Manner Monday®: Texting and Dating Etiquette

Channel 4 recently asked me to help with a segment on Texting and Dating Etiquette. To see the segment, click on the video below.

Before the appearance, I put a question out on my FaceBook page asking for opinions, and wow – did I get responses! The question was:

“Is it ok to be asked out via text message?”
My response is, on a first date, absolutely not; down the road in the relationship, yes.
The majority of the others commenting on the post agreed, but few brought up the fact that generations change, and the times change. I totally agree and get that point, but I don’t think we’re completely there yet. By asking someone out either face-to-face, or verbally over the phone; that takes some guts. It shows that the date is important. And it sets the tone for the relationship.

Here are some other questions we covered during the segment:

What about using your smart-phone during the date?
If you know you may be expecting a call; if you’re a teen and you’re parents may check on you, or you’re a single mom with a sick kiddo at home – that’s totally understandable and expected. Tell your date, that you may need to take the call. Then if it happens, excuse yourself and be QUICK about it. Don’t leave your date hanging.

If you are looking up an answer to a question or showing them something that supplements your story – do so with caution and only if your date truly seems interested. You don’t want to bore him with funny cat videos all night – only to find out later he hates cats!

But definitely no texting or posting via social media during the date. That can wait until after.

What about taking pictures during the date? For some teens, if it isn’t on Instagram… it didn’t happen.
Don’t take a picture of your date unless they ask you to. You don’t want to start things off on the wrong foot by being self-centered and taking ‘selfies’ with your date right off the bat. Save those for down the road.

Focus on the date and the moment. You want your date to think they’re more important than how many likes your post is going to get.

Teens need to understand this important and basic rule of etiquette, as it will carry over with them in the business world. They need to understand that the person in front of them should receive 100% of their attention, not their phone and not their InstaGram likes.

We’ve all heard about someone who got digitally dumped. What are some other ways to wreck your reputation through texting?
First of all – do not break up via social media. If you’re mature enough to date – you’re mature enough to end the relationship verbally, not via text. That person you’ve been seeing deserves the common courtesy of a break up in person. That’s part of the process and that’s part of what comes with dating. And realize if the person is that big of a coward to break up with you electronically, you don’t want to be with them in the first place. Look at as they did you a favor and showed their real colors and saved you some headaches down the road.

Texting is black and white, no tone, and no voice to show inflection or empathy. Yes, teens use emojis to replicate those things, but in reality, sometimes we can’t read between the lines and we mistake a text for its intended purpose and we get our feathers ruffled.
If that happens,
– Don’t send long rambling texts asking why
– Don’t Machine Gun Text while you’re upset
– Wait until you are calm, then make an old-fashioned phone call so you can speak ‘in person’ to clear up the misunderstanding.

What if the relationship is over? What should you do with the angry texts or maybe even inappropriate pictures (yes it happens!) you received while the relationship was good?
As hard as it is, you need to let it go – Delete them and move on. Don’t dwell and drag things out. Delete them so you can move on. Period.

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Super Bowl Party Hostess Gifts

We’ve been invited to a Super Bowl party and I’ve been scratching my head trying to come up with something creative to take as a Hostess Gift.  She said the food is all taken care of, so that cuts out that option.  A nice bottle of wine is always a good idea.  But I’m feeling crafty and creative.

Thought I’d share what I came up with you since I searched online for ‘creative Super Bowl hostess gifts’ and didn’t’ find very many options.

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For the cups, I used my Silhouette machine to cut out his and her monograms from vinyl adhesive and placed them on a plastic wine cup for her and a rocks glass for him.

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Then my mother-in-law saw a new and upgraded version of the ‘wine charm’ recently so she whipped up a couple in each of the teams colors.

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For the presentation,I put them in a gift bag and tied ribbon and tulle in the teams colors on each side.

We’ll add a bottle of wine to it and we’re headed out the door to catch kick off!

I’d love to hear your ideas, please share in the comment section below!

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Manner Monday®: Finger Bowls

Finger Bowls are rarely seen today in a formal environment – but if you are are ever presented with this old-fashioned ritual, I want to make sure you know what to do.

Their purpose is to help diners clean their fingers after a course that may have been a little more ‘hands-on’, such as lobster, clams, or corn on the cob.

Let’s ‘dive in’ to the do’s and don’ts of the Finger Bowl:

  • Don’t use your spoon – it’s not soup!  It may look like a soup, but it’s just lukewarm water.  Often you will see flower petals floating (this is another giveaway that it’s not soup).
  • No Splashing.  Be gentle, we’re not at the water-park.  Gently dip fingertips, one hand at a time, into the bowl, using your napkin to dab them dry.
  • It’s not a bath. If you would like to gently dab your lips/mouth, do so discreetly – don’t proceed with a self-administered facial.
  • Clear the path.  Once you’re finished with your Finger Bowl, carefully pick it up along with the doily (the fancy white thing that was positioned underneath the bowl and on top of the service plate) and move them both to the left of your plate for the waiter to collect (your drinks and coffee cup will be on the right leaving no room on that side).  The empty plate that remains will now serve as a charger for your plated dessert.

Modern Version – Warm Wet Washcloths.  This is a popular variation that serves the same purpose. The same rules above still apply. Some restaurants provide warm washcloths before the meal is served, others offer them at the end of the meal.  Either way, it’s a nice touch of hospitality.

In other news….

Early Bird Registration for the 5-8th grade programs is openClick here to register.

  • Save $100 by registering now for a single season.
  • Or save $364 by taking advantage of the Multi-Season Discount.


Business Etiquette Training:  
Executive Presence Master Class Coming Soon 

In response to the many requests for Business Etiquette and Professionalism Training, I’m working on the final details for an ‘Executive Presence Master Class’ that will be announced soon.
Do you know of a young professional who could benefit from participation?
Classes are scheduled to begin March 10. … stay tuned…

In the meantime, Click Here to access the Business Section of the website.
Or please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

 

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

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Early Bird Registration is Open for 2015-2016

http://www.careysuevega.com/uncategorized/early-bird-registration-is-open-for-2015-2016 Three Big Announcements

  • Early Bird Registration (savings of $100 before March 1)
  • Multi-Season Discount (savings of $364 before March 1)
  • Executive Presence Master Class coming soon for adults

 

Friends and Family Early Bird Registration Discount is available
Registration Information for 5th-8th Grades for 2015-2016 Season

  • Early Bird Saves $100 = $347 (before March 1) (Regular Tuition = $447)
  • If you prefer to make payments, you can secure your space with a $100 deposit.

Click here to register now and take advantage of the Early Bird savings!

 

Multi-Season Discount
You’ve asked and we have listened!  We now offer a multi-sesason discount to families who would like to register a child for three consecutive years in the program.  As each season builds on the previous; maximum benefits are achieved by continued exposure for a minimum of three years (many students participate for 8 consecutive years).

  • Multi-Season Discount = $977 (before March 1) A savings of $364 off Regular Tuition.  (This is for one child, for three consecutive seasons.)

Click here to register now and take advantage of the Multi-Season Discount!

 

Executive Presence Master Class Coming Soon 
In response to the many requests for Business Etiquette and Professionalism Training, I’m working on the final details for an ‘Executive Presence Master Class’ that will be announced soon.  Classes are scheduled to begin March 10. … stay tuned…

In the meantime, Click Here to access the Business Section of the website.
Or please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

As always, thanks for reading!

– Carey Sue

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Manner Monday®: Martin Luther King, Jr.

Here are some words from previous MLK posts that I thought were worth repeating:

Martin Luther King (b1929), in 1964 became the youngest person to receive the Nobel Peace Prize.  The prize was awarded to him for his efforts and advancements to end racial segregation and discrimination, by way of civil disobedience and other nonviolent means.  That’s pretty good headway for a 35 year old.  We are all only left to wonder what he could have accomplished had he made it to his 40’s and beyond.

I’m thinking it’s pretty safe to say that one of the characteristics that led him to his power was one of respectfulness.  By treating everyone with the same respect we wish to be treated, we can strive to be respectful and civil towards others in all of our actions.  Sometimes we may fall short, but remembering one of his famous quotes, “The time is always right to do what is right,” may help us on our journey.

Taking a look at Dr. King’s famous “I have a dream speech”, the following line is pretty powerful (OK, I know the whole speech is powerful, but bear with me):

“I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.”

A person’s character is critical.  No matter how successful one gets in life, his or her character is one of the few things they will not be able to “out-source” to someone else to “increase the bottom line” or “make it happen”.

Take a few minutes today to visit with a young person in your life about “character” and how important it is everyday to consistently make smart choices and good decisions.  As we all know…the good, the bad and the ugly: those choices and decisions stick with you for a lifetime!

 

 

In other news….

Early Bird Registration for the 5-8th grade programs is open, Click here to register.

  • Save $100 by registering now for a single season.
  • Or save $364 by taking advantage of the Multi-Season Discount.

 

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events have begun!

  • Click Here to access more information and to access the Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online.

 

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Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops

Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, Click Here to access the Business Section of the website.  Or please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

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Manner Monday®: Hurt Feelings

My Aunt passed away last week.  She would always send an email after reading Manner Monday with a kind word of encouragement and a thoughtful comment about the post.  She was such an amazing lady with a kind, gentle spirit.  Never a harsh or unkind word – she always found the silver lining in everything!  In honor of Aunt Linda, I wanted to share one of her favorite posts.  She would often tell me how much she enjoyed this one:

Kindergarten is tough… on a parent!

Our 5 year-old came home from school the other day with “hurt feelings”.  One of the other kiddos told our son that his hair looked funny.  As a parent, the “mama bear” in me started to come out:  then I got to thinking… this is life.  As a part of life, we deal with “hurt feelings” on a regular basis… someone didn’t like our idea during a meeting; someone chose our competitor over us; someone said something to us that we didn’t “like” and we took it personal.  What I’ve found myself repeating lately to our 5 year old is “we can’t control what other people do or say, the only thing we can control is how we react ”.  It’s been a great reminder for me, as an adult; we may not like what we heard, and we may not be able to change what was said, the only thing we have control over is our reaction.

Tweetable: “We can’t control what other people do or say, the only thing we can control is how we react.”

She was one of my biggest cheerleaders and always encouraged me to keep doing what I’m doing.  Thanks for letting me share with you about my Aunt Linda!   I wish you could have known her.

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Manner Monday: Thank-You Notes

It’s that time of year… the Christmas presents have long been unwrapped, played with, and some – well, unfortunately they’ve already been forgotten about (sad but true).

After we returned home from visiting family over the holiday, it was time for our 8-year-old to dig in, get the pen and paper out, and write thank-you notes. I don’t know very many people who actually enjoy the process of writing thank-you notes… but I do know A LOT of people who really enjoy getting gifts! And like it or not, showing gratitude in the form of an old-fashioned handwritten thank-you note to gift givers is part of the process.

My husband and I are always working to instill gratitude and graciousness into our kiddo -we hear WAY too many stories about how ‘kids today are entitled’. Yes, we have a long row to hoe (he’s only 8), but we believe a thank-you note is a huge part of the process.

So after we finished the process this weekend, I decided to interview Billy to get his take on the topic. We hope you enjoy the interview.

 

 

Your Two Cents?  I’m getting more and more requests to offer Business Etiquette training for individuals and companies.  What would you like to know most about Business Etiquette and the strategy of navigating business lunches or networking events?  Would you like information or tools for your staff or team?  Or is there anything else you would like me to cover in 2015 to help you navigate business and social settings as an adult?

Will you please take a minute (I promise – it’s only one question) and fill out a short survey?
Click here to access the form.

I LOVE working with youth – but I also look forward to helping you grow and be the best you can be this year!

 

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In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon (really soon) – don’t miss out!

  • Click Here to access more information and to access the Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online.


Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops

Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, Click Here to access the Business Section of the website.  Or please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

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Passport (High School) Program Begins Soon!

We’re super excited about the Passport (High School) Program beginning soon!

Classes begin Friday, January 16, with our first outing to the Civic Center. Please register no later than January 8!

For more information and to register, please Click Here to visit the website.

High school begins soon

 

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Manner Monday®: How can I serve you better in 2015?

I’m getting more and more requests to offer Business Etiquette training for individuals and companies.  What would you like to know most about Business Etiquette and the strategy of navigating business lunches or networking events?  Would you like information or tools for your staff or team?  Or is there anything else you would like me to cover in 2015 to help you navigate business and social settings as an adult?

Will you please take a minute (I promise – it’s only one question) and fill out a short survey?
Click here to access the form.

I LOVE working with youth – but I also look forward to helping you grow and be the best you can be this year!

 

Important Note
I don’t like spam and I’m pretty sure you don’t either!!!

It’s the new year and I want to make sure you’re still interested in receiving information.  If you would like to continue receiving email updates from me (or if you would like to begin), please take a minute to verify and update your settings.

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Happy New Year!  

From our family to yours… We wish you and your family a Happy New Year and a Healthy and Prosperous 2015!  – Carey Sue, Ricardo, and Billy

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In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon (really soon) – don’t miss out!

  • Click Here to access more information and to access the Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online.


Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops

Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, Click Here to access the Business Section of the website.  Or please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or CareySue@CareySueVega.com

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

 

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

 

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Manner Monday®: Merry Christmas

From our family to yours… We wish you and your family a Merry Christmas and the Happiest of Holiday’s!

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As we all rush to wrap things up before slowing down to enjoy the Blessings of the Season we hope you are able to enjoy quality down time with friends or family during the Holidays!

Merry Christmas!

Carey Sue, Ricardo (and Billy)

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