Manner Monday®: Japanese Etiquette

One of our Students Hadley Griffith, from Shawnee, Oklahoma, had the amazing opportunity to travel to Japan last year.  In visiting with her, we thought it would be fun to share some Japanese Etiquette tips in case you get the chance to visit:

  • The Japanese do not approve of male/female touching in public.
  • The American ‘okay’ sign means “money” in Japan.
  • Pointing is considered impolite.  Instead, you wave your hand, palm up, toward the object in reference.
  • The Japanese do not engage in backslapping or other forms of touching.
  • In Japan, it’s rude to blow your nose in public.
  • The Japanese non-visual ‘space bubble’ that appears between two people is farther apart in Japan.
  • When entering someones home, remove your shoes and leave them by the door.  You will put on the ‘house slippers’ provided, and will exchange them again for ‘toilet slippers’ if you need to visit the bathroom.
  • When greeting, if someone bows to you – observe their bow carefully.  If they are a peer (or an equal), bow to the same depth as the depth of the bow is indicative of the relationship between you.  Don’t forget to lower your eyes as you bow.

When eating:

  • Meals are long, and sometimes go until after 10:00pm.
  • Never point your chopsticks at another person. If you are not using them, line them up on the chopstick rest.
  • Use both hands on a bowl or cup to signal a refill.
  • If eating in a private home, you will sit on the floor cross-legged, or with your legs to the side.

More from Hadley:

“I recently had an amazing opportunity to visit Nikaho, Japan with the Shawnee Sister Cities program along with seven other students and two adults. My name is Hadley Griffith and the other delegates are Carly Fisher, Lauren Canaday, Kate Barrett, Abby Morris, Rose Templeton, Josh Floyd, and Jaxon Canard. The adults are Jessica Brown and Beth Polston.We visited Tokyo, swam in the Sea of Japan, and watched the Kanto festival in Akita, Japan. We all experienced the japanese culture in different ways through our host family and the neat things they took us to do. For example I visited Mt. Chai, shopped at a huge mall in Akita, and ate japanese cuisine in an ancient japanese home. Our experience was culminated with a banquet in our honor where we dressed in traditional Japanese Kimonos and performed a song and dance for the audience. As a group, I think we all enjoyed the people we encountered on our trip. Everyone was very kind and selfless. We felt like movie stars everywhere we went. I had the opportunity to give a speech to a school in Nikaho and their reaction was amazing. All the students smiled and clapped like I was a professional speaker. As a group we also met many Japanese teenagers who acted like we were their best friends. It was truly the trip of a lifetime!”

Hadley

 

 

 

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • The Interview Intensive begins in October, click here for more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/interview-intensive-10-12th-grades
  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

 

 

 

 

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Manner Monday®: Soup

Every time I speak at a lunch or dinner workshop – we talk about eating soup in the presence of others.  Yes, at home, some of us may pick it up like a coffee mug and slurp… but hopefully not in public!

And each year when Columbus Day rolls around, the legendary poem many of us learned as children in history class pops into my head…

In fourteen hundred ninety-two

     Columbus sailed the ocean blue.

He had three ships and left from Spain;

     He sailed through sunshine, wind and rain…

Ok, ok, I’ll stop there… sorry to get that stuck in your head.

Thinking about the poem is very handy when you are trying to navigate soup somewhat gracefully in the presence of others…

    As a ship sails out to sea, I sail my spoon away from me.

By “sailing your spoon away”, any precarious drips will drip away from you, instead of on your shirt or tie.   And if your soup is SO delicious you’re trying to figure out how to get the last few scoops (without picking it up like a coffee cup)… keep the same poem in mind and tilt your bowl away from you.  Again, if you fumble your soup bowl while tilting, the soup will sail away from you and not end up in your lap.

 

Soup sailing.pdf

 

 

 

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • The Interview Intensive begins in October, click here for more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/interview-intensive-10-12th-grades
  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: Hosiery or Stockings, should I?

Last week I spoke at the Oklahoma State University Spears School of Business to their undergraduate students.  After the presentation, I had many students come up to ask one-on-one questions – which were really well thought out and awesome!  One of the young ladies asked about wearing hosiery, aka “stockings” to an interview, and if it was a ‘must’, or a ‘deal-breaker’ if she didn’t.

Coming from a Millennial, her question caught me a bit off guard. Other than the trend of tights during winter months, I tend to associate hosiery more with the Boomer crowd.  Sorry, no offense to the Boomers out there!

I believe instead of being a rule of Etiquette or Protocol, it has evolved into something much more complicated. 
I personally think it boils down to a number of things:

  • Generational issues – Your Grandmother would not even consider stepping out in public with bare legs. Stockings are a must for her wardrobe!
  • Are your legs able to stand on their own without the gentle camouflage or support that stockings provide?
  • Time of year – will your legs have goose bumps and be pasty … Summer – not a problem.  Winter, bleh – opt for tights.
  • Flat out preference – Some people feel more confident WITH stockings, other people can’t stand them.
  • And last but not least: Depends on what company you will be keeping…. If you’re with a more ‘mature’ (meaning older) group, then out of respect I would don hosiery.

My answer to her in the end was to do a bit of research. As she’s preparing for her interview and researching the company, go ahead and find out what the company culture is when it comes to dress code; and let that be her guide.  And if there is any question, it’s best to err on the safe side and slip on some stockings.

And we can thank Kate Middleton for making tights look oh so chic!

Kate Middleton

 

 

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • The Interview Intensive begins in October, click here for more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/interview-intensive-10-12th-grades
  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

 

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: ‘Thank-you’ = You’re hired!

You’ve heard me time and time again talking about the importance of a hand written ‘thank-you’ note.  We’ve come to expect a thank-you note after sending a wedding present, or a baby gift.  But in the world of business, when you receive that UN-expected note in the mail – that’s the icing on the cake.  That’s the ‘wow’ that makes a difference!

And that simple act of putting pen to paper made a HUGE difference in the life of a local Oklahoma City Metro area resident.  After finding out what I do for a living – a few years ago our realtor, Wyatt Poindexter, shared this story with me.  I recently reached out to ask him if he’d put the story in writing so I could share it with you.

“In 1993 I moved to West Palm Beach to go to college. I talked a friend of mine to move out there with me. My friend, Bryan Pearson, started a new job at the Ibis Country Club Golf Course. One weekend he met Donald Trump at the club. The rain was delaying the golfing so Bryan spent the day talking with Trump. Bryan came back to our apartment and told me all about Trump. Bryan decided to write a “Thank-You” letter to Mr. Trump. About a week letter Trump calls Bryan at our apartment and invited him over for dinner at his famous Mar-a-Lago estate. Bryan went to Trumps house for dinner and Trump was so impressed with him and his letter that he offered him a job. Bryan’s new job was the head house manager of Mar-a-lago.”

Wow!  Now if that doesn’t demonstrate the power of a thank-you note – I don’t know what will.  Of course, every time you write a note, you can’t expect Donald Trump to hire you – but you never know what door it may open, or opportunity it may present.

donald-trump-hired
Special Announcements:

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our Passport Party is fast-approaching and will take place, Thursday, October 2.  It’s a great way to meet new friends and learn about the program.  Here is the link to more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-party

  • The Interview Intensive begins in October, click here for more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/interview-intensive-10-12th-grades
  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

Don’t miss out – Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

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Manner Monday®: Family Dinner

Family Dinner…if you’re like most families today, you’re running in different directions, and just happy to get everyone fed, somehow – someway!  I know that’s the case for us, and there’s only three people in our family.  This past week, ‘family dinner’ at home didn’t happen for us – we had an event or activity every night of the week. Our family dinner consisted of Chick-fil-A at the school carnival while our son was trying to ditch us as fast as possible to find his friends.  And we understand that – the school carnival is a big deal for an 8-year-old.  But family dinner is a big deal to us, as parents.  So obviously, some weeks are better than others at making it happen.

The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University (CASA) has instituted a national movement called “Family Day – A Day to Eat Dinner with Your Children.  Launched as a grassroots effort in 2001, it has now grown to a nationwide initiative that is celebrated on the fourth Monday in September.

Here is some great information from their website:

As children age, it is important to build trust with them and keep the lines of communication open so that if at any point they begin to feel increased pressure to experiment with smoking, drinking and using drugs they can feel comfortable talking to you about it. 
 Everyday activities like having family dinner together, helping your children with their homework or attending their after school activities have a lasting effect on your kids.

Each of these moments offers an opportunity to connect, share and really listen to what’s on their mind. Research shows that children with hands-on parents are far less likely to smoke, drink or use other drugs. Remember, parental engagement matters!

 If you can’t sit down for family dinner today, that’s ok.  Take a look at your calendar for the next week and schedule a ‘date’ (or two or three) with your family for good old-fashioned ‘family-face-time’ (FFT).  It doesn’t have to be fancy.  Keep it simple and as stress free and as much FUN as possible.  FUN is when great things happen.

Determine if FFT will take place at home around the table or choose a restaurant where it can be accomplished (no TVs distracting with the game overhead).  The goal is for whomever is participating to sit at the table for a meal with no distractions.  Yes, mom and dad this will be just as hard for you J – no cell phones and no TV.  Think quality FFT.  Believe it or not, teenagers really do want uninterrupted quality time with their parents – even if they don’t act like it.  By planning ahead and exerting a little bit of effort in small stages, we can start now to prepare for mealtime outings with family, friends, and even colleagues… without cringing at the thought of the idea.

And if you want a fun, creative way to set the stage and ‘invite’ your family to dinner… take the lead from the mom of one of our high school students:

family dinner invitation

 

 

Special Announcements:

Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

 

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our Passport Party is fast-approaching and will take place, Thursday, October 2.  It’s a great way to meet new friends and learn about the program.  Here is the link to more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-party

  • The Interview Intensive begins in October, click here for more information:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/interview-intensive-10-12th-grades
  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

Don’t miss out – Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

 

 

 

 

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Manner Monday®: Drive-Through Etiquette

I recently wrote a blog post about the other side of Customer Service and how sometimes we forget to treat the person providing the service with the same respect we expect to receive during the transaction. The post prompted a conversation with a friend about ‘drive-through’ etiquette and how we can’t always see the person behind the screen, but the same rules should apply.

Here are some other tips to make sure your drive-through experience is a good one – for everyone involved!

Put down your phone.  Facebook can wait!  And if you’re in the middle of a phone conversation, tell the other person you will call them back… you can’t carry on two conversations at once – and it’s flat out rude to both of the parties you’re cross communicating with.

Turn down the radio.  It’s hard enough for the person trying to understand your order in the first place – help them out by cutting down on the background noise.

Quite please.  Ask the other people in your car to be quite – it’s only for a few seconds while you place the order. And it’s a great opportunity to model respect for others.

Be prepared.  If you’re not familiar with the menu, do your best to focus on the menu options as soon as they are in clear sight so you can be as precise as possible when placing your order.

Pull the shades.  You may remember from the ‘sunglass etiquette’ post, you should remove your sunglasses when speaking with someone.  Don’t forget, to offer that same respect to the person working the window at the drive-through.

Raining?  If it’s raining – the person working the window will be forever grateful if you remember to turn off your windshield wipers so they don’t get drenched on the upswing.

drive-thru

 

Special Announcements:

5-8th Grade Classes have begun… 
For more information, visit the registration page on the website:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/registration

9-12th Grade Levels:  Registration is open and will continue with the Early Bird discount into the fall.  Register early to avoid the waiting list.

  • 9-12th Grade registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

Business Etiquette Lunch Workshops – Begin in September
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

Join us for a workshop:

  • Tuesday, September 23, Skirvin
  • Tuesday, October 21, Quail Creek
  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

Register via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/business-and-social-etiquette-lunch-workshops

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!
- Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: Labor Day

When it comes to Memorial Day and Labor Day, does anyone else get confused with which holiday falls when?  Yep, me too!  A dear friend, Vonne, taught be an easy way to remember.  M = May and Memorial Day.  Then you can think L = Last day to go swimming and Labor Day (most public pools close after Labor Day weekend).  I hope that helps… I know it’s already helped me!  :-)

In honor of ‘Labor Day’… I’m enjoying some down time with my family.  I hope you enjoy this post from the archives:

One of our High School students asked us the other day about Labor Day.  They were thrilled to have the school holiday, but weren’t exactly sure why they were getting the day off.  I promised them I would repost a previous Manner Monday with the history of the holiday…

Labor Day is a National Holiday dating back to 1882 when the first “Labor Day Celebration”, or street parade, took place in New York City as a way to honor the American labor force.  In 1894, it became a federal holiday.

Ask your friends and family to share their definition of Labor Day and more than likely they will respond with something similar to, “it’s the official end of summer”; or you may get another popular answer, “it’s the kickoff to Football season”.

What does Labor Day mean to you?

  • An extra day to rest and recoup from all of your hard labor?
  • The end of summer?
  • Football season has begun?

Whatever it means to you… take some time to thank the people in your life that “labored”, or who currently “labor”, to provide for you.

I’d love to know how you celebrate Labor Day!

Labor Day-stamp

 

 

Special Announcements:

Don’t miss out… Registration now for our 5-8th grade programs that begin soon in the Oklahoma City and Edmond areas and classes are fulling up quickly.  We have a waiting list for some of the groups.
And yes, a deposit can still be made to secure their spot!
For more information, visit the registration page on the website:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/registration

etc…
The highest compliment you can give us is a referral to your friends and coworkers. Please share our registration and contact information with any families you think might be interested in participating in our program.

Each year we build on the previous year as we add to the curriculum.  We have many students who continue with us each season, from our Level 5 (5th grade) program through our Passport (High School) Program.  Our goal with the continuous exposure, and gentle reminders, of the courtesies we teach over consecutive years – is to assist you in raising well-mannered young adults.

  • Continued Exposure:  Just as continued exposure to athletics and school homework reaps rewards; continued exposure to the social skills taught in our program will provide lifelong lessons that will benefit your child throughout the classroom and into the boardroom.
  • Benefits and Rewards:  One of the biggest rewards of our students returning year after year, is the virtual ‘light bulb’ that seems to turn on and stay on; the students are really starting to get it and they are very proud of themselves.  Their confidence is building.  We’ve highlighted some of our graduating seniors on my blog at www.CareySueVega.com/?s=senior+spotlight

5-8th Grade Levels:  Tuition for the 2014-2015 season is $425.

  • 5-8th Grade registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/registration

9-12th Grade Levels:  Registration is open and will continue with the Early Bird discount into the fall.  Register early to avoid the waiting list.

  • 9-12th Grade registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I’m busy booking projects and working on presentations for clients and am already scheduling well into the Fall!  Thank you so much for your continued support for this part of my business!

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

 

As always, thanks for reading!
- Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: Disability Etiquette

For the past few years, I’ve worked with the Oklahoma Developmental Disabilities Council.  Every summer they put on an amazing camp, the Youth Leadership Forum.  I can’t say enough about the remarkable work Ann, Jen, and their team do for our state!

The Youth Leadership Forum is always one of my favorite events during the year, and I always feel like I end up learning more from the students than I think they learn from me!

Here are a few things about Disability Etiquette that I think are important:

Don’t let fear keep you from getting to know people who have a disability.  Remember: a person with a disability is a person with feelings. Treat him or her with the same respect you wish to be treated.

You cannot always see a disability. If a person acts unusual or seems different, just be yourself.  Let common sense and friendship break down any barriers you may encounter.

Key Points of Disability Etiquette:

  • Don’t stare.  Staring is disrespectful and makes people feel uneasy.
  • Avoid asking personal questions about someone’s disability. If you must ask, be sensitive and show respect.
  • Be considerate of the extra time it might take for a person with a disability to do or say something.
  • Be polite and patient when offering assistance, and wait until your offer is accepted. Listen or ask for specific instructions.
  • Refer to a person’s disability only when necessary and appropriate.
  • Use people first language – refer to the individual first, then to his or her disability.  It is better to say “the person with a disability,” rather than “the disabled person.” Other examples of people first language are:  Uses a wheelchair; has cerebral palsy (CP) or other condition; person with Down syndrome; person with Autism; person with a mental or emotional disorder.
  • Don’t pet or distract a guide dog.  The dog is responsible for the owner’s safety and is always working.  It is not a pet.

One of the biggest lessons I have learned is to speak to the person with the disability, not just to the ones accompanying him or her.  It may take a little more time and effort in the exchange – but it will be well worth your time to focus on the individual.  Put yourself in their position, you would want the same courtesy extended to you – right?!

photo

 

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Manner Monday®: Manners at School and With Friends

Using your manners at school and with friends, and treating others with respect will go a long way.  Being polite and using good manners may even help to deter bullying according to Cindy Post Senning.  She says, “Boys who are gentlemen don’t bully and are less likely to be bullied.”  Yes, there’s a lot more to bullying, but I’m with her and think good manners could help to put a dent in the problem.

Here is the winning essay from one of our students from last season about using “Manners at School and With Friends”:

  1. Try to help people have a good day
  2. Include everybody who wants to be included, even if you don’t know them
  3. Treat others like you would want to be treated
  4. Listen while others are talking (teachers, friends, guest speakers, the principal, etc.)
  5. Turn your homework in on time
  6. Don’t be a distraction in class
  7. Try to make new/unpopular kids feel welcome
  8. Help those that need help
  9. NEVER bully anyone
  10. Get help if someone is being bullied

I think that’s a pretty smart kid who is on the right rode to becoming a nice (and polite) young man!

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Manner Monday®: Back To School

Summer is over and it’s back-to-school time for the kiddos.

Please take a few minutes to remind the young people in your life how important it is to be aware of their surroundings and how easy it can be to help make the shy, or new, person feel more comfortable; not only during these first few weeks of school, but anytime during the year.  It’s amazing how the simple and easy act of eye contact, a smile, a sincere compliment or kind word can go a long way in making someone feel a bit more comfortable and confident.

They may even end up making a new “best friend”.

Back to School

 

Special Announcements:

Don’t miss out… Registration now for our 5-8th grade programs that begin soon in the Oklahoma City and Edmond areas and classes are fulling up quickly.
We have a waiting list for some of the groups.
And yes, a deposit can still be made to secure their spot!
For more information, visit the registration page on the website:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/registration

etc…
The highest compliment you can give us is a referral to your friends and coworkers. Please share our registration and contact information with any families you think might be interested in participating in our program.

Each year we build on the previous year as we add to the curriculum.  We have many students who continue with us each season, from our Level 5 (5th grade) program through our Passport (High School) Program.  Our goal with the continuous exposure, and gentle reminders, of the courtesies we teach over consecutive years – is to assist you in raising well-mannered young adults.

  • Continued Exposure:  Just as continued exposure to athletics and school homework reaps rewards; continued exposure to the social skills taught in our program will provide lifelong lessons that will benefit your child throughout the classroom and into the boardroom.
  • Benefits and Rewards:  One of the biggest rewards of our students returning year after year, is the virtual ‘light bulb’ that seems to turn on and stay on; the students are really starting to get it and they are very proud of themselves.  Their confidence is building.  We’ve highlighted some of our graduating seniors on my blog at www.CareySueVega.com/?s=senior+spotlight

5-8th Grade Levels:  Tuition for the 2014-2015 season is $425.

  • 5-8th Grade registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/registration

9-12th Grade Levels:  Registration is open and will continue with the Early Bird discount into the fall.  Register early to avoid the waiting list.

  • 9-12th Grade registration online via:  https://www.expeditionsinetiquette.com/passport-high-school-registration

 

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I’m busy booking projects and working on presentations for clients and am scheduling well into the Fall!  Thank you so much for your continued support for this part of my business!

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!

- Carey Sue

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