Manner Monday®: Treating Others Like A Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader

I was recently at the Dallas Love Field airport, getting ready to board the same flight as a small group of 10 Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders. It was obvious who they were as they all had matching Cowboy Cheerleader logo luggage. They were beautiful young ladies. They were dressed respectfully, and they had flawless hair and makeup. They looked camera ready, which I think I’ve heard is part of their contract. If I haven’t already painted a good enough picture for you, I’m sure you can imagine it was definitely fun people watching in the waiting area. Between the grown men and women who were literally tripping over themselves as they walked by, turning to get a better look, to the sweet young girls who were looking up to the Cheerleaders with huge smiles.

What I really loved about the whole process was how the Cheerleaders stopped and put their technology away and would give each little girl 100% of their attention and focus and ask the little girl questions as if she was the star. The exchange always ended up with the parent getting a picture of the young girl with her new BFF’s.

I’m sure the Cheerleaders receive extensive training on how to act in public, but it was reassuring to see the interaction and what appeared to be their genuine interest in each person who approached them. They didn’t seem putout or annoyed, they truly acted as if it was their pleasure to accommodate the interruption.

For all of the negative stereotypes that are associated with the beauty behind the Cheerleader image, it was definitely enjoyable to watch how poised and professional these young ladies were. I’m thinking the training they’re receiving behind the scenes, as a Cheerleader, will serve them well into the next phases of their professional careers.

It all was a good reminder for me to treat the person I’m interacting with as if THEY were a Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader.

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In Other News…

I’m hosting a Free Webinar to learn more about our programs.  Do you know someone who may be interested? They can register for the free webinar that will take place Tuesday, April 14, by clicking on the button below. We only have a limited number of ‘seats’ so please sign up now!:Reg for webinar

During the webinar, I will go into detail about all of our programs for our:

  •  5-8th grade programs
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  • Adult Business Training
  • How the classes are setup
  • The M/F ratios
  •  And much, much more!

If you have a specific question you would like answered during the webinar, please feel free to shoot me an email via the ‘contact us’ form and I’ll make sure to include it. We’ll also have time at the end of the live webinar for Q&A, so no worries if you don’t have a question now.

AND if for some reason you’re not able to make it to the live webinar, please go ahead and register anyway, we will send a recording of the event out to everyone who registered so you can watch it at your convenience.

 

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

 

 

 

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I’m Curious: What’s your favorite Tip for Teaching Table Manners to Kids?

It seems like there’s not a week that doesn’t go by, where I don’t get an email or phone call from a young mother asking for help in teaching table manners to her little ones.  The calls and emails always start out by saying how they’ve heard we offer classes for older kids, but they need help with their young ones – now.   I love sharing tips with these ladies to help them along their journey.

Would you mind sharing two things with me?  I value your time and promise it will only take a minute!

1 – your FAVORITE tip I’ve shared with you over the years (it doesn’t even have to be table manners related).

2 – what is the ONE thing you think is most important when teaching children table manners?

Please don’t respond to this, take just a minute to click on this link so I can keep all of your answers organized and in one place:  http://bit.ly/TableMannersTip

Thanks in advance!
– Carey Sue

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Manner Monday®: April Fools Day

I did a segment with Channel 4 on April Fools Etiquette for the Family and the Office.
We don’t have the video available, but here is the transcript:

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Q – When do kids think a prank is good fun, and why do parents need to tread carefully from the start?

A – Parents REALLY need to tread lightly, we need to set good examples of what’s acceptable and what isn’t.

This is a great time and opportunity to have a conversation with your kiddos about pranks and practical jokes.

Ask them what they think is appropriate, then you can guide the conversation and point out that what they think may be funny, may actually be mean or offensive to others.

 

Q – It seems a lot of families have a ‘prankster’ who goes a bit too far? What’s going on with this person?

A – Do you see a pattern occurring?
Are they pulling the pranks as a way to get attention?
What is the motive behind the prank?
Is the prankster well-meaning, but ends up getting excited and over-zealous?
Or is their intent to see how far they can push the limit or boundaries?
Determine the motive before taking action.

 

Q – So how do you talk to a serial prankster – and still feel like you can sit down together next Thanksgiving?

A – If you do see a pattern occurring, it’s important to point it out and make sure the person realizes what they’re doing.

Explain the unintended potential consequences of their behavior: How is it affecting his reputation?

He may think it’s funny, but others think of him as annoying, ignorant, prejudiced or narrow-minded. Make sure to point out the impact of the pranks on others; people may be avoiding him and not want to be around him.

 

Q – Now lets talk about Office Pranks. What are the three elements to avoid at all cost?

A – Humor that falls into the category of sex, race, or religion does not belong in any office, period.

As an adult, playing a few pranks in the office can lighten the mood and bring some fun and excitement into the workplace.  On the other hand, it can cause stress, create unnecessary problems, breed animosity and cut into productivity.

If you like to get into the spirit of the day and you’re busy scheming and planning the perfect prank, ask yourself  “how would I feel if this joke were played on me?”

Many pranks may seem funny to you, but fall into the gray area and need to be administered with extreme caution. Everyone needs to be aware that what is funny to one person, can be offensive to another.

 

Q – Lets continue on the theory that a good laugh is a good moral booster in the workplace. What else should you keep in mind?

A – Make sure to be a good role model and keep your pranks good-natured and squeaky-clean. And if a coworker does take something personal or the wrong way, simply stop, apologize and don’t argue that it was funny or that they lack a sense of humor. Apologize, clear the air, and move forward.

Also, keep in mind the timing of your prank.  It may be April Fools Day on the calendar, but if you’re timing is wrong and if your prank is unprofessional – you may end up being the Fool.

 

 

 

In other news…

Spring Special Registration Discount is available
Registration Information for 5th-8th Grades for 2015-2016 Season

Registration Information for 9th-12th Grades for the 2015-2016 Season

Multi-Season Discount
You’ve asked and we have listened!  We now offer a multi-sesason discount to families who would like to register a child for three consecutive years in the program.  As each season builds on the previous; maximum benefits are achieved by continued exposure for a minimum of three years (many students participate for 8 consecutive years).

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: Technology in the Car

So if you’ve been following Manner Monday for a while, you know I’m not a fan of kids using technology (dvd, games, etc.) in the car. In our family, we do not allow movies, or games, on short trips. We look at this time as a great opportunity for conversations and teaching moments for our son about driving, navigation, landmarks, and a whole host of other things including music ‘appreciation’ like AC/DC, George Strait, and Bruno Mars to name a few J. I’ve heard from moms of older kids, that as their children venture into the tween/teen years, some of their best conversations have taken place in the car. And not to mention how I can’t help thinking that the time will get here before we know it when our Cub will be driving, and we want him to know how to find his way around town.

But as we all know ‘rules’ can also come with exceptions to the said rule… and a long car trip, yes, that is definitely one of our exceptions to tech check, load up and bring out the tech! We still try to point out learning opportunities, but realistically, technology just makes those long trips manageable. For instance, how many times have you heard ‘are we there yet’, and ‘how much longer’ shortly after you pull out of the neighborhood?!?! One way we make tech work for our family on long trips is by teaching our son how to use the timer and map apps on our devices. As we start out on our adventure, we pull up the map app and figure out what our best route is and the estimated travel time, and then we open the clock app and enter that travel time into the timer. Our son knows that instead of asking us ‘are we there yet’, or ‘how much longer’, he can look at the iPad to answer his own question. So far, for us, it’s working like a charm.

What about you, how do you make technology work for your family on long trips?

Tweetable: “A way we make tech work for our family on long trips is by teaching our son how to use the timer and map app on our devices.” #MannerMonday

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In other news…

Spring Special Registration Discount is available
Registration Information for 5th-8th Grades for 2015-2016 Season

Registration Information for 9th-12th Grades for the 2015-2016 Season

Multi-Season Discount
You’ve asked and we have listened!  We now offer a multi-sesason discount to families who would like to register a child for three consecutive years in the program.  As each season builds on the previous; maximum benefits are achieved by continued exposure for a minimum of three years (many students participate for 8 consecutive years).

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

 

 

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Manner Monday®: Is it rude to cut my salad with a knife?

Q – ‘We were told today at lunch that it is poor manners to cut a large chunk of lettuce in a salad. We were quite surprised. Is this true?’ - Linda

A – First off, I hope that it was told to you in conversation and not directed towards you as if you were breaking the law. If the latter is the case, then the person correcting you would be creating a much bigger etiquette violation than anyone who may be using a utensil ‘incorrectly’.

To answer the question, this is actually an ‘old-school’ rule that really no longer applies. Old-fashioned knife blades were made from steel or iron and they had a tendency to react with vinegar or citrus juice in the dressing, the knives also had a tendency to discolor/brown the edges of cut lettuce; hence the utilitarian need for the rule.

This is one of the numerous ‘old-school’ rules that continue to get recycled but don’t really apply. Plus, can you imagine tacking the trendy ‘wedge’ salad without a knife? Today it boils down to courtesy and respect versus usage of fork and silverware. As long as you don’t look like a Neanderthal at the table, you’re good!!!

Tweetable: Dining Etiquette boils down to courtesy and respect versus usage of fork and silverware. Just don’t look like a Neanderthal! #MannerMonday

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In other news…

Spring Special Registration Discount is available
Registration Information for 5th-8th Grades for 2015-2016 Season

Registration Information for 9th-12th Grades for the 2015-2016 Season

Multi-Season Discount
You’ve asked and we have listened!  We now offer a multi-sesason discount to families who would like to register a child for three consecutive years in the program.  As each season builds on the previous; maximum benefits are achieved by continued exposure for a minimum of three years (many students participate for 8 consecutive years).

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: Baby Shower – who can host?

I received this question via email last week.  It’s been asked before, so I’m pulling the answer out of the archives to share again:

Is it proper for a mother to host a baby shower for her daughter? – Linda

What an exciting time in your life, congratulations on the new grand baby!

Historically, close friends or coworkers of the expectant mother have been the ones to offer to throw the shower. Sometimes extended family members such as an Aunt or Cousin may act as host. As gifts are usually the main reason for the shower, immediate family members typically do not act as host as it appears a bit “self-serving”.

Of course, with every ‘rule’ there are exceptions. Today, with families spread out across the country and literally around the world, you see parents or siblings hosting showers for a child, or sister, who does not live in the same town. The family member plays host as an opportunity for close friends to share in the celebration while the mother-to-be is in town for a visit.

If you don’t have someone offer to host a shower: a fun alternative for you would be to throw a “sip and see” after the baby is born, where the guests are invited to see the new bundle of joy.

Enjoy this amazing time with your daughter.

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In other news…

Executive Success Series
I’m so excited for this new series!!!  Please feel free to share this information with anyone else you think may be interested.

Research shows that 85 percent of success in the business world hinges on your soft skills, and only 15 percent on your technical skills.  Yet many people do not take the time to invest in the most critical part of their professional training, the crucial social skills that enhance your ability to communicate, negotiate, and lead which helps you build relationships and close deals.  Are you ready to invest in your 85 percent?

Schedule:

  • Tuesday, March 10, 11:30am-1:00pm, Skirvin, Downtown Oklahoma City  (lunch included)
  • Tuesday, April 14, 11:30am-1:00pm, Skirvin, Downtown Oklahoma City  (lunch included)
  • Tuesday, May 12, 6:00-7:30pm, Cocktail Party, Location TBA

Curriculum:

  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Hosting and being a guest at a lunch, dinner, board, or coffee meeting
  • Communication; verbal, written and electronic
  • Networking Events; advanced techniques for both Introverts and Extroverts
  • Customer Service, and much more.

Course Fee:  $287 for all three events in the series

REGISTRATION CLOSES MARCH 3:  Click here to register


 

Spring Special Registration Discount is available
Registration Information for 5th-8th Grades for 2015-2016 Season

Registration Information for 9th-12th Grades for the 2015-2016 Season

Multi-Season Discount
You’ve asked and we have listened!  We now offer a multi-sesason discount to families who would like to register a child for three consecutive years in the program.  As each season builds on the previous; maximum benefits are achieved by continued exposure for a minimum of three years (many students participate for 8 consecutive years).

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

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Manner Monday®: Manners for Main Event

This week for MannerMonday we talk about Manners for Main Event.  We’re working on our manners for nice little humans before we head out for a little fun.  Holding the door open for the ladies, treating the employees with respect and showing our friends good sports etiquette when we lose helps to keep things fun for everyone!

Tweetable: Treating employees with respect and showing our friends good sports etiquette helps keep things fun for everyone! #MannerMonday

 


 

In other news…

Executive Success Series 
I’m so excited for this new series!!!  Please feel free to share this information with anyone else you think may be interested.

Research shows that 85 percent of success in the business world hinges on your soft skills, and only 15 percent on your technical skills.  Yet many people do not take the time to invest in the most critical part of their professional training, the crucial social skills that enhance your ability to communicate, negotiate, and lead which helps you build relationships and close deals.  Are you ready to invest in your 85 percent?

Schedule:

  • Tuesday, March 10, 11:30am-1:00pm, Skirvin, Downtown Oklahoma City  (lunch included)
  • Tuesday, April 14, 11:30am-1:00pm, Skirvin, Downtown Oklahoma City  (lunch included)
  • Tuesday, May 12, 6:00-7:30pm, Cocktail Party, Location TBA

Curriculum:

  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Hosting and being a guest at a lunch, dinner, board, or coffee meeting
  • Communication; verbal, written and electronic
  • Networking Events; advanced techniques for both Introverts and Extroverts
  • Customer Service, and much more.

Course Fee:  $287 for all three events in the series

Click here to register, seating is limited and registration closes on March 3.


 

Friends and Family Early Bird Registration Discount is available
Registration Information for 5th-8th Grades for 2015-2016 Season

Registration Information for 9th-12th Grades for the 2015-2016 Season

Multi-Season Discount
You’ve asked and we have listened!  We now offer a multi-sesason discount to families who would like to register a child for three consecutive years in the program.  As each season builds on the previous; maximum benefits are achieved by continued exposure for a minimum of three years (many students participate for 8 consecutive years).

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue


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Manner Monday®: What Would George Say?

Happy President’s Day!

In honor of the Holiday, we’re pulling another rule from George Washington’s 110 Rules of Civility and Decent Behavior in Company and Conversation which he penned at the ripe age of 16 (yes, 16) to highlight how his ‘archaic’ rules are still pretty relevant in today’s modern world.

Rule #42: “Let thy ceremonies in Courtesy be proper to the Dignity of his place with whom thou converses for it is absurd to act the same with a Clown and a Prince.”

In other words:  There is a time and a place for everything. We’re all about fun, but knowing when to ‘drop anchor’ (pun intended) and knowing how and when to apply the rules of etiquette is your ticket to self-confidence!

Tweetable: We’re all about fun, but knowing knowing how and when to apply the rules of etiquette is your ticket to self-confidence! #MannerMonday

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In other news….

Early Bird Registration for the 5-8th grade programs is openClick here to register.

  • Save $100 by registering now for a single season.
  • Or save $364 by taking advantage of the Multi-Season Discount.


Business Etiquette Training:  
Executive Presence Master Class Coming Soon 

We’re putting the finishing touches on this exciting program.  We should be ready to announce the details very very soon!
Do you know of a young professional who could benefit from participation?
Classes are scheduled to begin in March. … stay tuned…

In the meantime, Click Here to access the Business Section of the website.
Or please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

 

Thanks for reading!
-Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: Valentine’s Day Parties

As adults, we understand the fun and hoopla Valentine’s Day brings… but for the little ones in our lives, it can cause unnecessary anxiety and tension.  Take a few minutes to talk with your child and remind them that the exchange of Valentine Cards is a fun way to show respect and friendship to ALL of their classmates.

Tweetable: Take time to remind kiddos that the exchange of Valentine Cards is a fun way to show respect and friendship to ALL classmates. #MannerMonday

It’s a fun way to make people feel included and special. Any ‘extra-special valentine’ cards or gifts need to be given outside of the classroom.  For classroom parties, make sure your child has enough Valentine’s to share with each student (and don’t forget their teacher).

Billy apparently thinks he’ll be getting quite a few Valentine’s this week based on the size of his Robot Valentine box!

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In other news….

Early Bird Registration for the 5-8th grade programs is openClick here to register.

  • Save $100 by registering now for a single season.
  • Or save $364 by taking advantage of the Multi-Season Discount.


Business Etiquette Training:  
Executive Presence Master Class Coming Soon 

We’re putting the finishing touches on this exciting program.  We should be ready to announce the details very very soon!
Do you know of a young professional who could benefit from participation?
Classes are scheduled to begin in March. … stay tuned…

In the meantime, Click Here to access the Business Section of the website.
Or please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

 

Thanks for reading!
-Carey Sue

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Manner Monday®: Texting and Dating Etiquette

Channel 4 recently asked me to help with a segment on Texting and Dating Etiquette. To see the segment, click on the video below.

Before the appearance, I put a question out on my FaceBook page asking for opinions, and wow – did I get responses! The question was:

“Is it ok to be asked out via text message?”
My response is, on a first date, absolutely not; down the road in the relationship, yes.
The majority of the others commenting on the post agreed, but few brought up the fact that generations change, and the times change. I totally agree and get that point, but I don’t think we’re completely there yet. By asking someone out either face-to-face, or verbally over the phone; that takes some guts. It shows that the date is important. And it sets the tone for the relationship.

Here are some other questions we covered during the segment:

What about using your smart-phone during the date?
If you know you may be expecting a call; if you’re a teen and you’re parents may check on you, or you’re a single mom with a sick kiddo at home – that’s totally understandable and expected. Tell your date, that you may need to take the call. Then if it happens, excuse yourself and be QUICK about it. Don’t leave your date hanging.

If you are looking up an answer to a question or showing them something that supplements your story – do so with caution and only if your date truly seems interested. You don’t want to bore him with funny cat videos all night – only to find out later he hates cats!

But definitely no texting or posting via social media during the date. That can wait until after.

What about taking pictures during the date? For some teens, if it isn’t on Instagram… it didn’t happen.
Don’t take a picture of your date unless they ask you to. You don’t want to start things off on the wrong foot by being self-centered and taking ‘selfies’ with your date right off the bat. Save those for down the road.

Focus on the date and the moment. You want your date to think they’re more important than how many likes your post is going to get.

Teens need to understand this important and basic rule of etiquette, as it will carry over with them in the business world. They need to understand that the person in front of them should receive 100% of their attention, not their phone and not their InstaGram likes.

We’ve all heard about someone who got digitally dumped. What are some other ways to wreck your reputation through texting?
First of all – do not break up via social media. If you’re mature enough to date – you’re mature enough to end the relationship verbally, not via text. That person you’ve been seeing deserves the common courtesy of a break up in person. That’s part of the process and that’s part of what comes with dating. And realize if the person is that big of a coward to break up with you electronically, you don’t want to be with them in the first place. Look at as they did you a favor and showed their real colors and saved you some headaches down the road.

Texting is black and white, no tone, and no voice to show inflection or empathy. Yes, teens use emojis to replicate those things, but in reality, sometimes we can’t read between the lines and we mistake a text for its intended purpose and we get our feathers ruffled.
If that happens,
– Don’t send long rambling texts asking why
– Don’t Machine Gun Text while you’re upset
– Wait until you are calm, then make an old-fashioned phone call so you can speak ‘in person’ to clear up the misunderstanding.

What if the relationship is over? What should you do with the angry texts or maybe even inappropriate pictures (yes it happens!) you received while the relationship was good?
As hard as it is, you need to let it go – Delete them and move on. Don’t dwell and drag things out. Delete them so you can move on. Period.

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