Manner Monday®: Don’t let this Virus infect your office!

You provide hand sanitizer at every door and soap in all of the restrooms. You encourage employees to work out and to stay healthy. You work hard to keep employees healthy.

But unfortunately there is another virus that is spreading, and if it goes untreated, it too can hurt your bottom line… The Incivility Virus.

A recent University of Florida study found that mistreated people are also more likely to feel as if others are treating them rudely. They then respond with more rudeness, passing on negative emotions like a virus.

According to Trevor Foulk, the study’s lead author, “Rudeness has an incredibly powerful negative effect on the workplace.” The study was published recently in the Journal of Applied Psychology.

Just like secondhand smoke from cigarettes, the study found that disrespect also has harmful side effects. Participants who watched a video of an impolite workplace interaction and then answered an email from a fictitious customer were more likely to be discourteous in their responses than people who watched a video of a polite interaction.

“That tells us that rudeness will flavor the way you interpret ambiguous cues,” Foulk said.

Workplace Incivility can rear its ugly head in many places; there are three basic types:

  • Interpersonal – This might happen when someone doesn’t say thank you after you did something nice for them.
  • Cyber Incivility – sending time sensitive information without giving the recipient a heads up. Not responding to emails. Using abrupt or curt verbiage in emails that leave the receiver questioning the tone of delivery. Without tone of voice, there is unfortunately room for interpretation, and we may end up seeing the sender as being rude.
  • Victimless – this is the ‘leave it for someone else to do’ syndrome. Leaving the coffee pot empty, leaving a paper jam in the copier without trying to fix it or report it, throwing trash ‘close’ the receptacle and not picking it up to put it in the trashcan. Victimless incivility does not have an instant impact on others, but it definitely violates norms and expectations for courtesy.

Civility costs nothing but goes a long way in helping to keep employee moral healthy, and boost your bottom line. Here are a few tips to help cultivate civility in your office:

  • Lead by Example. Management has to be onboard and they have to model civility at all times. If employees see their boss being disrespectful, it sets an underlying tone that the behavior is acceptable.
  • Have a discussion during staff meeting. Have the staff establish the norms and expectations so that everyone is onboard and understands what is expected.
  • No one gets a hall pass. Put your foot down; stop it in its place, especially any recurring offenders. Everyone plays be the same rules, even your favorite ‘rock star’ on the team. If the other team members see that you gave Betty a hall pass because she’s the top salesman – that will only help to perpetuate the incivility virus.
  • ‘Don’t let crazy in the door.’ I heard that phrase one time from Dave Ramsey and I’ve thought about it many times since. Do your due diligence during the interview process. Take the potential new hire out to eat with their significant other and watch closely how they treat that person. Pay attention to how they interact with the wait staff. It’s much easier to find out before you hire someone if they’re disrespectful than after you’ve brought them ‘in the door’.

Continuing Education is a good thing, and Civility Training will help to keep the incivility virus at bay in your office. Please email or call to talk more about how I can offer beneficial training to your team.

Click to Tweet: Civility costs nothing but goes a long way in helping to keep employee moral healthy, and boost your bottom line. http://bit.ly/Incivility

Do you know someone who would benefit from this post?  If so, please share it with them and encourage them to sign up to receive Manner Monday?  I would appreciate it!  And if you’re new to Manner Monday, I’d love for you to take a minute to learn more about why I started it. You can click here to read my very first post (five years ago – yowzer) that tells all about it.

Do you have a ‘manner’ or question you would like to see covered in a post?  Feel free to send me your thoughts, I would love to hear from you.

As always – Thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

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Back to ‘Business’ School for Adults; are YOU ready for a great Continuing Education opportunity? The Executive Success Series begins in September.  Research shows that 85 percent of success in the business world hinges on your soft skills, and only 15 percent on your technical skills. Yet many people do not take the time to invest in the most critical part of their professional training, the crucial social skills that enhance your ability to communicate, negotiate, and lead which helps you build relationships and close deals. Are you ready to invest in your 85 percent?
Click here to register now, space is limited!  Registration closes Monday, August 31.

Youth Programs – Start SOON, don’t miss out!
Registration is under way for our 5-12th grade programs that start soon.  Register today!

For more information click on the links below:
5-8th Grade Programs
9-12th Grade Programs
General Information
www.ExpeditionsInEtiquette.com

Did you know we have products available?
We have a few of styles and designs of personalized youth stationery available.  We also have darling place mats that help the little ones in your life get a jump-start on their table manners and make dining more fun.  Here is the link to the shop.

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Manner Monday®: #FamilyFunDay

We’ve heard from so many people who’ve paved the parenting path before us, talk about how we need to enjoy our time with our son as it goes by fast and before we know it, he’ll be grown up. So we’ve made a conscious effort to take advantage of our weekends together. We don’t always get to do fun family things every weekend, but we sure try as often as we can; and when we do, we call our little adventures #FamilyFunDay.

Quite often we get follow up questions from friends who have seen our posts on social media. They want to know what we did, where we went, and any tricks or tips we can share with them before they head out. Since we love sharing and we’re all about everyone else having fun too; I started a blog post series aptly titled #FamilyFunDay to document our adventures, tips, and ‘manners used’ for making the most of your day if you choose to take a similar adventure of your own.

For our son, we find outings are so much more successful when we have conversations BEFORE we get to where we’re going and give him an idea of what to expect. Even if we’ve never been there, we have a pretty good idea of some of the situations we may encounter and can prep him on manners to use and expected behavior. Does it always go as planned? No. Does he always use the manners we prep him with? No. Do we usually always have a great time and learn something along the way? Yes! So at the end of each post, I’ll also share ‘Manners Used’ which will hopefully serve as great talking points for you to discuss with your kiddos while you’re on the road.

So far, I have posts up about our adventures to:

I’ll be working to update the blog with some of our previous outings:

  • Beavers Bend
  • Stand Up Paddle Boarding
  • Foot Golf
  • Turkey Mountain (Hiking and Moutain Bike Riding)
  • Bluff Creek  (Walking, Hiking and Moutain Bike Riding)
  • Stanley Draper  (Hiking and Moutain Bike Riding)

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We’d love to hear recommendations from you for our next #FamilyFunDay Adventure.

If you liked this post, would you mind sharing it with someone else you think might enjoy it and encourage them to sign up to receive Manner Monday?  I would appreciate it!  And if you’re new to Manner Monday, I’d love for you to take a minute to learn more about why I started it. You can click here to read my very first post (five years ago – yowzer) that tells all about it.

Do you have a ‘manner’ or question you would like to see covered in a post?  Feel free to send me your thoughts, I would love to hear from you.

As always – Thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

Click to Tweet: Catch #FamilyFunDay blog posts with tips, and ‘manners used’ for making the most of your day exploring. http://bit.ly/MMFamilyFunDay

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Back to ‘Business’ School for Adults; are YOU ready for a great Continuing Education opportunity? The Executive Success Series begins in September.  Research shows that 85 percent of success in the business world hinges on your soft skills, and only 15 percent on your technical skills. Yet many people do not take the time to invest in the most critical part of their professional training, the crucial social skills that enhance your ability to communicate, negotiate, and lead which helps you build relationships and close deals. Are you ready to invest in your 85 percent?
Click here to register now, space is limited!  Registration closes Monday, August 31.

Youth Programs – Start SOON, don’t miss out!
Registration is under way for our 5-12th grade programs that start soon.  Register today!

For more information click on the links below:
5-8th Grade Programs
9-12th Grade Programs
General Information
www.ExpeditionsInEtiquette.com

Did you know we have products available?
We have a few of styles and designs of personalized youth stationery available.  We also have darling place mats that help the little ones in your life get a jump-start on their table manners and make dining more fun.  Here is the link to the shop.

 

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#FamilyFunDay: Ft. Sill and LETRA

The #FamilyFunDay series is an opportunity for us to share our adventures, tips, and ‘manners used’ for making the most of your day if you choose to take a similar adventure of your own.

Ft. Sill and Lake Elmer Thomas Recreational Area (LETRA) are in Lawton, which is about an hour and a half drive South from Oklahoma City.

This #FamilyFunDay adventure was prompted after our recent trip to Mt. Scott. From the top of Mt. Scott the Cub of course spotted the water slides and beach area at LETRA … adding that to our list of to-do’s.

To gain access to the base, you need to stop at the visitors center by the main gate off Sheridan. You will need a drivers license for all of the adults in your group and fill out a visitors form. After a background check, you will be issued your visitors pass for the day.

We were pleasantly surprised by everything on base that awaited us.  Our first stop was at the museum.

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The Cub was in heaven to say the least.  The Musuem was closed (we were there on a Sunday) but the outside housed an endless supply of

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Army tanks,

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missile launchers,

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and more.

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We spent a good 45 minutes walking around and climbing on everything.

The architecture of many of the buildings and houses on base was amazing. Quite a bit of Spanish Colonial designs with tile roofs. You can see some of the homes in the background of the pictures above.

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We then headed out in search of LETRA; but found another detour on the way – Geronimo’s gravesite. We had to go check that out!

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There are numerous playgrounds that we made pit stops at as well. Good thing we packed a picnic lunch again. If you don’t bring your lunch, the base has plenty of options available, close to the main gate, such as Subway, Burger King, and Church’s Chicken.

Back on track and headed to the ‘beach’, we found our destination with more fun to offer. Miniature Golf, Kayaking, and Paddle Boats. They also have bass and pontoon boats available to rent.

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After a quick round of miniature golf, we cooled down at the water slides and the beach.

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The beach area was quite enjoyable. They have a nice bathhouse with restrooms and showers.  The water was somewhat clear and the view of Mt. Scott provided a nice backdrop and a few shaded areas to get some temporary relief from the sun.

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The watersports are only open during the summer between Memorial and Labor Days.

They also have archery and paintball rentals. Those, we were told, are available year round weather permitting.

Rental Cabins are available too. Looks like we’ll be checking into those for a weekend of Family Fun Days, archery and paintball.

Manners Used: (great talking points to share with your kiddos as you head out on your adventure.)

  • Respect for authority and for military personnel. You will have contact with gate attendants, and other military personnel as you’re on an active U.S. Army base.
  • Following the rules at all times; speed limits, no swimming areas, non access areas.
  • Eye contact, please and thank you.
  • Reverance for the deceased as you walk through the cemetery to see Geronimo’s grave.
  • and of course car ride manners for the 2.5 hour outing (5 hours round trip) (Here’s an idea to help ward off the ‘are we there yet?’ questions.)

This will be another ‘do over’ destination.  There is so much to do in this area, we’re thinking a weekend getaway is in order!

We would love to hear if you do, please leave us a comment and let us know about your #FamilyFunDay Adventure.

– Carey Sue

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#FamilyFunDay: Mt. Scott and Medicine Park

The #FamilyFunDay series is an opportunity for us to share our adventures, tips, and ‘manners used’ for making the most of your day if you choose to take a similar adventure of your own.

Mt. Scott and Medicine Park are about a 1.5 hour drive from Oklahoma City.

We headed straight to Medicine Park to drive through ‘town’ and check it out before heading to the ‘mountain’ – yes, I think that’s just fun to say since we live in Oklahoma, ‘where the wind comes sweeping down the plains’.

Medicine Park is a fun little tourist town that reminded me of Eureka Springs Main Street (on a much, MUCH smaller scale). The summer draw is the old fashioned ‘bath lake’ and ‘swimming hole’. They have a number a restaurants to choose from but we were planning to head to the neighboring town of Meers (FYI, it’s not a ‘town’ it’s just a building) for their famous burgers. More on that in a bit.

We then headed up Mt. Scott. And in the words of our 9 year old the the ‘mountain’ is ‘perfect training ground for American Ninja Warrior’. And off he went climbing, jumping, crawling, and hopping from rock to rock. It was pretty cool. Lots of hiking opportunities in the area. The next time we go, the Hub and Cub plan to take their mountain bikes.

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On the way to Meers we drove through the Wichita Mountains Wildlife Refuge. We saw buffalo and prarie dogs and stopped at the visitors center to learn a bit more about camping in the area.
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Now we were getting hungry so we decided to go ‘grab’ our Meers burger. For starters, we should have figured it out when we asked about directions, everyone just said, ‘oh, you’ll find it’ with a smile on their face. What they forgot to tell us is to make sure you bring plenty of cash. They don’t take credit cards or checks. Cash only! They do conveniently though have an ATM in the lobby. The tab for the three of us was around $50. Yes, they’re proud of their ‘Longhorn’ beef burgers and their homemade ice cream and peach cobbler. I also had to try their version of fried pickles ‘frickles’, and YES, they were delish! All in all it was good grub, just not sure when we’ll be ready to spend 1.5 hours for the experience again.  Apparently there is ALWAYS a wait to get in.  We arrived around 2pm and still had to wait for a table – so if you’re ‘starving’, be forewarned that it might be awhile before you see food.

After our yummy lunch, we headed to the swimming hole to cool off.  And…you’ll need cash again friends; $2 per person to swim. There was a small community restroom on the Main Street where we were able to change into our swimsuits.

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Manners Used: (great talking points to share with your kiddos as you head out on your adventure.)

  • Respect for Nature.  As cool as the round cobblestone rocks are in Medicine Park, you can’t take them home with you for your budding rock collection.
  • Patience while waiting in line for your table at Meers.
  • Polite Conversation skills for talking to your table mates (and not your technology) while waiting for your food at Meers.
  • and of course car ride manners for the 2.5 hour outing (5 hours round trip) (Here’s an idea to help ward off the ‘are we there yet?’ questions.)

We definitely plan on a return trip to this area so we can spend more time, we loved it!  We noticed rental houses on the river overlooking the swimming hole.  Definitely need to check into that more.  Click here for the rental home website someone told us about.

We would love to hear if you do, please leave us a comment and let us know about your #FamilyFunDay Adventure.

– Carey Sue

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Manner Monday®: Back to School

Summer is over and it’s back-to-school time for the kiddos.

Please take a few minutes to remind the young people in your life how important it is to be aware of their surroundings and how easy it can be to help make the shy, or new, person feel more comfortable; not only during these first few weeks of school, but anytime during the year.  It’s amazing how the simple and easy act of eye contact, a smile, a sincere compliment or kind word can go a long way in making someone feel a bit more comfortable, confident, and welcomed.

They may even end up making a new “best friend”.

Click to Tweet: The simple act of eye contact, a smile, a sincere compliment or kind word go a long way in making someone feel welcomed. http://bit.ly/mmB2S

Speaking of Back to School; are YOU ready for a great Continuing Education opportunity? The Executive Success Series begins in September.  Research shows that 85 percent of success in the business world hinges on your soft skills, and only 15 percent on your technical skills. Yet many people do not take the time to invest in the most critical part of their professional training, the crucial social skills that enhance your ability to communicate, negotiate, and lead which helps you build relationships and close deals. Are you ready to invest in your 85 percent?
Click here to register now, space is limited!  Registration closes Monday, August 31.

If you liked this post, would you mind sharing it with someone else you think might enjoy it and encourage them to sign up to receive Manner Monday?  I would appreciate it!  And if you’re new to Manner Monday, I’d love for you to take a minute to learn more about why I started it. You can click here to read my very first post (five years ago – yowzer) that tells all about it.

Do you have a ‘manner’ or question you would like to see covered in a post?  Feel free to send me your thoughts, I would love to hear from you.

Youth Programs – Start SOON, don’t miss out!
Registration is under way for our 5-12th grade programs that start soon.  Register today!

For more information click on the links below:
5-8th Grade Programs
9-12th Grade Programs
General Information
www.ExpeditionsInEtiquette.com

Did you know we have products available?
We have a few of styles and designs of personalized youth stationery available.  We also have darling place mats that help the little ones in your life get a jump-start on their table manners and make dining more fun.  Here is the link to the shop.

As always – Thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

Back to School

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Manner Monday®: ‘Should I wear Pantyhose?’

Pantyhose, to be or not to be – that is the question… that continually comes up when I’m speaking to Millenials. During a recent presentation, one of the young ladies asked about wearing pantyhose, aka ‘hosiery’, ‘stockings’ to an interview and did I recommend them.

I believe instead of being a rule of Etiquette or Protocol, it has evolved into something much more complicated. 
I personally think it boils down to a number of things:

  1. Before the interview, do some research on the company culture. If the atmosphere is conservative and traditional, then bust out the hose. If the organization is more casual and a bit on the trendy side, I’d say bare legs would be acceptable.
  2. Generational issues; if your Grandmother is a Traditionalist, she would not even consider stepping out in public with bare legs. Stockings are a must for her wardrobe! 
 So if you’ll be with a more ‘mature’ (meaning older) group, then out of respect I would don hosiery.
  3. Are your legs able to stand on their own without the gentle camouflage or support that stockings provide?
  4. Time of year – will your legs have goose bumps and be pasty … Summer – not a problem. Winter, bleh – opt for hosiery.
  5. Flat out preference – Some people feel more confident WITH stockings, other people can’t stand them.

My answer to her in the end was to do a bit of research. As she’s preparing for her interview and researching the company, go ahead and find out what the company culture is when it comes to dress code; and let that be her guide. And if there is any question, it’s best to err on the safe side and slip on some stockings.

After that, I suggested that all of the ladies search the Internet for pictures of the Duchess of Cambridge, Kate Middleton! (Spoiler alert, she often wears hosiery!) I love her sense of style. She’s a great role model for young professional women in so many ways. And I love how she doesn’t have to break the bank to look good. You can easily find Kate’s preferred choice of pantyhose by googling the topic. In case you’re curious, they run about $9US. Sensible, smart and fashionable – she’s a great role model to follow for clothing cues.

Click to Tweet: Kate Middleton is a great role model for professional women looking for clothing cues! #MannerMonday http://bit.ly/ProfDressHosiery

If you found this post helpful, would you mind sharing it with someone else you think might enjoy it and encourage them to sign up to receive Manner Monday?  I would appreciate it!  And if you’re new to Manner Monday, I’d love for you to take a minute to learn more about why I started it. You can click here to read my very first post (five years ago – yowzer) that tells all about it.

Do you have a ‘manner’ or question you would like to see covered in a post?  Feel free to send me your thoughts, I would love to hear from you.

As always – Thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

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On another note…

Business Etiquette Training Opportunity 
Executive Success Series
Research shows that 85 percent of success in the business world hinges on your soft skills, and only 15 percent on your technical skills. Yet many people do not take the time to invest in the most critical part of their professional training, the crucial social skills that enhance your ability to communicate, negotiate, and lead which helps you build relationships and close deals. Are you ready to invest in your 85 percent?
Click here to register now, space is limited!
Registration closes Monday, August 31.

Youth Programs
Registration is under way for our 5-12th grade programs that start soon.  Don’t miss out – register today!

For more information click on the links below:
5-8th Grade Programs
9-12th Grade Programs
General Information
www.ExpeditionsInEtiquette.com

Did you know we have products available?
We have a few of styles and designs of personalized youth stationery available.  We also have darling place mats that help the little ones in your life get a jump-start on their table manners and make dining more fun.  Here is the link to the shop.

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Manner Monday®: What’s the best way to enter my supervisor’s office?

During the InternOKC event sponsored by the Oklahoma City Chamber I spoke at recently, an intern asked a great question that I thought would be a good topic for Manner Monday.

Q – At work, what’s the best way to enter my supervisor’s office if I need to ask her something? Should I knock, say hello, or just walk on in if I need to speak to them? – Bridget

A – I would start by suggesting you have a conversation with your supervisor and ask her; does she prefer you interrupt when you have questions, or should you make a list and save questions for a specific time during the day. If they rather not to be interrupted, what do they prefer you do if you’re stuck and need their advice to advance on your task at hand. Should you put that task aside and go to a different one, or interrupt them? Having that conversation to establish ground rules will help you to know how best to proceed.

For other coworkers, it’s a bit more of a challenge as you’re not going to have that same conversation with every person in the office. In the world of business, we are all well aware of different ‘interruptions’ during our day.  They consist of everything from that little email ‘chime’ on our digital device, to telephones ringing (or vibrating), and coworkers stopping by for a chat.

A few years ago, my son was in the middle of some serious Lego construction.  He was humming and singing and having a grand time.  In my efforts to keep everyone ‘on schedule’, I was getting ready to start chatting with him to share what was on our ‘to-do’ list for the rest of the day.  Something stopped me in my tracks and I’m so glad it did… I decided my ‘interruption’ could wait, as it was obvious he was focused on the project in front of him.  He ended up working diligently for about 30 more minutes on his creation.  If I had interrupted him, I doubt the creation would have seen the light of day.

No matter the office environment, it seems when we need something, or just want to chat, it’s a matter of urgency and whatever our peers are working on at the time should take second priority. And most of us have the need to socialize, whether it is for brainstorming or just taking a much-needed break.  So often though, we don’t think about our colleagues and the impact it makes on them:  ‘are we interrupting’, ‘are they on a deadline and we’ve disrupted their thought patterns?’

To help answer Bridget’s question, here are some time-tested tips to keep in mind for treating all working spaces (office, cubicle, reception desk, etc.) with respect, creating a more pleasant working environment for everyone:

  • Eye Contact and Body Language speak volumes.  Did your co-worker make eye contact with you and does their body language say come on in?  Or are they politely sayingDoNotDisturb ‘Do Not Disturb’ by their lack of eye contact or body language.  Less eye contact should mean fewer interruptions.
  • If your colleague does not make eye contact and has their head buried, don’t interrupt.  Make a note of what you wanted to ask and come back later. When you do return,
    don’t immediately barge in with ‘I need’; ask if they finished their project.  And maybe even offer, how can you help them?
  • In office environments with cubicles, ‘prairie dogging’ has taken on a meaning of it’s own.  Don’t pop up and peep over the top of your cubicle wall and continue to carry on a conversation with someone.  Act as if the cubicle is an office with walls, and a ceiling, and treat it as such.

Sometimes interruptions can’t be avoided, and that’s understandable. But if they can be kept to a minimum, we’re doing our part to create an office atmosphere that is enjoyable for everyone.

If you found this post helpful, would you mind sharing it with someone else you think might enjoy it and encourage them to sign up to receive Manner Monday?  I would appreciate it! If you’re new to Manner Monday, I’d love for you to take a minute to learn more about why I started it. You can click here to read my very first post (five years ago – yowzer) that tells all about it.

Do you have a ‘manner’ or questions you would like to see covered on Manner Monday?  Feel free to send me your thoughts, I would love to hear from you.

As always – Thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

Click to Tweet: Did your co-worker make eye contact, or is their body language politely saying ‘Do Not Disturb’? #MannerMonday http://bit.ly/supsoff

 

On another note…

Did you know we have products available?
We have a few of styles and designs of personalized youth stationery available.  We also have darling place mats that help the little ones in your life get a jump-start on their table manners and make dining more fun.  Here is the link to the shop.

Business Etiquette Training Opportunity 
Executive Success Series
Research shows that 85 percent of success in the business world hinges on your soft skills, and only 15 percent on your technical skills. Yet many people do not take the time to invest in the most critical part of their professional training, the crucial social skills that enhance your ability to communicate, negotiate, and lead which helps you build relationships and close deals. Are you ready to invest in your 85 percent?
Click here to register now, space is limited!

Youth Programs
Registration is under way for our 5-12th grade programs that start soon.  Don’t miss out – register today!

For more information click on the links below:
5-8th Grade Programs
9-12th Grade Programs
General Information
www.ExpeditionsInEtiquette.com

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Manner Monday®: Finding Time, #30ThanksIn30Days

During a recent Trade Show Booth training I developed for a company that participates in a wide variety of shows throughout the year; the question arose about ‘finding time’ to write business related thank-you notes which prompted me to ‘take a look in the mirror’!

We’re all busy, I totally get it!  I have a list (a growing list) of thank-you notes to write.  For adults, I really think it boils down to psychology… as children we were expected to write thank you notes for gifts; it was a duty, it was an obligation.  If we could change our thinking and look at the art of the handwritten note as an opportunity to show true gratitude, I think it might help us to change gears and get some momentum going behind writing those notes.  Taking just a few minutes out of our day to share with someone how thankful we are for them; yes, it takes time, but think about how it makes the recipient who receives the note feel.  Aren’t they worth our time?

I’ve written about it here, here, and here, and have even shared 4 easy steps to make writing notes a breeze.  My son even gets it.  But yet, am I great at it?  Nope.  I definitely have room to grow in this category!  After the discussion that took place during the training, I decided I need some motivation myself to get working on that growing list of gratitude I’ve been ‘intending’ to tackle.  So I’m going to set a goal, I’m going to start with 30 notes over the next 30 days.  Are you interested, would you like to join me?  Together, lets figure out how to carve out just a few minutes from our day to put pen to paper and show thanks. Hop over to the Facebook page, Twitter, Instagram, Periscope (wherever you want) and put it out there, I’m using the hashtag #30ThanksIn30Days to get the conversation started and to help keep me accountable.  So if you see me over the next 30 days, please don’t hesitate to ask me how it’s going!

Click to Tweet:  Who’s with me? Let’s do this, #30ThanksIn30Days. #ThankYouNotes #MannerMonday http://bit.ly/30ThanksIn30Days

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As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

 

On another note…

Business Etiquette Training Opportunity –
Executive Success Series
Research shows that 85 percent of success in the business world hinges on your soft skills, and only 15 percent on your technical skills. Yet many people do not take the time to invest in the most critical part of their professional training, the crucial social skills that enhance your ability to communicate, negotiate, and lead which helps you build relationships and close deals. Are you ready to invest in your 85 percent?
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Manner Monday: Post Cards

With the Fourth of July fast approaching, many people in the States will be heading out for family vacation.  My friend and fellow Etiquette Expert Mindy Lockard, aka The Gracious Girl, was gracious enough to write a previous post about the Power of Post Cards.  Her words were such an inspiration for us that every time we travel, we try to send a few!

In case you missed it, click here to catch her guest post.

Postcards

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: Wedding Hashtag Etiquette Do’s and Don’ts

For brides planning their big day, turning to wedding etiquette books becomes routine. Many brides have worn the pages thin making sure they have every attention to detail covered. One of the most recent items on their checklist though can’t be found in those books. Brides today are trying to figure out how to handle the social media of their wedding.

To dig deeper into the topic, Channel 4 did a segment and asked me to weigh in on ‘Wedding Day Digital Do’s and Don’ts’.

Here are the highlights:

Q – Does a bride need to be specific and share her social media do’s and don’ts with her guests?

A – Yes, the Bride and Groom can be specific; it’s their big day.  They’ve dreamed about this day for a long time and they want it to be just right.

Today, smartphones are everywhere, we think they’re as critical as the air we breathe and snapping pictures has become second nature. As a wedding guest, we need to pause and take note of what the bride and groom want.

And if the couple prefers to have a social media free wedding, then we need to honor their request. Leading up to the big day, you can verbally tell your friends that this will be a social media free event so they’re prepared.

Q – If the Bride chooses to go with a Social Media event, how can guests help provide a unique perspective on the day?

A – Absolutely. Social Media Savvy couples love to enlist the help of friends and family. They use hashtags where they can easily gather all of those personal photos after the event.

If you are encouraging your guests to share your big day on social media, you will want to share the hashtag you create with them. There are some really fun and creative ways to get your message out to guests.

  • List it in the program
  • Place the hashtag in a picture frame and position them around the venue; at the registration table, food tables, bar, etc.
  • The DJ can incorporate it into his visuals or even share it verbally throughout the night reminding guests to snap away.

I would refrain from putting any social media or hashtag info into the invitation itself. The social media ‘instructions’ can wait.

Q – And shouldn’t there be a happy balance between the event and showcasing it to the world?

A – Yes, you definitely want to be careful. Don’t go overboard and try to take over the professional photographers job.

You want to be aware of where the professional photographer is and keep your phone out of his or her photos. I saw a beautiful picture of a newlywed couple on FB recently that a guest had captured. It had the photographer’s camera smack in the middle of the photo – so you know the professional shot also had the cell phone in the photo. Some brides might not care, but it’s still a nice gesture to be ‘aware’.

And of course don’t forget to put your phone down and enjoy the event. It’s hard to be in the moment when you’re trying craft the perfect post and caption! It’s their big day – not yours.

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Thanks for reading!!!
– Carey Sue

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