitality’ vs. ‘formality’, you can be rest assured knowing that no matter what happens, your guests will feel comfortable and will have a great time.

Ok, so you’ve decided to take the plunge, let’s get the party started…

Invitations, how are you going to notify your guests?  Keep in mind that the invitation will help to set the tone of the party.  An old-fashioned ‘print’ invitation, sent via snail mail, can set the stage for something a bit more ‘formal’.  An E-vite leans toward something more ‘casual’.

Guest list, who are you planning to invite?  Take some time with this one.  Think through your guest list and try to bring together an interesting mix of people who you think would have a good time together and why they would get along.  Think outside of your normal circle of friends and reach out to someone new who you’ve recently met and would like to get to know better.

Plan ahead.  Make a to-do list and break it down into manageable pieces over a few days.  By being organized, strategic and focused, you can easily cut down on the added stress of forgetting something such a key ingredient at the store.

During the Party.  Be focused on the moment – turn off TVs, put on some background music, put away smart phones, and get ready to focus on your friends.  Plan to be ready at least 15 minutes before your guests are scheduled to arrive. Not only does this give you a moment to catch your breath, but it also allows a small window of flexibility in case something goes wrong during the preparations.

Clean Up.  Consider spending a little extra money to hire a helper for the evening.  Someone who can tend to things in the kitchen and keep plates cleared and can help to keep you from feeling overwhelmed.  If hiring a helper is not in your budget, not a worry!  Just save the cleanup until after your guests have left.

And remember, your guests are coming for the enjoyment of your company, friendship and hospitality.  Set the stage and atmosphere for a lovely evening of relaxing with friends and enjoying good old-fashioned ‘face time’.  And your friends will thank you.

Thanksgiving

 

In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/high-school

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

 

 

No comments | leave a comment
Etiquette, Family, Family Dinner, Manner Monday, Manners

Manner Monday®: Old School Etiquette

I love it when former students send interesting links to articles related to Etiquette!

Thanks Helena and Isabel for passing on the article that recently appeared in Mental Floss, 5 Ways to Avoid Being Rude (According to 100-Year-Old Etiquette Rules).  I love the history of Etiquette, along with the evolution of Etiquette and how many of the ‘old school’ rules, are actually still applicable today.  In the article, the author references a book written in the early 1900’s by Dr. Jefferis.  When talking about women and clothing, Dr. Jefferis writes, “For women are like books – too much gilding makes men suspicious, that the binding is the most important part. The body is the shell of the soul, and the dress is the husk of the body; but the husk generally tells what the kernel is. As a fashionably dressed young lady passed some gentlemen, one of them raised his hat, whereupon another, struck by the fine appearance of the lady, made some inquiries concerning her, and was answered thus: “She makes a pretty ornament in her father’s house, but otherwise is of no use.”

We’ve all heard by now, ‘you can’t judge a book by its cover’, but that’s exactly what we do when we form our ‘first impression’ of someone based on outward appearances. We want to make smart choices in building our professional wardrobe, we want people to read us, get to know us.

You have a lot to offer, you want to be taken seriously – you’re not ‘just a pretty ornament’; choose your wardrobe wisely… it’s sending a message whether you like it or not.

Book cover

 

In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/high-school

 

Social Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

We have one lunch workshop left this season.  Don’t miss out on a fun opportunity and a chance to network and meet some new friends.  We’ll be talking about how to Survive Hosting the Holidays:

  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business/general-public-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

 

 

No comments | leave a comment
Business Etiquette, Etiquette, Fashion, Manner Monday

Manner Monday®: The Switch Witch

Today’s post has nothing to do with Manners; it’s more of a ‘public service announcement’ that will hopefully have parents rejoicing in unison for the passing along of the information.

How have I never heard about the Switch Witch before now!?!?!?  I’m seriously scratching my head wondering how this has not caught on like the Christmas ‘Elf’.

Even though Halloween is over, many of you may still have hoards of candy lingering from the weekend.  And many of you (me included) can’t keep our little (ok, big) fingers out of the stash.  It’s not too late to put a call into the good witch – the Switch Witch.  She will be happy to help and take that candy off your hands.

So, who is she?  Think ‘Tooth Fairy’ – your kiddo leaves a tooth under their pillow at night then the Tooth Fairy slips in while they’re sleeping to replace the tooth with cold-hard-cash (or a fun little toy); same principle for the Switch Witch.

Our friends told us about this idea Halloween evening – I immediately thought ‘genius’… whoever came up with this idea should be nominated for a Nobel Peace Prize (well, not really – but maybe).

We told our 8-year-old son about the Switch Witch and he was all in – he ended up with $10 out of the deal and we have a big bag of candy ready to donate to the local shelter on Monday.

You can easily adapt the Switch Witch to fit your family and come up with your own tradition. Our friend replaces the candy with a small toy her son has been eyeing.  Since we inaugurated the idea on-the-fly Halloween night, we went with the cash option.  Next year, we can plan ahead and decide which direction we want to go as he’ll be 9 and the gig may be up.  But our friend said even the older kids still participate following the rule ‘if you believe, you receive’.

And if you’re not feeling the vibes of the Switch Witch – I read numerous stories about local dentists buying back candy, $1 per pound.  Then they donate the candy to the troops overseas!  Another great idea!

Either way, I’d love to hear your stories;

  • Did you already know about the Switch Witch?
  • If it’s a new idea, were you able to ‘sell’ it to your kids even after a few days have passed?
  • If you have older kids, where they up for it?
  • Does your dentist participate in the candy buy back program?

cohdranknhalloweencandy1

 

In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/high-school

 

Social Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

We have one lunch workshop left this season.  Don’t miss out on a fun opportunity and a chance to network and meet some new friends.

  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business/general-public-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

No comments | leave a comment
Family, Manner Monday, Stuff

Manner Monday®: Trick or Treat Etiquette

Happy Halloween!  Whether you celebrate Halloween or not, many of the little ghosts and goblins in your community do; and they will be hitting the streets Friday night for the long anticipated fun of “trick or treating”.

Please take a few precious minutes to go over some reminders with your family to keep everyone safe … and to of course keep our “ghoulish” behavior in check.

  • Safety is a priority for everyone!  It can be very hard to see at night: not only for those in costume but also for those who may be driving.  A “black cat” darting out into the street in search of its next candy bar has no good outcome for either the cat in costume or the approaching car.
  • Of course everyone knows they’re supposed to say “Trick or Treat”, but please don’t forget to slow down and offer the other magic word of “Thank you” before darting off to the next house.

How old is too old?
And how many times have you seen rather ‘large’ (age-wise) tricker-treaters and have thought to yourself – ‘you’re too old for this’?  Yep, I know I have.  I highly recommend taking a few minutes to read this mothers take on her 6ft tall teenage son trick or treating with his buddies.  I bet you’ll have a change of heart – I know I did!

I know when I see those over-grown characters out this year – I’ll smile, and wish them well as they are transitioning to that next stage in their life where they will no longer be ringing door bells, but instead opening the door and handing out the candy.  I think many of us wish WE were still out ringing  doorbells, giggling and enjoying silly fun with our friends.

It’s no secret, children grow up way too fast – and if teenagers want to have a little harmless fun with their friends; who are we to judge (as long as they’re being respectful) and tell them they’re too old?

Happy Trick or Treating!

cohdranknhalloweencandy1

 

In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • The Interview Intensive begins in October, click here for more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/interview-intensive-10-12th-grades
  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/youth/programs/high-school

 

Social Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

We have one lunch workshop left this season.  Don’t miss out on a fun opportunity and a chance to network and meet some new friends.

  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business/general-public-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

No comments | leave a comment
Etiquette, Family, Manner Monday, Manners

Manner Monday®: Japanese Etiquette

One of our Students Hadley Griffith, from Shawnee, Oklahoma, had the amazing opportunity to travel to Japan last year.  In visiting with her, we thought it would be fun to share some Japanese Etiquette tips in case you get the chance to visit:

  • The Japanese do not approve of male/female touching in public.
  • The American ‘okay’ sign means “money” in Japan.
  • Pointing is considered impolite.  Instead, you wave your hand, palm up, toward the object in reference.
  • The Japanese do not engage in backslapping or other forms of touching.
  • In Japan, it’s rude to blow your nose in public.
  • The Japanese non-visual ‘space bubble’ that appears between two people is farther apart in Japan.
  • When entering someones home, remove your shoes and leave them by the door.  You will put on the ‘house slippers’ provided, and will exchange them again for ‘toilet slippers’ if you need to visit the bathroom.
  • When greeting, if someone bows to you – observe their bow carefully.  If they are a peer (or an equal), bow to the same depth as the depth of the bow is indicative of the relationship between you.  Don’t forget to lower your eyes as you bow.

When eating:

  • Meals are long, and sometimes go until after 10:00pm.
  • Never point your chopsticks at another person. If you are not using them, line them up on the chopstick rest.
  • Use both hands on a bowl or cup to signal a refill.
  • If eating in a private home, you will sit on the floor cross-legged, or with your legs to the side.

More from Hadley:

“I recently had an amazing opportunity to visit Nikaho, Japan with the Shawnee Sister Cities program along with seven other students and two adults. My name is Hadley Griffith and the other delegates are Carly Fisher, Lauren Canaday, Kate Barrett, Abby Morris, Rose Templeton, Josh Floyd, and Jaxon Canard. The adults are Jessica Brown and Beth Polston.We visited Tokyo, swam in the Sea of Japan, and watched the Kanto festival in Akita, Japan. We all experienced the japanese culture in different ways through our host family and the neat things they took us to do. For example I visited Mt. Chai, shopped at a huge mall in Akita, and ate japanese cuisine in an ancient japanese home. Our experience was culminated with a banquet in our honor where we dressed in traditional Japanese Kimonos and performed a song and dance for the audience. As a group, I think we all enjoyed the people we encountered on our trip. Everyone was very kind and selfless. We felt like movie stars everywhere we went. I had the opportunity to give a speech to a school in Nikaho and their reaction was amazing. All the students smiled and clapped like I was a professional speaker. As a group we also met many Japanese teenagers who acted like we were their best friends. It was truly the trip of a lifetime!”

Hadley

 

 

 

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • The Interview Intensive begins in October, click here for more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/interview-intensive-10-12th-grades
  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

 

 

 

 

No comments | leave a comment
Business Etiquette, Etiquette, Manner Monday, Manners

Manner Monday®: Soup

Every time I speak at a lunch or dinner workshop – we talk about eating soup in the presence of others.  Yes, at home, some of us may pick it up like a coffee mug and slurp… but hopefully not in public!

And each year when Columbus Day rolls around, the legendary poem many of us learned as children in history class pops into my head…

In fourteen hundred ninety-two

     Columbus sailed the ocean blue.

He had three ships and left from Spain;

     He sailed through sunshine, wind and rain…

Ok, ok, I’ll stop there… sorry to get that stuck in your head.

Thinking about the poem is very handy when you are trying to navigate soup somewhat gracefully in the presence of others…

    As a ship sails out to sea, I sail my spoon away from me.

By “sailing your spoon away”, any precarious drips will drip away from you, instead of on your shirt or tie.   And if your soup is SO delicious you’re trying to figure out how to get the last few scoops (without picking it up like a coffee cup)… keep the same poem in mind and tilt your bowl away from you.  Again, if you fumble your soup bowl while tilting, the soup will sail away from you and not end up in your lap.

 

Soup sailing.pdf

 

 

 

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • The Interview Intensive begins in October, click here for more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/interview-intensive-10-12th-grades
  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

 

No comments | leave a comment
Business Etiquette, Etiquette, Family, Family Dinner, Manner Monday, Manners

Manner Monday®: Hosiery or Stockings, should I?

Last week I spoke at the Oklahoma State University Spears School of Business to their undergraduate students.  After the presentation, I had many students come up to ask one-on-one questions – which were really well thought out and awesome!  One of the young ladies asked about wearing hosiery, aka “stockings” to an interview, and if it was a ‘must’, or a ‘deal-breaker’ if she didn’t.

Coming from a Millennial, her question caught me a bit off guard. Other than the trend of tights during winter months, I tend to associate hosiery more with the Boomer crowd.  Sorry, no offense to the Boomers out there!

I believe instead of being a rule of Etiquette or Protocol, it has evolved into something much more complicated. 
I personally think it boils down to a number of things:

  • Generational issues – Your Grandmother would not even consider stepping out in public with bare legs. Stockings are a must for her wardrobe!
  • Are your legs able to stand on their own without the gentle camouflage or support that stockings provide?
  • Time of year – will your legs have goose bumps and be pasty … Summer – not a problem.  Winter, bleh – opt for tights.
  • Flat out preference – Some people feel more confident WITH stockings, other people can’t stand them.
  • And last but not least: Depends on what company you will be keeping…. If you’re with a more ‘mature’ (meaning older) group, then out of respect I would don hosiery.

My answer to her in the end was to do a bit of research. As she’s preparing for her interview and researching the company, go ahead and find out what the company culture is when it comes to dress code; and let that be her guide.  And if there is any question, it’s best to err on the safe side and slip on some stockings.

And we can thank Kate Middleton for making tights look oh so chic!

Kate Middleton

 

 

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • The Interview Intensive begins in October, click here for more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/interview-intensive-10-12th-grades
  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

 

No comments | leave a comment
Business Etiquette, Etiquette, Fashion, Manner Monday, Manners

Manner Monday®: ‘Thank-you’ = You’re hired!

You’ve heard me time and time again talking about the importance of a hand written ‘thank-you’ note.  We’ve come to expect a thank-you note after sending a wedding present, or a baby gift.  But in the world of business, when you receive that UN-expected note in the mail – that’s the icing on the cake.  That’s the ‘wow’ that makes a difference!

And that simple act of putting pen to paper made a HUGE difference in the life of a local Oklahoma City Metro area resident.  After finding out what I do for a living – a few years ago our realtor, Wyatt Poindexter, shared this story with me.  I recently reached out to ask him if he’d put the story in writing so I could share it with you.

“In 1993 I moved to West Palm Beach to go to college. I talked a friend of mine to move out there with me. My friend, Bryan Pearson, started a new job at the Ibis Country Club Golf Course. One weekend he met Donald Trump at the club. The rain was delaying the golfing so Bryan spent the day talking with Trump. Bryan came back to our apartment and told me all about Trump. Bryan decided to write a “Thank-You” letter to Mr. Trump. About a week letter Trump calls Bryan at our apartment and invited him over for dinner at his famous Mar-a-Lago estate. Bryan went to Trumps house for dinner and Trump was so impressed with him and his letter that he offered him a job. Bryan’s new job was the head house manager of Mar-a-lago.”

Wow!  Now if that doesn’t demonstrate the power of a thank-you note – I don’t know what will.  Of course, every time you write a note, you can’t expect Donald Trump to hire you – but you never know what door it may open, or opportunity it may present.

donald-trump-hired
Special Announcements:

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our Passport Party is fast-approaching and will take place, Thursday, October 2.  It’s a great way to meet new friends and learn about the program.  Here is the link to more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-party

  • The Interview Intensive begins in October, click here for more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/interview-intensive-10-12th-grades
  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

Don’t miss out – Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

No comments | leave a comment
Business Etiquette, Family, Manner Monday, Manners

Manner Monday®: Cuff Links

We recently had pins made for our Student Ambassadors; lapel pins for the gentlemen, and pins with sparkly crystals for the ladies.  When the samples arrived, the company also sent cuff link examples.  I loved the cuff links, but personally thought our young men would not be interested.  Boy was I wrong!  Most of the gentlemen insisted they would were the cuff links, even to the point of saying they would purchase them themselves.  Then one of them asked, ‘what’s the purpose of cuff links, when you can just use the buttons that came with the shirt instead?’  So you know what I told them… that’s a great question, and it makes a great topic for Manner Monday – so here it is.

History
We can thank the French for the invention.  Prior to the 16th century and the reign of Louis XIV, men wore ruffled wristbands that were fitted with ‘cuff strings’. But of course simple strings were not enough for Louis XIV; he preferred using diamond buttons in lieu of the strings.  One of his coats featured 125 diamond buttons – I guess he was going for something simple (I’m kidding!).  For those who didn’t have access to diamonds, they would use glass buttons to replicate the look.

In the 19th century, cuff links were the norm, and by the Victorian period, both cuff links and shirt studs became essential parts of a gentleman’s wardrobe.

Today
If you’re looking to add cuff links to your wardrobe, you have many options.  One of the most basic and popular styles today is the silk knot, which is two small knots, woven together with a connecting thread.  Or maybe you’re in the market for something other than silk, you can search eBay and other vintage websites to find some real treasures that are reasonably priced.  You might even ask a grandparent or other family member if they have a pair, there’s a pretty good chance they have something tucked away that they would be happy to pass along.

Alternate Use
I remember reading an article on napkin rings awhile back that offered up a really fun and unique repurpose idea for cuff links.  When hosting a dinner part, use vintage cuff links as napkin rings (pairing with ribbon or material), to identify partners. Then each couple will take their cuff links home as a party favor at the end of the evening.

Conversation Starters
Cufflinks can end up being great conversation starters.  When you see someone wearing them, use it as a fantastic way to break the ice.  There is a pretty good chance they’ll have a story to go with their cuff links to get the conversation started.

photo

 

Special Announcements:

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Don’t miss out – Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, September 23, Skirvin
  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

9-12th Grade Levels:  Registration is open and will continue with the Early Bird discount into the fall.  Register early to avoid the waiting list.

  • 9-12th Grade registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

As always, thanks for reading!
- Carey Sue

 

No comments | leave a comment
Business Etiquette, Etiquette, Manner Monday